My life is just wrong, well my boyfriend right now got in a car accident I been dealing with all his depression and his doctors appointments for a year, he loves me but I am depressed I really don’t love him as much as I did before, he has changed a lot especially his mood he got to the point of screaming at me now. My ex-boyfriend has been calling me for the last 3 days and am really happy because he really is worried about me and I think I just love him a lot, and he has proved it what kind of guy waits for a girl for like a year. Am so confused I don’t know what to do.. If I leave my boyfriend right now it’s going to look bad but I am not happy with him anymore!! And my ex is just doing everything possible to get with me but i am confused. There’s a lot of pressure in the relationship I am in right now and I really need a change…. So what do you think I should do from you’re point of view??? Please answer am so desperate????
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2006-09-01 04:27:31 · 11 answers · asked by *********** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP !!! You are at a really crazy mixed up time in your life.
You are scared of what the future holds & you want to do right by everybody and keep everyone happy. You cannot do this.
You need some time to yourself away from relationships... That time may be a couple of weeks or a couple of months or maybe longer - you will know yourself when its right - but at this moment you need some YOU time where you only need to be concerned with yourself. You are not truly in love with your current partner - LEAVE HIM. You need to do this or you will go nuts. Your ex is pressuring you - DONT LET HIM. Sure, he is being nice - thats because he wants/desires you but if he was right you would never have made him your ex in the first place. He may have changed but wait till you are out of this relationship and single to find out rather than finding out you have made another huge mistake and possibly end up breaking his heart again...
Give yourself some space. If you got family go stay with them for a bit - be free and live a little - these past few months sound like they have been hell. Time to make the next few yours and deal with things from an emotional high rather than a low.
I feel for you - Good Luck & HUGZ !
2006-09-01 04:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are going to stay with someone you don't like anymore because he is down and it will look bad if you break up with him now?
Did your ex enter the picture magically or did you call him. If you called him, then you might as well break up now, because you already made the decision.
If the ex called you, I think you should think about it more before jumping back into an old bed you already left.
2006-09-01 04:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by patweb01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave the boyfriend and go back to the ex. Is it worth being miserable to keep from looking bad? If you keep this up, then you may end up cheating. It's better to let the other one go first. He'll be hurt, but he needs more help right now than you are emotionally able to give. There is nothing wrong with that.
2006-09-01 04:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, theres a reason why your ex became your ex, isnt there?
Right now hes putting all his efforts into getting you back. Once you are, do you really think its all gonna continue?
Aside from your ex, are you really unhappy with your current bf? If you are and you've stood by him after his accident for a year, you shouldnt stay out of obligation.
2006-09-01 04:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont love the person you are with then you dont have to be with him ...car accident or not.
As for the ex, think about why you aren't together in the first place. Have things changed? If they haven't then you really dont need your ex either. And remember you dont HAVE to be with either one. It's ok to be single.
Good luck.
2006-09-01 04:31:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such things happens normally usually in love.no one can understand your emotions better than yourself.you are best judge of yourself.so my sincere advice to you,just stay away from him for some days,then you will feel the real feeling for your friend.if you start missing him ,at a point when you would think you can not live without him,just go back to him.if you do not experience any such feelings,just leave him.remember separation strength love,it also strength separation
2006-09-01 04:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by yours h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell ur boyfriend that u dont love him as much as u did cause he has changed a lot and it scares u that he will scream @ u or hit u or some thing just tell him if he doesnt get it just pack ur bags and walk out the door
2006-09-01 04:32:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go with your ex. he is your ex for a reason. You can't do that. just be by yourself.
2006-09-01 04:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by roy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i vote that you do what is gonna make u happy stop worrying about what others think etc.
2006-09-01 05:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by matt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it
2006-09-01 04:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋