My ex dumped me while I was deployed in iraq (im still there) because of the lack of attention I showed while we were together. I realize what I did wrong, and wont repeat it. How do I get her to believe that?
2006-09-01 04:19:35 · 27 answers · asked by Ryan Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stand outside of her house holding a boom box over your head playing "shock the monkey" by peter gabriel.
2006-09-01 04:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a clear action plan to 'sell' to her.
Firstly, can you articulate WHY you want her back? Think about the things you love about her? The moments that make you smile. The little things she does that make you realise how much you appreciate her.
Don't think you can remember all that, so please write it down.
Secondly, think about the things she complained to you about, and consider how you will resolve those questions. (For example, if she says you never call on time, write down that you are committing to calling on time)
Thirdly, call her up and then explain to her why you still love her and want her back (ie. read all the stuff you earlier wrote), then impress upon her how committed you are to making changes in your life.
Note, please remember you need to be realistic as well, how mcuh of your life is really yours to do with as you please, since you are in Iraq and I suppose in a serious political situation? Perhaps you could remind her that you love her and you can't show her how much right now because of your current situation. And that once you're home, you're going to treat her like a princess, give her all the loving she needs, etc.
2006-09-01 11:28:31 · answer #2 · answered by JoseK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason why your situation is more sensitive is because you are deployed.
Other than that, you are guilty for not making your partner happy. For whatever reason....you are guilty and she realized this fact more so now that you are not with her everyday. It would be peachy and beautiful if she could wait until you are home and see if times have changed...then make her decision.
FYI: It's harder on her if you keep trying. It's harder on you if you keep trying. Continue to write her letters, if you don't ..start. If she doesn't respond stop writing, but tell her good bye. Don't push a broken heart to pieces.
2006-09-01 11:46:25 · answer #3 · answered by Her Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she doesn't have the sense to realize that you were busy defending our country and right to freedom, and couldn't hold her hand all the time well then she doesn't deserve you. But if you want her back...I would suggest showing her not telling her. Romance her, wine and dine her. Go back to the frame of mind that got you two together in the first place.
2006-09-01 11:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh hon...sorry...(truly) But sometimes things can't be won back or fixed. A heart is normally one of them. Gonna have to move on darlin'. It won't work in the long run, even if you can convince her momentarily to give you another chance...ldon't waste your time and risk getting hurt AGAIN..let it go. (but learn from this and the next relationship will be better)
2006-09-01 11:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO? I mean geez, she dumps you while you're deployed in Iraq fighting for your country? You deserve better..and don't you DARE beat yourself up about this - this is NOT your fault...
Can you tell this makes me just a wee bit pissy. I mean really - let her go and find a woman who appreciates you. Someone who is not quite so "needy"...
Just my two cents, Marilyn
2006-09-01 11:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to prove it over and over. You have your work cut out for you and if you think you can backslide once you have her back, don't bother.
Why is it that men think they can treat women poorly and then all of a sudden wake up once we are gone and want us back?
Don't bother breaking her heart again if you aren't willing to do the work for the long haul, ok?
2006-09-01 11:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as soon as u get home, u call her and tell her that u want to talk to her, but u can't say it on the phone.And there u tell her that u are wrong ,apologise, but don't try to find excuses. Good luck.
2006-09-01 11:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a tuff one to answer when you are not able to be with her to make it up. I would continue to write her and let her know your true feelings for her. Try talking to her if she will talk, I know you dont get to talk for very long, but try to get it across to her that you have realized what you have done wrong and would like to chance to make it up to her when you return. Good luck with her and God Bless You!
2006-09-01 11:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat it ,,,,buy a Harley , go to a couple of rallies,,,you'll meet more women than you can handle,,,find a new hottie , flaunt her in front of the x,,,she'll come crawlin' back,,,but by then , you won't even want to give her the time of day.
2006-09-01 11:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dr. Biker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋