honestly i am jealous of everyone! when i look at a happy person im like "why cant i be like them?" i went out today and someone smiled at me so i smiled back but i just kept wondering "why the heck is she smiling at an ugly freak like me?" im jealous of people who has more money that me, happy people, pretty people etc. i have anger problems, i lose it for no reason. how can i overcome this jealousy problem its taking over my life! im turning into a bad person! ok i know this is a stupid question but i need some advice! thanks.
2006-09-01 04:16:08 · 24 answers · asked by stupid 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
oh sweetie- you need to learn that no one's life is perfect, the grass is not always greener, everyone has problems, sad things happen to everyone.
you should get some anger management therapy and learn to be grateful for the good things in your life
2006-09-01 04:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by jacksmum 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and see your gp and have referral to a psychotherapist or counsellor to discuss your jealously and anger issues as these more than likely stem from younger years.You may also be suffering from a mild depression as you are suffering such anger and low self esteem you need to tell gp exactly how you are feeling.Also you need to sit back and think of the things you have got that others haven't eg health, leg,arms, eyes,ears,speech and how lucky you are to have all these things as some people are blind/deaf/cannot walk or talk/feed themselves maybe this will eventually help reduce your jealousy towards others.Jealousy is a negative soul destroying emotion and you need help before it gets out of hand you are not a bad person you just need to learn ways of controlling your jealous feelings.Just accept a smile when it is given don't automatically put yourself down i am sure you are not a freak.
2006-09-01 06:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by angelle_76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flower Remedies Theoriginal flower remedies were by Dr. Bach discovered early in the 20th century. Holly is the remedy for jealousy- costs a few euros - no side effects. In more recent times Australian Bush flower remedies and many others have developed remedies for all kinds of emotional issues. They really work and are much faster than lengthy counselling although they can be used in conjunction with counselling also to spped up the process of transformation.
2006-09-01 13:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by nettaalex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our 2nd grade teachers had it right - you are special and no one is quite like you. You have to believe that and have to be happy about who you were created to be. That is a challenge for many of us, as it has been for me. But the reality is that you absolutely can not drastically change your place in the world, what you look like or what type of personality you are. Yes, you can work hard on improving the things your good at and becoming better at the things you're poor at but don't be motivated by a lack of self-respect, be motivated by self-respect. Do these things for yourself because you love yourself, because you're smart, intelligent, beautiful inside and out. You are self-aware enough and smart enough to know that you have this issue. We're not talking about a life-threatening problem here... you aren't an alcoholic or a rapist. You have a self-esteem problem (as more people do than you may think) and you are confident enough to admit it and you at least love yourself enough to admit it. I see lots of positives within your attempt to address your problem. Try some of these things....
1.) At some point during each day list 3 things that you did that day that you are proud of. They could be anything... ANYTHING that YOU did that makes you smile.
2.) Actually tell yourself (preferably in the mirror) out loud that you are a great person and list off the positives.
3.) When you are given compliments write them down. Your friends and family say positive, encouraging things to you. Don't blow them off and assume they are saying it for their own good... trust other peoples judgment and believe them when they give you positive feedback.
Address it though my friend. I can tell you right now what many people have said to me and others when dealing with this issue... the most unattractive quality about you is your self-doubt or lack of confidence. Gain that confidence and more people will look past your self-applied "weaknesses"... people draw towards confidence and self-respect.
The last tid-bit: I became a much more confident man when I drew closer to God. When I began to see myself and truly believe that I was His creation and was made just the way He wanted me than I lost interest in world things.... money, fame, fortune, etc. Those things don't last.
I hope all turns out well and you can begin to look at yourself the way that your creator sees you... perfect, just the way He wanted you.
2006-09-01 04:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lee V 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is related to self-etseem. You are constantly worried about what other people think of you, and you don't like yourself. It's hard, but you must stop being concerned with what others think. I've been there, I get INSANELY jealous. It's all abouyt my self-esteem. I'm an attractive guy, and that still doesn't prevent me from getting all down on myself and hating who I am. It will take a lot of hard work, but you can overcome it if you DECIDE to.
Love, Jack.
2006-09-01 04:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there, first of all you are every bit as good as everyone else - NO-ONE is better than you so please don't worry.
When we feel unattractive it can be hard to see what others see in us - but this is all in our own minds and no way related to how others see us. However, confidence genuinely DOES equal attractiveness - a psychology experiment once looked at a group of 17 year old boys who "played a joke" on a perceived unattractive girl by all asking her out in the same week. At the end of the week, the girl's confidence was so much better that they actaully WANTED to go out with her as her new found self-esteem was intoxicatingly attractive to them.
You are every bit as good as everyone else and you just need to see this - those people with money; are they REALLY happy? Everyone has good and bad things in their lives - the happiest people just are more optimistic and grateful for them, they don't necessarily HAVE more.
Write down all the things you have to be happy about, every one and maybe visit your dr to discuss possible counselling and work on your self-esteem. Hypnotherapy can also work wonders, I sell self-confidence CDs on eBay but if you contact me I will send you one for free, they are said to really work.
Please be happy, you are the only one who thinks this of yourself - that girl who smiled at you, I bet she really fancied you! Be proud and be confident as only you see yourself as less than others.
On a more serious but necessary note, you genuinely do not know what you have til it's gone - I lost my parents when I was a teenager, in fact Mum passed away 11 years ago today, I would give anything for just one more minute with them, yet I somewhat took for granted having family until they became ill. Look around you and be thrilled of your life and all the good things in it as nothing lasts forever and you have so much to be thrilled about.
Contact me for that hypnosis CD if you like and remember - the rest of your life starts from now - you're fab, others know it, YOU'RE the only one who's not sure (and you're wrong!).
2006-09-01 04:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I always smile at people and they often smile back. It comes naturally to me and I would really hate the idea of making someone feel bad simply because I smiled them !!
Please snap out of it , I would hate to become a bad person too because of your question !
People usually smile as a way of acknowledging your existence, I think it's wonderful ..next time it happens enjoy it hun .
Think nice thoughts, you're as unique and special as everyone else ! Hey, what's to say that someone out there isn't jealous of you? It's all down to self esteem , and you are the only one that can help you snap out of it .
I wish you well, and please, please don't think like that when someone has shown you an act of kindness , ok?
2006-09-03 10:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Paris69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound realy cool !!!!!!!!!
Im sure youll find a way, youve done the hardest thing and realised you need to make something about yourself better, maybe if you tryed respecting yourself more, as much as you deserve then you would lose the jealosy.
What do you want to do more than anything else, give it a go. Do thing you enjoy and you will start to feel great, try thinking of 10 things or more that you would love to do, then give them a go, and make it real, then you will be real for real, as your already quiet cool.
Best of luck dude/dudess *:)
2006-09-01 04:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Jabba_da_hut_07 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to just step back take a look at all that you have, not meaning possessions but your health, you're able to walk around-outside, you can see, smell, hear with your ears and your heart,touch physically and emotionally. You don't have a loved one or child dying a slow death in your home or in a hospital, you're not behind bars, i could go on and on. You're rich and not in a monetary sense. You need to pray hard and often that god helps you now. Instead of dwelling on all that you want, enhance someone Else's day by doing something for them and stop wishing it was always you, life is way too short to be wasting it on things or times we wish we could have.
2006-09-01 04:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by GTO 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you know you have a problem, then fix it. You are the only one that can fix you problem....no one else on this earth. Make that your New Year's resolution. And it may take some time, because your jealousy existed all the way from your child hood...so it is going to take some time.
2006-09-01 13:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that you're alive and healthy, that's a start. Be positive and start taking a different slant on situations. No point in getting angry, it's destructive, exhausting and a waste of time.
Thought about changing your eating habits - more natural food (fruit, veg, white meat, fish) keep away from processed rubbish, all those E's are doing you no good. You're one step ahead by admitting you have a problem that needs addressing. Good luck
2006-09-01 04:29:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋