I want honest answers! Men what do you think about this?

Question

Are men less likely to date a women with a child. Is it just somthing they would rather not deal with? What do men realy think about single moms?

Answer 1

The short answer is yes, men are less likely to date moms. There can be several reasons, I think. One is that a lot of guys are intimidated by committing to someone, and they see moms as people who are looking for a quick commitment (even if that's not true). But there are still a lot of men who want families. Even there, though, some men don't like the idea of raising another man's children. Whether those feelings are justified or not, that's how it is. Finding a man who will be good to both you and your kid(s) will not be easy, but you'll know you've found a good person when you do find one.

Both of my parents are remarried. Their attempted relationships with non-parents didn't really work out. They both ended up marrying other parents.

Answer 2

It really depends on several factors. One: the level of maturity the man has.Two: How old the guy is(which could effect maturity, but no guarentee) and three, does he have kids. If he has kids , a man can understand that, but how many kids the woman have will definitely determine if he will stick around. Im a single dad, and have dated and been involved with a number of women with children. More then two kids does turn me off alittle, more then 3 ,forget it. Also, if a man is very involved with and is expressive with how he feels about his kid(s), he wont have a problem with you having them. Unfortunately this is all the stuff you have to sort through to find the real answer from the guy your interested in. Its an individual thing. A single mom with a kid , to me, can be as hot as any woman.

Answer 3

I think single moms are the hardest working people on earth! If men had that drive we would all be better off!

When I was younger, in my 30s I dated women with kids. I didn't try to be an authority figure, just a friend of their mother. As I am now older, I wouldn't want to have kids in my life again, but that doesn't have anything to do with the women, it is just I LIKE being free and not having responsibility!

Answer 4

To be honest, dating a women with a child(ren) is initially a turn off, only because the level of complexity the relationship will carry is higher and most men are not interested in this at first. For me, I would base my decision on my interest in the woman and what kind of person, and moreover, what kind of mother she is. The biggest issue to work through is being that "new" dad, whether granted disciplinary rights or not, this will certainly add a level of anxiety to the situation. It takes a very mature, loving man to properly overcome and handle these scenarios.

Answer 5

I know your looking for answers from men... but my theory is that if a man has a choice between a woman without baggage verses a single mom I would assume that a smart guy would go for the situation that has less problems attached. However, there are also the guys that take advantage of single moms because they think that they are more desperate and lonely.

and to "Dukalink" : Having sex with a single mom doesn't give you the right to discipline. You earn the right to discipline by marrying the mother.
Single mothers who let their BOYFRIENDS discipline their children are idiots!!

Answer 6

Honestly I do think the majority men do not like to date women with children. I think it has to do with starting a relationship with someone whose life is (and should be) dedicated to their child. Maybe the idea of becoming something more to a child that is not theirs. I think as men get older, the issue becomes less and less. I think age plays a role. If you are 18 and have a child, I think it wouldn't be easy finding a guy who would be totally ok with it. If you were 35 and had a child, I think it would be more accepted, but it still comes down to a comfort level.

Answer 7

It depends on the circumstances and the man. If the woman is a widow, divorced due to bad circumstances, or something out of her control, the man may be able to handle it.

It's not it the nature of male mammals to raise other male's young. Especially if the other dad is going to be around. Questions of how to raise them, give praise or punishment, dole out ground rules taht may be overridden, etc. can get it the way.

If the woman is poor, the man may see her as trying simply to get with him so he can provide for her, rather than for true love. This may not be the true case, but it can seem that way to the man.

There are some men out there who would 'love 'em and leave 'em'. Single moms can be vulnerable to this. The marrying type of men would steer away since they may see the woman as having played the field with these men.

If my wife dies, I would probably remarry. But it would probably be to a widow who I knew enjoyed being married and I knew she was only into a serious relationship.

Answer 8

I think most men fear that if they fall for this woman, and become "step-dads", how much of of say will they have in this child's upbringing. Sure they will be expected to provide for the child (to an extent), but when the time comes to discipline this child (will happen), will you have his back or that of a smart mouth child (especially teenagers)? Is he gonna be "the man of the house" or will "your baby" be? Will his rules be followed or will you cave under your child's whining? Will he have to deal with "Baby Daddy Drama"? These are all questions that go thru men minds when they meet someone they can see a future with, but come with child in tow. Many men would love to do it, but not to the extent of losing their freedom, and the love of the woman...

Answer 9

Everyone's different. In my single days I said I would never get involved with a single mom, then I met two hot ones and fell for both of them (not at the same time, lol). So no matter what anyone answers here, I don't think they'll know for sure without having to deal with the question up close and personal.

Answer 10

The child is an extra burden, especially when you don't love the woman. If you love her - you'd love her child most likely. But when you just starting dating - having a child is a negative factor.
Then again, it depends on your age. If you're 35 - 40, you kind of expect the woman that you date would have children, so the perception changes with age.