I am looking for ways to accept things that happen to me and want to overcome my need to try to control everything. I dwell too much on the past and need to focus more on here and now instead of what is already done. HELP
2006-09-01 04:05:26 · 11 answers · asked by beautifully broken 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-09-01 04:11:33 · answer #1 · answered by Wurm™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the pain of breaking up is the most emotionally intense situation I've ever been in. I kind of miss it now that I survived it. My big revelation was that life isn't a story with a clear beginning and end. All the ideals are ultimately false. My "affirmation" was doing something positive every day (like jogging then reading a book that I've been meaning to read.) That led to feeling better about myself. Then I gained confidence. Now I have a beautiful girlfriend with whom I'm in love. Time slides by quicker than you think....sorry about that first answer. I take the whole thing to lightly now that it's over.
2006-09-01 11:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by sirhellkow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Co-dependents anonymous is a good place to start. and they print a great affirmations book examples follow
"being stuck doesn't necessarily mean I am"
"what I need on a daily basis will become clear to me"
" I deserve the good things that happen in my life today"
"I celebrate the small successes and the slips"
"I feel comfortable doing nothing"
"I am exactly where I am supposed to be"
"the only behavior I can control is my own"
"I am capable of change"
"I make good decisions"
"I am able to accept change"
2006-09-02 00:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by mochi.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it always helps to look at what you have and not what you don't have or what bad things have happened to you. I lost my husband, my home , and everything in it 3 years ago because of a tornado and I try and look at the bright side of my life every day. I have four wonderful children, I am almost finished with my Bachelors degree-these are the things I concentrate on, not the bad things. Good Luck!
2006-09-01 11:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by Special 'K' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what has been done cannot be undone and what cannot be cured has to be endured , past is past it can never change . u can do in ur present do help ur future but .................there is big BUT in our life
but luck may change its mood may be effected so then how can we fight it ...................????????think CAN U FIGHT IT???
sometimes u r building an beautiful house on hill and a landslide my just crush it and if u think that if the same house /home was build at sea side then it would have been better .......................then tsunami may just wash it
so let it happen what is happenin accept it as it this world is nt perfect and humans r filled of errors
everythin that happens is for good it is my own experience and i`m still strugfling with it so hold onnn
2006-09-01 11:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this website. www.TheWork.org based on the work of Byron Katie. My therapist suggested this to me for the same exact thing you are asking about. I's a simple way to change your thoughts around and be more content with life as it is. There are audio, video and examples on the site. It's all free. It has helped me change some of my worries and be happier with life. check it out. Good luck!
2006-09-01 11:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by livelaughlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a curvaceous and fluid journey. Because I am always moving through leaning stages, I cannot look back or measure. I learn though my relationships because that is how I begin to define who I am. Nothing is unforgivable in life. I know nursing this hurt is holding me back from fully being with other; therefore I choose to thank the universe for giving me another opportunity to develop my soul by knowing another person. I move easily through this experience.
2006-09-01 11:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by Pez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in thinking keep to simple, in conflict be fair, don't compare or compete, simply be yourself. act without doing, work without effort, think of the large as small and the many as few. confront the difficult while it is easy, accomplish the great one step at a time. let things come and let things go and live without possession and live without expectation. do not need, depend, create or define. do not see beauty or ugliness or good or bad. do not preach or implore - do not say what is right and what is wrong. live and let live, do not judge, take life as it comes and deal with it - everything will be okay! roughly translated from the book - "MY FRIEND LEONARD" written by james frey
2006-09-01 12:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grant me the courage to change the things I can change,
the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
and the wisdom to know the difference.
2006-09-01 11:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by purple4k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't change the past. and why waste the present over something you have no control over. Have you met God...He has totally changed my focus...I too, struggled with the same issue.
2006-09-01 11:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by Latte2Go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋