What should i do?
Could you please give me the best advice you have? I am just not ready to let her go yet??
this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, I know this is a no, she clearly said she wants to remain friends, and trust me, I am treating that with respect and honor. Now my question is, is she just scared like she said because we have been such good friends for a long time, or because she doesnt see me like that. If she doesnt now, will she
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Now , what would she have said she doesnt want to ruin a frienship?? Without meaning it, I asked her straight up to be honest, and I know she isnt lying. What should I do? I mean I know nothing is gonna happen in the near future, but maybe when she matures a little bit, or decides to take the risk to date me, I mean, I like her so much, and am just not ready to let her go. I know she is afraid of me breakin her heart, because she told one of her friends, that she doesnt like how many girlfriends I've had that Ive broken up with. And she really used to act like she liked me, I mean, we obviously had soemthing more than friends, but when I asked her she got scared and backed off. She also told her mom, who she is really closed to, that she is REAALY scared of ruining the frienship. What should I do?
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But, her friend asked her a few minutes ago about it, and she got all mad and said who wants to know?..and her friend said me.. and she got all mad and signed off. what should i think/do??
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And why would she get all mad at her friend, I mean the email I replied to her was nice , caring and understanding, so I dont know why she thinks I put her up to it? Why was she all mad if her friend asked her about it?
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Now, I am not an idiot, and I emailed her back and told her i respect her decision, and totally understand her decision, and I am not smothering her, directly, but her friends mite be talking, what should I do
2006-09-01 04:01:15 · 17 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey kiddo, get a part time job or something you are spending way too much time on this.
2006-09-01 04:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You are being over eager and you are scaring her.
2. Can you back off a bit, and just take a deep breath or two. Go play a game or hang out with friends. Give it 2 days.
3. Then talk to her in a non-threatening situation, outside with lots of people around. Don't stand too close to her when you are talking.
4. Be specific about what you want her to know, and don't go overboard with the intensity of your liking for her. Say what you need to say, listen to what she says and respect her response.
Aside from that, I think at your age and at her age, you are both too young for a relationship. Try being just friends and getting to know each other better. After a few years, you may be ready for a relationship, but probably not right now.
I would also strongly suggest that you speak with an adult that you trust - a parent, a school teacher, school counsellor, about how you feel and whats the best way to handle your emotions.
2006-09-01 04:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by JoseK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, your're soo soooo sooo young! Both of you! Sometimes things just don't work out. Don't try to force them, you'll never really be happy.
My advice would be to simply let it all go. I know it can be hard, I've been there before. Let her know that you respect her decision, and let it go. I know it is over used, but there ARE better fish in the sea.
After you let her know she has your respect, don't talk to her for a few days. Don't avoid her completely, but let her have her space. Let yourself reflect on the situation and you'll probably feel better. Plus, it will give her time to do the same and you may become better friends in the long run. I was in the exact situation at your age, and the guy and I are really good friends now.
Bigger, badder, better things will come your way for both of you. Enjoy being a teenager and don't worry. I know it's hard being a teen, I was there not too long ago. But, you must not worry about this. Good things will come your way.
2006-09-01 04:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by nmtgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, sounds like me and best friend. Get ready to read a lot. I am a 17 year old girl who has been best friends with a 16 year old guy for 14 years. a couple of years ago, we started really hanging out, all the time... We would flirt and have so much fun. We told each other that we liked each other more than friends, but ended up just being friends with benefits (which I don't recommend) I really liked this guy, he was everything, I mean, how much better could being with your best friend get. Well I started thinking about asking him if he wanted to just take our friendship to the next level and date. Oh man, was that ever the wrong thing to do. He avoided me...wouldn't talk to me, wouldn't even look at me. When I finally got him alone, he said he would rather die than to take a chance at being boyfriend and girlfriend with a chance in there that the relationship wouldn't work out and us in the long run not being friends any more. He was only trying to protect our friendship and said that he didn't want to loose me. It broke my heart, but I understood where he was coming from. He said that he loved me though and hoped I was going to be okay. Well a couple of years went by and here we are. Just a couple of months ago, I guess you could say things heated up between us, and he was different. He said that over these past 2 years, he has been thinking about hat summer, and that our friendship is way too strong to let a relationship problem get in between us. That he is afraid of loosing me now to another guy. So the point is, let you friend mature a while, give her time and space. She really cares for you, or she wouldn't be so touchy on the subject of you two dating. Prove to her that you can be a real charmer and the best guy friend she could ever want. Don't push her though, just tell her you understand where she is coming from. If she is really your friend, she will talk to you about it. And who knows, in a couple of years, you could be dating her, like me and my best friend are doing now. But no friendship is worth loosing over something like this.
PS If she really does like you, which I think she does, she will like you even more for trusting and accepting her descision to stay friends for now.
2006-09-01 04:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend is my boyfriend from day one we met we talked we asked eachother out without even thinking of getting to know eachotehr 1st. Ur luckey u have been friend with her for a long time, and i recon you two should just stay friends, who knows she may want it ti be more later on.
It's best to keep being friends as long as u can.
My BF and i the thing that keeps us friends is that we are friends, he's not just a person i call a boyfriend. we have neva dated and anything yet we dont just love eachother, we are pals with eachother, friends, friends that cant work without eachother, now trust me to keep the track smooth, dont try and force her to see ur point because u may even end up damaging the friendship u still have.
You are in a very delicate situation. Let her do the talking, let her tell u what's up and then you work around that untill you can get things running smoothly again, but just remember to stay friends as long as you can.
A relation ship can stuff things up big time.
2006-09-01 04:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Paint_Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Grief!! 13 and 15...what are you going to do rush out and get married???
At your ages you should only be friends...you have a whole lifetime ahead of you and you have a heck of a lot of growing up to do before you are prepared for any kind of serious relationship.
Concentrate on being a kid and quit being in a hurry to grow up, the questions and things you are worried about are silly. Live life to the fullest each day, make somebody smile, learn about you and give yourself time...like maybe 10 years.
2006-09-01 04:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my..
I Can easily see that you are having a hard time..
OK, as a 15 teenager I 'd like to command you that she just wanna keep FRIENDSHIP with you not any deeper!!
She is only 13 so maybe she is thinking of many boys around her.
If she stays Whit you all the time she will not get a chance to have a new boy /friends.(Not as bf...)
So just respect her as what you are doing now and
try to give her a chance and you can still be a close friend of her!!
2006-09-01 04:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by viCky_funkygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darlin, she may be a bit too young for you first off. secone shes probably not ready for all the sexual stuff yet. I would just stay friends with her for a bit , at least until she is in highschool. She probably does like you but is scared of what that would mean for her, at her age its a huge deal if two people kiss nevermind anything else. Stay her friend and be patient. let her know your feelings and tell her that when shes ready you will be too
hope this helps
2006-09-01 04:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by bamf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the girl alone she isn't ready for a relationship with you . The more you push the more she will run....the best thing you can do is just leave her be and wait till she is ready to start something. Really respect her decision and give her her space
2006-09-01 04:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by BabyPrincess REAL JAMAICAN QUEEN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell ya what I told you twice before. Be her friend and stop pressuring her. I'm not her and I can feel the d*mn pressure you're putting on her. No one is saying to let her go completely, but you need to let go of these romantic thoughts about her since she is obviously not interested. Sorry to inform you, but you don't take no for an answer and you're borderline psychotic. You're completely obsessed with this girl. Calm down.
2006-09-01 04:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
want some good honest advice. Break it off now. it will not work between the two of you. your young yet and have alot of life to live yet.
just dont send a lot of e-mails and dont rely on friends to tell you inforamtion. some can be giving you bad infor.
go find another girlfriend. and go slow...
2006-09-01 04:07:46 · answer #11 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋