They are not badly behaved for most of the time, they have started to speak to adults in a rather rude manner. Both parents working full time. children left with grandparent.
2006-09-01 03:58:46 · 32 answers · asked by angelz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
slipper round the back of the buttocks
2006-09-01 04:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Children only behave in a manner that they inherit from their parents. Perhaps you should try spending some time with your children. Speak to your partner with respect at all times and your children will copy you. Also ensure their grandparents do the same. You will have to hope these behaviour patterns can be addressed or you are going to have embarassing future with your children being brought home on drugs or even worse drunk by the police. You cold be forced to pay for thousands of pounds worth of damage as they show their lack or respect to the property of others.
2006-09-01 04:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Barry Von Leotard III 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No child should disrespect any adult no matter their age! I was raised with the saying " children are to be seen not heard". Maybe you need to talk to the grandparents they are with during the time you are at work. Explain that you do not accept that kinda of behavior from your own children. The grandparents should respect your rules!
2006-09-01 04:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its real important to teach children to respect their elders. If aunts, uncles, grandparents or just friends have been there for them,you should tell them this is not acceptable. Start by explaining you love these people and like grandparents they love the child. If talking doesn't work then take away some tv time or something else,,but don't let them by with this its not good for them.
2006-09-01 04:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
were i live it mam or sir give them a puniment for when they do it the 10 and 8 there is no reason they should be rude to an adult and u cant put all the blame on the grandparents there your kids weather your home all day or not u should be teaching manners
2006-09-01 04:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by robin w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they do this to an adult and you are there, you tell them that is unacceptable behavior and you do not expect them to talk to other adults like that. You make them apologize to whomever they were rude to right then and there. When you are in private with your children let them know that embarassed you and that if you find out they are talking to ther adults that way they will be punnished. You need to stick to your guns. let them know that they wouldn't think about talking to you that way, so they will not do it to other adults. If that is one thing i can't stand these days it's the lack of respect that children show for adults. It doesn't sound like you have misbehaved children, but i would jump on that real quick!
2006-09-01 04:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you and the grandparent have consistent rules for the behaviour. Start with timeouts (one minute per year of age) with no warnings. They're rude, they get the timeout, and they have to apologize afterwards after explaining they clearly understand why they had the timeout. No exceptions in any case.
If that doesn't work, start yanking priviledges, starting with the small and immediate (no tv tonight) and mean it.
If you're not consistent, they'll walk all over you.
2006-09-01 04:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by MojoAndy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are not "Badly" behaved for most of the time? If both parents, working, put the three in special school!!! They need to behave better a lot better. They need to learn better manners!
2006-09-01 04:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the reason.. Grandparent have no patience, authority and strenght to fight with children.. they have just to love them.. They already did Father or Mother.. now it's your rule, your problem, your homework.. Do you understand what I mean??
So grandparents don't see if they're watching a bad program in TV, or if they're listening bad music, or what else.. they have only stay there and check that nobody hurts them.. they have just love them.. They don't tell a word about behavior of nephews.. due to they're with them.. so when children are at home.. they have the same behavior that they have with grandparents.. and test your patience, your interest in them, your love for them..
2006-09-01 04:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the example... never speak to them in any way you don't want them to find normal, or copy.
speak to the grandparent... find out if they are picking up from there, or if they are behaving this way because they sense grandparent isn't on the ball, doesn't like the job, is overburdened and out of their depth and easy to take advantage of... your kids, take some responsibility and pay a minder, or cut your hours to cater for them!
2006-09-01 04:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure the Grandparents arent being pushovers and make sure that they are making them mind. My daughter thinks she can talk to her Grandma in a way that she does not talk to me and I caught her once and she knew she was doing something wrong she had just fiqured out that with grandma she could get her way. And Grandma let her. So put your foot down and tell them that that behavior is NOT acceptable and not tolerated and if you see the be rude to anyone then there will be consequences. and make sure you follow through and be consistent!!! Good luck
2006-09-01 04:04:39 · answer #11 · answered by missieeeG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋