Hey, i have a question. Why is it that when you start going out with guys they are completely obsessed withyou. They buy you dinner, they get you gifts, they say they love you and then after a while it seems like the love wears off and taking care of you becomes a chore for them. Guys why? girls do u know what i'm talking about?
2006-09-01 03:56:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's about getting used to someone so much that u don't find them interesting anymore.....its not that he doesn't care for u nor that he has another girl,,,,,,but when u start expecting what he is going to do may be for u he loses the charm and he can't surprise u anymore..u know him so well that u can expect what is going to happen next and this gives u a feeling that he is not doing his best,,,,,,
are u sure u are not missing anything in this relation, i mean do u take proper care of him as well,,,,,,,,after all it is the principle of give and take in every relation.....have u tried putting some spice into ur relationship urself,,,,don't just always wait for the guy to make the next move,,,,may be he thinks that u do not respond in the same way.....
ALSO some guys have this feeling that once they have won a girls heart then they do not need to do anything special,,,,,they don't take u for granted but it is kind of security when a guy might think that she knows i love her now, it is time for me to go for other things in my life.....i'm myself not one of those as i believe that love is like making bread,,,,u have to make new bread everyday to satisfy new-risen hunger and similarly u have to make new love everyday to keep new-born feelings in the heart...i would try my best to keep my girl happy,,,,so i would not doubt ur guy unless he want to move away from u ,,,,,
2006-09-01 04:15:03 · answer #1 · answered by sidhu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a thousand reasons, and obviously it's not just guys falling out of love, but one interesting reason I just read about has to do with how the "template" of love, formed when you are a baby, causes you to look for that type of person and become infatuated with them. However, once you have spent some time with them and discover that they are dominering or obsessive or annoyingly passive or whatever, you get fed up and push away. Of course, you go right out and find someone else just like them and start the whole thing over again, but your brain is kind of wired to do it.
As I said, there are a thousand other reasons (maybe she's too obsessive, maybe he is just looking for sex, maybe he met someone else, maybe our evolutionary biology seeks an advantage in numerous mates, maybe they don't know what they want until it is gone, maybe the way relationships are constructed are oppressive).
Just some thoughts.
2006-09-01 04:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ward 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is the easiest question out of them all!
He wasn't in love with you, you said it yourself, he was obsessed...or better said..in lust with you. Once that flame burned out, he was out too.
There comes a point in ANY relationship where you realize this person is working out with ME. There are so many things that can influence this decision. Have you ever heard the saying, "you know within the first 15 seconds of meeting a man/woman if you're going to have sex." Well the same concept goes with first, 2nd, 3rd, and so on impression. Once one behavior, belief, whatever is not coinciding with you then that's a tick mark on the "CONS" list. Dating is like interviewing. Once there are too many cons the person disappears! That's why it's best not to get too close at the beginning. It would be best if the other person would confront you and work out a compromise and the relationship would have a better chance of lasting....but what are the chances of that happening in a new relationship, or even a lasting one. Compromise is the key to a relationship.
Don't you worry about those men that get in take out and leave....they will keep doing this until they are burned out, but you will learn from his mistakes!
2006-09-01 04:13:59 · answer #3 · answered by Her Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really believe the guys when they tell they love you, after only those outings?
When guys tell you they love you, ask them what they love about you. Looks, sex or what? True love need time to develop. Only sexual attraction can be immediate.
When they fall out with you, they are not falling out of love because they were never in love you yet.
2006-09-01 04:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We don't fall out of love
We fell in love in the first place
We just get back on our feet
2006-09-01 03:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sthiex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guys are not that perfect enough. Probably they showed too much at the beginning, which is not the their real personality. On the other hand, some guys continue their good behaviors from the start, while others just show good personality just to catch the heart of the girl. Hope you could see someone better.
2006-09-01 04:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I know what you are talking about.. Guys are curious, are superficial, are selfish.. Once they get what they were looking for.. they walk away.. since they really don't fall in love.. They play a dirty game it's up to you don't give them easy to reach what they want..
2006-09-01 04:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean! Luckily I am married now to a great guy, but when I was dating I went through it several times. I think some guys just get bored and want to move on to the next female.
2006-09-01 04:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, feeling become soar. Because sometimes they're getting bored of the relationship or maybe they're having affair with somebody. Girls, also feeling like that. I think if love still there the relationship will survived.
2006-09-01 04:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by lhen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women do the same. For me I find that when I do stuff like that it wears the effect of quicker. Then the women stop feeling it and I dont want to be the only one who feels this way so I stop. You can only love someone who loves you back other wise it just some one getting hurt
2006-09-01 04:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋