okay so im 17 i have been single for 2 years i watch my friends go somewhere i look out the window as they leave and when a girl talks to me i cant say much i start sweating and cant think of much to say my longest relationship is 1 month my cousin is going to get married and she is 18 and i just feel like i will be like this forever people tell me just to be patient but i watch 1 year click into 2 and then 2 will click into 3
2006-09-01 03:55:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shouldn't you be in school right now?
2006-09-01 03:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how you can figure out, or even say, that you are a loser. You are only 17 years old, for crying out loud. There's things in your life that are more important than girls right now, like your education. As for your cousin, 18 is a very young age to get married. She hasn't hardly had a chance to do all the fun things people do at that age.
Finish your schooling, so you can get a good job, and have a nice car, nice things, nice clothes, etc.. This will bring out a confidence level in you that will make you more sure of yourself when you talk to girls. I know it's hard to be patient but look forward in your life, not backward. Things will eventually take on a slow change and you'll find out then you're a man with a lot to offer another person.
2006-09-01 04:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by windandwater 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are not a looser, you are only 17 years old. You have plenty of time for girlfriends, I am sure you would not want to settle for less than you deserve. You sound like a good young man and a lot of feelings that are normal at this age. Why would you want to get married now? My man, you are young, enjoy your life, when the right girl comes around grab her but not till then. You say that when a girl talks to you you start sweating, This is just a sign that you are not ready yet. Believe me, I know that the right person will come along. My daughter that is 33 years old got married at 31, she had a lot of suitors, but none of them were for her.She was like you in a sense she thought she would never get married. And see, she waited all this time and now she is married and happy. MY YOUNG MAN, there is no law on when you have to have a girlfriend or get married. Good luck to you.
2006-09-01 04:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it seems like you are just too nervous around the opposite sex. You need to feel confident with yourself in order to pursue a relationship. Maybe you should try going away to college that way you will be surrounded by all new people and you can start all over again. Your cousin is making a huge mistake getting married that young especially when half of all marriages don't work out these days. I am sure your time will come and you will find someone great!
2006-09-01 04:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are just painfully shy. I was like that when I was a teen. You just need to start talking more with your friends & going out & doing more fun things that arent bad for you & that wont get you into trouble. I know you will think this is silly but I recently lost 87 pounds & it has helped me have more confidence & feel better about myself. You need to find something that will help you like that, that will make you feel better about you & I dont necessarily mean weight lost. You gotta work on you. Like,if you can play an instrument then play it well & knock everones socks off. Like joining the band. You will be just fine. Try & talk with other shy people. That helped me also.
2006-09-01 04:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by דְבוֹרָה Devorah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a loser! You're 17. I have been through so many relationships and finally at 27 I have finally found the man for me. We've been married for 7 months. Things happen in God's time, not ours and sometimes thats hard to live with. But be assured it will happen when it is your time.
2006-09-01 04:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by PINKY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only 17 buddy! Take it easy. Sounds like your kinda shy, so not to worry, there's lots of chics that love shy guys. Unfortunately not at your age. What I mean is that typically girls in your age group like guys who are more outgoing and stuff cause its so exciting for them. But as they get older, and trust me on this one, most of us realize shy is awsome cause it means they don't have that holier than thou attitude! Best advice I can give you right now, while your 17, is not to put to much energy into finding someone. If your not so worried about what the girl is thinking as you talk to her, you won't be so nervous and sweaty! In return she won't think your wierd and you'll probably end up with some phone numbers. But don't act "studly" or anything cause you'll come off as fake, and chics really hate that! Just be you and don't worry, it will happen.
2006-09-01 04:13:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you are only 17 so you are still young.You said you had a girlfriend before.If you are so shy around girls how did u get that girlfriend?Just be your self.There are plenty of girls out there.Try getting out and conversing more or joining a club of some sort that will get you around more girls.Dont worry about what people think about you just be who you are.The more self esteem you have the more it attracts girls after all why would a girl want someone with low esteem thats always down on themselves?And you will find someone when you least expect it wether its at school or work or walking around in the mall you just never know.
2006-09-01 04:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ryan, you are 17. Of course you are single. You should be single.
Your buds and you and some girls should be getting together in groups. You learn how to be comfortable with girls that you are really interested in by realizing that girls in general can actually be friends. It is the lifestyle of pressure dating that is wrong. Try to find some activities that are non-threatening and not just male-oriented. If your buds are jock kind of guys, maybe you are hanging with the wrong set.
18 is too young to be married. Period. Divorce virtually guaranteed.
Focus on your future ..education, job. Other things will happen more naturally if you pay attention to all your life's needs.
And I wish you a good future...just let it be and it will happen.
2006-09-01 04:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're not a loser. its just that you're too caught up in the moment and therefore your entire behaviour is impacted. Try arranging a meeting with someone you're not interested in so you can atleast practice conversation.
Try to approach new social situations with the "This does not have much meaning to me" attitude...you'll soon see that you're well accepted because people like people who seem content.
Go out there and make some mistakes, its the best way to learn
2006-09-01 04:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by sensa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your not a loser, 18 is too young get married anyway you just havent been exposed to normal relationships if ya know what i mean, like usually people dont get married at that age... just have some confidence and youll time will come around.. enjoy the single life because sometimes the grass isnt always greener on the other side. :)
2006-09-01 04:01:26 · answer #11 · answered by just_adorable_pink_love 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋