how to overcome your fears, low self esteem and vulnerability?

Question

i have been scared into making decisions for my self which has led me having low self-esteem and being vulnerable and scared of other people and i don't know what to do about it

Answer 1

yep so do I and i have been diagnosed depression which is a huge shock as i was the complete opposite 7 years ago I was a very strong dependent woman, i was so confident I loved meeting new people strange circumstances. Now somebody as turned the tables on me. All I can suggest to you is to force yourself out there in the big world. Little steps at first like walking to the shops and saying good morning to people you walk past complete strangers. Trust me you will feel so much better. Give it a try it does work., start a new hobby meet new people.

Answer 2

I used to be shy so I can help you. I stopped when I looked in the mirror and said I'm not going to be shy. I started to take steps little by little talking more. It really helps. Once you do this try and start a group of friends. Or you can join a group. Try and be extra talkative. You will slowly lose your shyness. This worked for me. I really hope you get rid of your shyness. Also, try and join activities you are interested in at school. You will meet people like you, and you will slowly break your shell.

Answer 3

well you could try a support group or drop in? MIND have drop ins if you are in UK.. Self doute is a hard thing to over come, you could see GP and try and get a counsellor, as you will need to look at when and why the vulnerability started.. Sounds as if you have either been brought up by or lived with a very very dominate person, who has not given you the chance to make decisions with out constant criticism or shutting you down. Feel this is a big question to answer on here, with out you disclosing information on your self, which may make you more vulnerable. Building confidence can start with just doing a hobby or leisure activity that makes you feel good, you enjoy and are good at, you need to build on all the positives in your life.. You would benefit from some 1:1 support, or try even a Small evening class, anything which will help you meet people, pratice your skills and build both confidence and self worth..

Answer 4

Note the advice given in the 1st few answers here. I'm sorry but you need to grow up - making decisions for yourself is part of life; even many young children make some of their own decisions. Otherwise, what are you, a robot? A doormat? I think not. Yes it may be scary but at least you can control aspects of your life.

Your self-esteem isn't low because you have to make your own decisions - on the contrary, doing so will boost it. Your negative self-image is down to other factors, probably early on in your life, which you need to face, address, and work through.

A tough journey, but well worth it. All the best X

Answer 5

Do you want to understand one of the reasons common Law of attractionmaterial doesn't work for lots of people?Think it like a diet plan. If you want slim down and you strive to lose it

Answer 6

Confidence problem? Simplest answer? Fake it.

Everyone pretends to be someone or something they're not at one time or another: we lie, deceive and twist truths into half-truths. When presented with a situation that makes you fearful, assaults your confidence or gnaws at your vulnerabilities then act or react within three seconds (enough time to take a quick deep breath).

Be convincing enough and you'll start believing it yourself. Try it. You'll be surprised.

Answer 7

You need to stay well away from the person /people who are trying to take control of your life by scaring you into making decisions you are not comfortable or happy with and you need to work at standing up to these people and saying no. You need to visit your gp and ask them to send you for assertiveness training which will help teach you how to do the above. If no joy with that then perhaps see a counsellor or psychotherapist who will help you work through the problems you have with your low self esteem and fears which are making you feel vulnerable.You are in control of your life noone else and you only have one life and need to make the most of it.Tell these people you are perfectly capable of making your own decisions thankyou.

Answer 8

Please know I hear what you are saying.

I grew up with fear, no self confidence, and extremely low self-esteem.

I don't blame anyone for this even though there were many
others who enabled this to happen.

So please allow me to tell you this. I offer my wish, my hope, and my blessing to you so that it may help you in some small way.

You are a miracle beyond miracles in the unknown vastness of our Universe!

You are a conscious, acting, feeling being!

You have great power!

You have the ability to choose!

You have so many gifts to offer our world, a world that needs
all that we can give.

You must embrace all of these ideas because they are true!

You must seek support from those who can remind you of all these truths.

Have fun but be safe.

Answer 9

Hang on in there pal...there are more people out there with this problem than you think...we live in a fast uncertain world and people have minutes if not seconds to form impressions. Next time you have self doubt ...ask yourself what YOU think of these other people/circumstances etc rather than what they think of you.

Talk to someone ...it really helps you sort your mind out , but comit to give anything you do a couple of months, it will seem uncomfotable at first but if you get thru this then you can get thru anything

Answer 10

Try typing EFT into Yahoo search then press GO. EFT is emotional freedom technique and if you look into it, it might work for you. I hope it does help. Best wishes.