2006-09-01 03:38:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Not only is there pressure to have perfect grades, but to act perfectly, and never do anything wrong, and to look perfect aswell.
(i dont obsess over it but i still do feel alot of presure to be all of these things! does anyone feel the same?)
2006-09-01 03:48:17 · update #1
Yes - everyone expects that. But it is impossible. Try to be the best you can and everyone will accept you in time.
2006-09-01 03:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well yes, its any wonder no in society we have the highest amount than ever before of people on anti depressants, on stress leave from work, attending relaxation seminars as part of there job. why why why , cause there is so much pressure on us all to preform. Our kids are expected to do the same, get great grades, go to uni, get a career plan ahead, earn good money , buy a car and all this happens then they are only 14 - 15 we are saying to them what do u want to do with your life. Hell most of them haven't even discovered who they are... and most of us haven't had the time to do that even in our 20's cause we are too much in a hurry.
There are always people , standards set , those that look down at us the battlers that are trying to get ahead, those with kids with disabilities or kids with behaviour problems who are lovely people but for some reasons the child is struggling with this complex world to fit in.
Why are there so many of those types of kids now,,, pressure Id say is the answer........... we put stress on them from babies........ we don't stop to smell the rose or let them develop at there own pace.
Life is like a pressure cooker...........
2006-09-01 10:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Princess Fiona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, wow, did I ever used to. It was a gift from my father (a sarcastic, "thanks, Dad"). I remember getting grounded for two weeks after a grade card came in. One day one of my fellow eggheads stopped by me to look at a book near where I was and asked, "Rumor has it that you flunked a course." I said, "I don't know because I never bother to look at grade cards. But as mad as my father was, I must have." When I got home that night I looked. In one course I had a B! All that anger and grief over a B!
I stopped being a perfectionist after that (to the consternation of my father). I was still no stranger to the A, but Bs and, gasp, Cs would work from then on. Similar things took place in the physical aspects of my life. I was always frustrated. No matter how hard I tried, what tricks I used, if I wasn't last in sports, I was closed to it. I could hit a ball over the fence, but was the strike out king. I could get two or three baskets in fifteen minutes of basketball play, but I was winded and couldn't keep up after that. Then came the acne. Nothing I did was right in that department.
Even today, I sometimes tense up, sometimes spit out an angry "No!" and it was because some petty failure was recalled and reflexively reacted upon. Despite that, I am a marvel to my mother-in-law, and sometimes my wife--because I usually don't get stirred or bothered by things that drive those two perfectionists batty. I am a frustrated perfectionist who has embraced failure. As I mentioned before, even as a failed perfectionist, my reactions to recollections show I am a failure at embracing failure.
Good luck with you. Lighten up, but not too much, okay?
2006-09-01 10:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had trouble with this as a kid - my mother wanted nothing but perfection. . . I could get straight A's, but if one of more scores dropped by more than two points, I'd get in trouble. The downside - I STILL will obsess over gifts for other people - they have to be absolutely perfect. It drives my husband nuts.
On the other hand, I did well in the military where 'attention to detail' is everything.
Give yourself permission to relax on things that don't matter as much, and use that natural tendancy of yours for things that do.
2006-09-01 10:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Muskratbyte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobodys perfect Killer. My Ex-Wife was always trying to be perfect and it killed our marriage. Anyone who tries so hard to be perfect has a low self-esteem. My wife actually left me because she "thought" that I thought I was better than her. I never said anything like that but its what she thought. Then she found a man with lower self-esteem than her to make her feel better and perfect. Wonder how that relationship is going to work. Get Help. No one is perfect. Learn to live with the way you are. If you can't do that then you will never be happy in life.
2006-09-01 10:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do! We are supposed to be college educated and know everything BEfore we are hired which we dont. so then we take crappy jobs and then 5 mos later we are gone cuz they cant keep that position and cant pay us anymore!! Im so sick of human life and jobhunting...i got laid off Tuesday can you tell?? I hate the X for what he has done to my life. I have a good husband now but we are always struggline....the whole damn world is all about money and it gets very old very fast. Heaven will be alot better
2006-09-01 10:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants to be perfect. But there's no such thing. You can be close though. One thing you can't do is just "decide" that you're going to do every thing right. Start in small steps, working on tiny things to improve yourself.Once you feel that you'vegot it down pat, work on something else. Don't get discouraged by your mistakes. Learn from them! Everything can be turned into a good thing. It works!
2006-09-01 10:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by yourstruley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that. It was very tiresome and aggravited myself more and make my life miserable. I went home and cried very often. My CFO constantly expected more from me until one day I finally broke down and quitted my job. It really wasnt healthy. Now I have a new job and happier than before. Friends around me can even feel the change of me and they are all happy for me.
2006-09-01 10:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by piyo006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did in high school, as I'm very Type-A personality. But I've since relaxed, and realized all I need to do is my personal best. And that changes day to day with my health, level of energy, workload, etc. So it IS perfect for ME. Not necessary to be perfect by society's standards. *smile*
Good luck! :)
2006-09-01 10:40:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya
yeah, i definitely feel it, i constantly think of how i can do things without screwing it up, up i usually do something stupid and then try to fix it, and yeah, i dont fix it, i just do something dumber!
no one is perfect, i want to be, but its impossible, so just relax and do things your way. it makes you unique and you learn through making the mistakes. i know its hard, but you have to try it, otherwise youll end up a stress ball like me and sitting with constant colds and flu as you suppress your immune system.
relax, and take time to smell the flowers...
2006-09-01 10:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Rossi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋