I have a 13yrs old daughter that likes to talk to her friends which are girls/boys. But, I have a problem with the boys. She tells me that I'm a sexist. What do you think/What should I do?
2006-09-01 03:33:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a mom of 18 and 16 year old daughters, my vote is: 42
2006-09-01 03:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Nurcee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just monitor the conversation (not all the time, but randomly) and not limit the time she is on the phone with only boys. If you are too hard on her at this point, she will only find a way to talk to them behind your back, and you don't want that, because that will develop into a dangerous pattern!
I think the most important thing to do would be random monitoring of the phone conversations, (not only with boys, but the girls too) and to lay down some rules up-front.
Remember at this age, she may start becoming interested in the opposite sex, which is NATURAL, it is just your job as a parent to make sure that she is being safe. Allow her to have her friends, but make sure she still abides by the rules that you and her other elders set for her.
Another good idea would be to give her more freedoms from time to time if she does what she is supposed to and is well behaved. That will show her that you appreciate her doing as she is told, and will motivate her to do as she is told.
2006-09-01 03:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by *~HoNeYBeE~* 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any age for a girl to talk on the phone with boys is good. By not letting her talk on the phone you are going to make her sneak around. Maybe if you are really worried ask her to invite some of the boys over so you can meet them. Even kissing is ok at that age, nothing more. If you flat out say "no you cant talk to them" and the like it will make her think she has to sneak around to do anything. for both her sake and hers let her be on the pnone and encourage her to have her friends over the house so you can get to know them. encourage her to talk to you about how she feels. it will make all the difference in the world. not only will you know what your daughter is up to and have a better relationship with her , but she will respect you more and be more likely to not sneak around to do stuff, or do things you do not approve of.
hope this helps
2006-09-01 03:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by bamf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to sorta agree with your daughter. I was 10 or 11 when i was able to talk with both guys and girls. In fact my closest friend was a boy. You also have to remember that shes just talking on the phone, and not talking about going on dates yet. So i say count your blessings and try to pick battles that you can win and that make sense to her as well. Otherwise you're gonna have a rough relationship with her, especially now thru her teens/puberty and even high school too. Good luck though.
2006-09-01 04:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Cait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a problem with boys isn't going to alleviate her curiosity with them. Limit the time she can spend on the phone and monitor the frequency and tone of the conversaiton. 13 is still a bit green but trust is important. Let her know that it's okay to talk but any dating will have to be chaparoned at all times. I would also suggest you meeting any boys that she speaks with via the telephone and his parents, this goes for anyone she is contact with. This day and age it's better to be safe than sorry!
2006-09-01 03:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all would you let a 13 year old boy talk to his girlfriends you probably would wouldnt you. You should just let her talk to any one she wants. Unless the boys are way to old for her. YOu have to give her the talk warn her what could happen and what the good and bad effects are. Let her know that she can tell you any thing. NOw if she does some thing wrong and tells you about it dont punish her. Never do that abecause then she will never talk to you about any thing.
2006-09-01 04:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by unkown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the proper age is 16. Thirteen is to young and what do they have in common.Hormones for boys at thirteen are developing strong. All boys want is one think. Maybe its time you've had the sex talk with your daughter just to see where her head is at.
2006-09-01 03:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u shelter her know she wont be experienceing the slightest bit of stuff she is supposed to be learning *im not saying throw her out there and let her have sex and drink* but if u dont let her get her own experience then she will do it all at the same time and most likely get into lots of trouble with the law or just getting pg at a very young unhealthy way.
talk to your daughter dont just say this is how its gonna ba just talk and let her give u her opinion dont be shy to tell her how the world is
2006-09-01 04:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by rooney8dabom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girls where 12 or 13 maybe u are there only talking on the phone not going to the movies
2006-09-01 03:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by robin w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think girls should b aloud 2 talk 2 boys anytime as long as the boys r calling the girls. especially if their friends it's just like the skin color thing. wats the diff between whites and blacks besides only their skin color? best answer?
2006-09-01 03:40:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋