first of all im a grown woman, 24, just in a a messed up situation. the father of my child who is 24, doesnt want anything to do with me after i found out he was cheating on me at 7 months pregnant, im 9 months now. he claims he only wants the child in his life but hasnt done anything for the baby since the moment he found out, which was in feb. he claimed he wanted this baby, wanted our relationship to work, be a family and get married. what would make a guy do a complete 180 over nite cause he got caught doin wrong?
the baby is his no doubt about that and he knows it and i didnt do anything to him for him to all of a sudden not want anything to do with me. and theres things he can do for the baby before he is born like save money, help me buy things for him, keep me stress free, etc. i got so stressed out i went into preterm labor a wek after and the baby dropped at 28 wks. did he care...no! being a parent doesnt start the day the baby's born!!!!
2006-09-01 03:11:24 · 15 answers · asked by foxzie006 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Girl i'm so sorry. I was in a similar situation, however it wasnt until after my daughter was born that her father became the total jerk, however he was out partying most of my pregnancy and wasnt even home when i went into labor at 7am.
I'm so sorry you're going thru this. You do need to keep stress free and try to relax as much as possible until you deliver. If you wanna chat more e-mail me @ CamoPrincess32@yahoo.com.
2006-09-01 03:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your situation if no fun...As soon as the baby is born you need to take this slacker to court and make sure he pays child support!
He is obviously not mature enough to be a father but too bad! He probibly freaked out last minute at the change that his life was going to go through...he has no consideration for you because he iis an immature 24yr old man. Get the child support and realize that this man is going to be a part of your life for the rest of your life....don't bad talk him in front of the baby and do your best to get along...your child depends on it. But make sure you get the child support the baby deserves, who knows maybe one day he will grow up and be a good father...we can always hope.
Blessed Be!
2006-09-01 10:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, without going into the fact that you guys aren't even married (and I'll avoid passing judgment on this), you are now painfully aware that he is NOT a grown man (as opposed to your statement of being a grown woman).
Clearly, he lacks the ability to take responsibility for his actions.
Regardless, he has BOTH a legal AND a moral obligation to baby.
From here on out, he AND you are both liable for the health and well-being of baby...until said child becomes an adult.
Of course there is more to the story than you can probably relate on this board, but from what I can surmise, here's my advice: get an attorney who specializes in these types of cases...it sounds like he will be a gone-dad and you better have plans for getting some monetary support for baby.
2006-09-01 10:18:08 · answer #3 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he's probly a real piece of work, however he could also be freaked out about the whole thing and he is to buisy worrying about himself to care what u are going through my ex was the same way, and still is our son is 19 mos old and the last time he seen him was at our divorce , and before that he never even called or anything now he has to pay child support since i turned him in and now he wants to see our son and it's just because of the child support , so in my opinion he meaning ur guy is probly just not interested in the baby ,so i say go on w/ur buisness and cut him loose u have to think about the baby u are fixing to have , u may get lucky like i did and find a great guy who loves kids and wants to help out , good luck girl, if u want to talk more I AM ON YAHOO MY EMAIL IS mayrachel22@yahoo.com
2006-09-05 01:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen girl, don't even think about his sorry behind right now. I mean men are so fickle when it comes to commitment. There is no telling what is going through his mind and it's not worth you stressing yourself out trying to understand him. Either he'll come around or he won't. You have a child now, a new life and a new beginning "Congratulations" I really hope mother and child are doing well. He's not going to ever act the way you want him too so just concentrate on your parenting skills. I don't want to catch you or Maury or nothing girl!
2006-09-01 10:20:38 · answer #5 · answered by Goodie66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men do not know the emotional and physical pain that women have being pregnant. Some men ofcourse do run. Its not so much the mother of the babys fault, thats just thier excuse.
They dont want to admit that are afraid and arent ready to GROW UP.
2006-09-01 10:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by blondee_023 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a cheater and he got caught and his embarrasment has caused this reaction. I would not count on him to be there and would start with child support proceedings when the child is born. Forget him-is this who you want to be a role model for your child. Make him pay for his share and move on with yours and your baby's life. Rule 1-Men don't change. Rule 2: Women cannot change Rule 1.
2006-09-01 10:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by jane_4_sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is not ready to settle down and be responsible. Write him off and wait until the baby is born so you can get child support. If you continue to push him to be part of your life, you will only cause more trouble for yourself. Let him go because he's not worth it.
2006-09-01 10:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by b's wife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He bailed on you, because he was already having doubts. Since you basically caught him he decided to go with it. 24 is still young so he might have freaked out, and now he doesn't want the responsibility. Trust me if he is not helping you now then he's not going to help you later. Also . . . . . . . someone might be puting things in his head. GUYS CAN BE ***HOLES! GOOD LUCK! Hope this helped!
I went through a similar situation!
2006-09-01 10:20:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...welcome to my life! we are in the same situation...i found out i was pregnant after me and my ex broke up...he found out from a friend that i'm pregnant...he didn't even try to talk to me or even offer support...i'm 30 weeks pregnant...guys are jerks...two timers...u didn't do anything wrong...he is the one! u don't deserve him..but u deserve this baby...God gave u a gift...he is revealing his true character to u...at least u found out early...he is scared as hell coz u might take him to court for child support...but keep in mind that if u do that he has visitation rights...he can take the baby anytime..we just have to move on with our lives and give all our love to the gift that God has given us...we are on our own raising the baby...we don't need jerks in our life! hope u get a lot of support from family and friends...
2006-09-01 10:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Irish C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋