I love the guy but he lied about part of his past when I found he confessed that the baby was his but wanted nothing to do with the girl.Recently I found them together and he pretended not to know me then came home apologised and said he needed time to tell the girl off am confused do I leave or what
2006-09-01 02:59:21 · 22 answers · asked by maduffies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs to draw the line before he can start with you, it is in your best interest enforce that that before your relationship with him goes further.
If you just stay with him without putting your foot down, you are pretty much telling that:
- It is alright to lie to you
- It is alright to conceal about his past
- It is alright to have other relationship while with you
- It is alright to ignore you in public when he's with other girlfriend
- It is alright to hurt you and apologize later since you will accept him back
- It is alright to put things off with you since you will always give him time.
If you can live with the above things you are allow him to do, then its alright to stay with him.
If the above things are unacceptable to you, then you should at least draw the line and tell him to finish his business before coming to you.
Personally I think a man like that shouldn't deserve a second chance after he has display such action to you. Getting involve with a man with a girl and a young baby is gonig to complicate your life beyond your dream, and it really isn't something you're looking for. I would say just move on with your life, it isn't what you want in the first place.
2006-09-01 03:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His approach was totally wrong for him to act as if he didn't know you while in front of the other girl. That was very immature and shows he already doesn't respect you. When the two of you started getting serious, that should have been his chance to tell his ex but he didn't. I don't know if I would continue being with him. He already lied and was rude to you when caught in a difficult situation. I would let him know that lying will not be tolerated in the relationship and if you catch him lying again, you would have to call it quits. If you love him, I'd say give him another chance. But then again, I'm a kind hearted person when it comes to relationships. But if you really were considering breaking up with him, by all means....you have every right to!
2006-09-01 03:12:48 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him right away gurl ... now seee his past is still a part of his present and he's not a nice guy for you ..you are suppose to have someone better.. you think sweety he might have promised his ex to have her forever or anything if not she would give birth to the child and what if he do the same to you ... and so on and so... And i'm sure you wouldnt love to share your bf with another gurl so please stay away from this ... and you mentioned tht he was hiding from you till you found if he loved you and truely needed you then he would have told you everything about his past before proposing you or anything ... And how much you was hurt when you saw them together and he pretended tht he dunno u... that's not a true love dear try to find someone better ..i'm sure you would have a hard time for some time but after that you might have someone much better ...And we (gurls) are weak but we shouldnt proof tht we are loosers ... would u like to hurt for sometime or forever ...Decision is in your hand now ..... and if you have decided to kick him away from your life then just tell him everything directly ... tht u dun want this kind of guy n u deserve sm1 better...And remember sweety dont easily trust someone .... Guys aren't weaker than gurls ...they have fun with gurls but when gurls starts getting serious n finally they realizes tht he was a play boy ...how ever i don't mean all guys ..so don't worry .... wish you find ur true luv .... Hope my words help u ...
2006-09-01 03:18:22 · answer #3 · answered by gurl_typical 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! Based on his lies (especially pretending not to know you!!!!!!!!!!!), get outta there. But don't let this turn you off of relationships with people w/kids forever. My ex and I still hang out, we are both happy without one another, but truly are good friends. It's possible. Get rid of this loser, but know that all single parents are not like that. A lot of us are indeed good friends for the kids' sake.
2006-09-01 04:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by M K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, before you get involved any deeper than you are. He acted like he didn't know you, in front of this girl. He showed you his choice between the two of you, at that moment. (This is a sure sign that she thinks she is the only one in his life, which is probably what he has told her-he is a liar).
2006-09-01 03:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by ps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop this dude now.... your headed for disaster. You know he lied so why trust him again. dont be foolish gal. dump his behind right now.. if you let him get by now he will do it again and again and again.'
good luck and get rid of him at once. tell him there is the door and dont let it hit you in the buns on the way out..
2006-09-01 03:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle for 2nd baby. Everyone deserves to be number 1.
2006-09-01 03:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away.
He has lied to you already. He can't leave the other girl, they have a child together, she will always be around.
Find someone better.
2006-09-01 03:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by Emma W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once a lier always a lier well seem like hes playing you both so you need to leave him and move on with your life you deverse so much better and his daughter dont need the head games he wants his cake and eat it to dont lead into the games let the next fool do that get out of this please before you get hurt..........
2006-09-01 03:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by billie0059 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the girl above. he will lie again.
if it was me i would move on babe it for best.
but saying that listen to your heart what does it tell u???
make sure u dont end up getting hurt hun.
hope it works out whatever u choose.
takecare
xxxx
2006-09-01 03:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by alan h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋