well me and him whent out for 2 years and we love each other to death but i dont kno if he loves me back the way i love him all he wants to do is have sex and thats all and other thing is i cant really hang out with mii friends cuz i needs to leave some time for him only and i cant alk to boys then he would have to fight them so the only reason i do this for him is cause i love him a lot but his not worth it when it come to **** like this but i dont kno wut should i do should i leave him or stay with him -help-and killes me when he says that he want to have kids with me so i dont kno wut to do im goin crazy and i dont have no freinds to tak to cuz i cant have friends when i goin out with him so plz help me
2006-09-01 02:58:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dig yourself out!
2006-09-01 03:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it seems like he's a control freak and that could lead to verbal and emotional abuse later on. You should be able to have friends and be able to talk to other men without being told it's wrong by him. This situation you're in isn't healthy for you, that's not a healthy relationship. Try communicating to him since you really do love him. Tell him that you need to get a life apart from him, and he needs to stop being so controlling of you. If he does respect what you want then the relationship between you two would be better. If he doesn't want to change or doesn't change when he says he will I think it'd be best if you leave him and get yourself together. So try talking to him first about the issues and see how it works out then if it doesn't that is when you should leave him for your own sake.
2006-09-01 03:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by hearts99992000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave his controlling @** before it is too late. First, you can't have friends, think what will happen if you have kids with him or marry him. Most abusive men start off wanting you to spend every waking moment with him. By the time you decide you want to hang out with your friends one night instead of him he gives you a guilt trip, and you ditch your friends. Later it gets worse. If you don't do what he wants or tells you to do he will start to get physical. He may just push you or throw an object or punch a wall right by you, but it will eventually get worse. Take it from me, I was in a similar situation. I did have a child with the guy, I did marry him, and when I realized how abusive he was by watching him with my 3 month old daughter I decided to leave him. To make a long story short, I almost lost mine and my daughter's lives to him. He couldn't accept the fact that I was leaving him so he was going to shoot us all. Luckily, the police intervened and my daughter and I are safe. But please, I'm begging you don't give this guy that chance to do something similiar to you. Whatever you do , do not have his child.
2006-09-01 03:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG... any guy who makes you change so much about who you are as a person is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME. A true man will allow you to be yourself! A true man will want you to have friends! A true MAN will love you for who you are. If he only wants sex, doesnt allow you to have friends, or talk to other boys... he has SERIOUS issues that will only get worse with time. LEAVE HIM NOW... save your future.
2006-09-01 03:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that he is giving too much restriction to u, if u really love him, u can stay with him , but the biggest drawback is, u will lose many thing, weigh it, are those really important to u? friends? freedom? if u think u can neglect those, u can enjoy the happiness, if u think being with him lost the whole world... then life is? in contrast think of the other side, if u leave him, think of both possiblity, weigh which one is much greater and worth to go for.
2006-09-01 03:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Divineforge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, please leave him...He treats you awful. You need to find someone who will really love you. I really think that you will find out that you thought you loved him. This is not love my dear, this is controlling behavior. This is not what love is about. Love is about being your self, having friends, sharing with other people the joy that you share between you too. Love is not all about sex, it is a part of it. He is using you. Honey please leave him and take care of your self. Love, real love will find it's way to you and you will look back on this relationship, (as many of us have) and say to yourself what was I thinking?
Good Luck honey and God Bless
2006-09-01 03:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you really, truly love him? CAN you love him if he is this dependant? and does he really, truly love you?
do you want children? is he holding you back from having a family, and friends? ask yourself these. then the choice will be obvious.
2006-09-01 03:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not good you need your friends and SEX is not love its more like lust look up the definition of love
2006-09-01 03:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by taby158 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinking he own you.
if you not happy, try to run away cuz he going to hurt you bad when he catch you.
2006-09-01 03:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should sit down and talk to him; find out where his heart lies before you make any drastic changes.
2006-09-01 03:00:37 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋