2006-09-01 02:54:20 · 32 answers · asked by sunnydays 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you have are fond memories. Maybe you're not happy in the relationship you are currently in so you fool yourself in thinking that the one you had 20 years ago was perfect.
If ya can't be with the one ya love, honey, love the one you're with! Love the one you're with!
Seriously, forget about the past, you've both moved on and they might not even give you a second though any more. Embrace the life you have and find happiness with the one you love now and if it really isn't working out than get free and move forward, not back!!
2006-09-01 02:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by BlueSea 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same exact way. I haven't seen someone for over 10 years and still think about them every day. And I don't think that is going to change for a really long time. It just means that person is very special. In my case, I will never be able to see the person again. Ever. So it hurts even more. Your feelings are normal, the person must have really meant something to you and made a impact in your life.
2006-09-01 02:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by sparkzxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are single & they are single, call them! If one or both of you are in a relationship, let it go. But realize, 20 years is a long time - neither one of you would be the same person you were back then, anyway. The past can always looks rosy in your rear view mirror if you spend that much time pining for it.
In example: After my divorce, a man I had known before I was married as a friend called me & we were quickly head over heels - with blinders on. It ended badly 2 years later, long after the magic wore off. He had picked up more problems in life than I could handle, and he probably felt the same about me.
So enjoy your memories. The past is usually best left there.
2006-09-01 02:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be the one who got away. It's normal to still have feeling for this person. Afterall, we are human. The important thing to remember is that time makes all the bad things about people go away. Usually our memories only remember the good times. There was probably a good reason why this person is the one who got away. Try to remember that, and when you think of them just think how lucky you are to have those fond memories, and let it be from there. No one can live in the past.
2006-09-01 02:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by Nails 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it happened to me. My first boyfriend got in touch with me through classmates.com to see how I was doing. My heart started racing and I immediately felt like a teenager again!
Its been 6 yrs and we still occasionally keep in touch through email. We met once (he lives about an hour from me)for coffee since so many years had passed and he's actually better looking now than in high school! If he wasn't married,there's a chance we'd be together. The feelings are there we just can't do anything about them.
2006-09-01 03:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by iamjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a really long time but if it's been 20 years maybe u should try to find this person. get back in contact with them and see how there doing be make sure u prepare urself because u don't know if there married or in a serious relationship and u need to be prepared and make sure your ready for the out come. Good luck..
2006-09-01 02:57:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lu-Lu - hopelessly romantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with them about it. Get a feel to see if the feelings are mutual. Your attraction won't matter if he/she doesn't feel the same about you. Set up a "get together" like dinner or something and just get to know each other again. See where the conversation goes. You'll know after some time talking. Make sure he's not involved with someone else too. Good luck...!!!
2006-09-01 03:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by dolphinman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out how to let that person go... whoever you still have feelings for is NOT the same person you have those feelings for. 20 years is a long time, and that person has changed. Whoever you were in love with is long gone. People either grow together, or grow apart. I still care deeply for my first love, but I know that he isnt the same person he use to be.
2006-09-01 02:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check to see if this someone is married or otherwise involved. If they aren't and you aren't, then strike up a conversation or have lunch. Who knows, maybe that person will end up saying how much they have always liked you. If not, take the plunge and tell that person what your feelings are. If you don't, nothing can ever come of it.
2006-09-01 03:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by ps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are that in 20 years you have forgotten the bad stuff and have focused on the warm and fuzzy stuff. If you are married, forget about it. It is very likely he is married, too. And remember, that in 20 years people change alot and usually not for the better.
2006-09-01 02:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋