A fellow of mine has 2 daughters, one 13 the other 15 yo. She makes her daughters wear those frilly pinafores with straps that criss cross in the back and form a cute bow. I went to her house, the girls were wearing them and got kinda embarrassed. They told me this is their mom rule, they gotta wear them even when someone comes to the house. It's a kind of tradition there, though only the girls have to wear them all the time. Their mom wears sometimes. The girls hate them and get really embarrased when someone outside their household sees them in those pinafores. They asked me to try to talk their mom out of that rule, tough they think this is impossible. Actually, I asked her to let the girls take them off cause they were embarrassed and got a sound NO WAY! I told the girls it's not big deal, but they hate. It's true they look kinda cute, sweet and feminine in those pinafores. Really adorable. But is it OK their mom makes them wear pinafores? Does she have such right?
2006-09-01 02:47:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The girls complain this is the 21 st century and they gotta wear those frilly pinafores, lol! I see their point, but they look really adorable in them, and their embarrassment makes them look even sweeter, lol
2006-09-01 02:58:46 · update #1
she has the right, shes there mother... but if they dont wanna wear them they should tell her
2006-09-01 02:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To a point she has a right but then she is not letting the girls be themselves. She is forcing them to do something that she(mom)had to do when she was their age. My concern is do the girls wear these to school? If so do they get laughed at at school and do they have any friends? Do they have any other family member they could talk to about this? My wish for them is to keep trying with their mom and talk to her to let her know exactly how they feel about these pinafores that they feel FORCED to wear.
2006-09-01 09:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by stubbornmom2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! It is not right at their ages to make them do something like that. These girls will go into such rebellion once they get out of the house, there will be trouble for them. Did the mother explain why she makes them wear those things? And does she realize that it is the fantasy of many sick men to see girls in their teens dressed as a baby? Mom needs to take a laxative and unclench. This sounds like mom has control issues and issues with her "babies" growing up. Since the girls trust you, see if you can get the three of them to sit down and discuss this.
Good luck!
2006-09-01 09:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by jiminycricket 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The girls should not be forced to wear anything do do not want to unless it to protect thier modesty or for religous reasons. Girls that age are fragile self-esteem just from the changes caused by puberty and becoming adults. Being forced to wear something they concider embrassing can cause serious esteem issues for years! I think the problem might be the moms refusal to accept that her daughters are no longer little children and are no becoming young women. Maybe you should have a talk with her and help her deal with it and remind her of all the wonderful things she has to look foward to now that her girls are getting older
2006-09-01 10:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Their mom has mental problems. She obviously sees her daughters as cute little extensions of herself, not as individuals. How could someone want to harm their own children that way? She must want to live vicariously through their "innocense," even though it's a fantasy. What a sicko! Why is she your friend?
Someone with some sense and spine needs to put their foot down with that woman! If you can't, direct the girls to a school counselor.
Does she choose her husband's wardrobe too?
2006-09-01 10:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by georgia b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pinafores are a little out of date. the girls should be able to dress the way they want to, unless, their religion calls for a specific uniform.
2006-09-01 09:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, she shouldn't do that. It's not fair on them, and it detroys their self-confidence.
But she seems to be getting away with forcing them to wear them.
2006-09-01 09:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Honey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand what mom is doing, but there needs to be a flexibility
2006-09-01 09:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
her children are growing up and she needs to let them. i would hate my mom if she did that to me. i would start running away and do what ever i could to make her as miserable as me.
2006-09-01 09:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by maxossa1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋