daughter has job now that she loves, has to clean and take care of house after she comes home from work, was married to a guy just exactly like this, husband calls her names and tells her most of the problems are her fault even though HE came into the marriage with everything and she had very little, she owns up to when its her fault but HE doesn't, HE has land he could sell but HE doesn't want too,step-daughter runs the house when she is there and doesn't do the simplest things,she has to give her paycheck to him every week and doesn't get any money for her own,all late payments on bills are his and now it is also hers to for she took out a credit in her name,HE comes home and doesn't help clean house when asked, He puts on a loving attitude when others are around but isn't when they are alone, I've helped out all I can but now I can't HELP
2006-09-01 02:43:50 · 9 answers · asked by stubbornmom2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She has to live her life. All you can do is be there for her when she is ready to walk away from him or listen when she just wants to talk. She may never want to walk away. Maybe they'll work through things. Best thing YOU CAN DO is pray for her protection.
2006-09-01 02:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by pottersclay70 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember we teach people how to treat us. Your daughter needs to leave him. Why is she still with him? Tell her is it better to be happy and alone, than miserable with someone. Get her out of there. In too many cases if he starts out like this it is only a matter of time that he will hit her. Please tell her that she is worth more than being treated like this. She could find someone who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. She needs to work on her self esteem.
Good luck.. and God Bless
2006-09-01 02:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the problem can be resolved in a 5 line post. Sounds like a narcisstic personality. This person needs to be left or I can guarantee you it will get worst.
Here is an excellent support group that can help you better with dealings on this issue. http://groups.msn.com/NARCISSISTICPERSONALITYDISORDER/
Good luck!
2006-09-01 03:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by greenie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it or risk alienating her and her family. MYOB, it will be hard but only she has the power to do something and until she exercises it she is an enabler.
2006-09-01 02:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AT THIS POINT THERE ISN'T ANYTHING YOU CAN DO UNLESS SHE DECIDES TO LEAVE! YOU CAN ONLY SUPPORT HER WITH YOUR LOVE AND PATIENCE. IT'S SOLELY UP TO HER IF SHE CONTINUES TO STAY IN THIS ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. I'M NO EXPERT BUT IF I WERE IN HER PLACE I WOULD DEFINITELY LEAVE. I HOPE THEY DON'T HAVE ANY CHILDREN TOGETHER BECAUSE IT WOULD MAKE SO MUCH DIFFICULT FOR HER TO BREAK THE TIES TO HIM. I WISH YOU MUCH LUCK
2006-09-01 02:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Wisline F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do ANYTHING except help her when SHE chooses to leave.....My mom was the same
2006-09-01 02:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by Catcanscratch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult a lawyer
2006-09-01 02:45:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't want help, stay out of it. when she needs it , be there for her.
2006-09-01 03:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk someone
2006-09-01 02:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋