2006-09-01 02:35:26 · 34 answers · asked by folashade o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it has to do with... ta da.... Alpha Male Ego/PRIDE. I don't blame them, I wouldn't forgive my hubby for cheating either... but women tend to have more of a nurturing instinct... we rationalize and get all in touch with our emotions whereas men, once they've been cheated on, it makes them look like a fool. They get their feelings hurt and if it were a guy who "hurt their feelings" they'd just beat them up, but because in general most men won't hit a girl, they just cut that which hurt their feelings out of their life.
2006-09-01 02:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason that women hate to forgive their husband for cheating, its horrid thing it makes you feel less of a individual and therefore lowers you self-esteem, ruins relationships because now you don't "trust" them, and makes you believe all men or women are horrible cheating monsters...But of course men get more affected then women I do believe b/c of the idea that they are no longer needed or great in a macho kind of way. Since the beginning of time it has been the mans responsibility to please their wives and keep them in comfort and economically stable. But if she goes and finds someone else mean all of those ideals in their heads of being the great man goe sto hell and so they want to run away and hide form society and their friends and family b/c of the shame...
2006-09-01 02:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the main reason is that it hurt his little ego. she found someone that she may prefer over him & he doesnt know what 2 do about it. he may b afraid 2 ask. yes a realtionship is built on trust & when that is betrayed, it will take some time b4 that can b regained. but it is something that needs 2 b talked about in great lengths, an open line of communication & find out why she did it. was it something u did that she is retailating, do u give her enuf attention? is she satisified with ur performance. these r all things that must b addressed. when u ask her, b ready 4 anything. dont b on the defensive & get upset. try 2 work with her & c if this can b resolved. good luck
2006-09-01 02:47:30 · answer #3 · answered by ladydi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is difficult on both sides however, the majority of men cheat because it is purely a physical need and not at all an emotional attachment. Women on the other hand, although it may be physical, it usually has an emotional quality to it therefore it is not just the booty shes giving up, it is a part of her heart as well.
2006-09-01 02:44:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cause men, while maybe devoted, always like a good reason for seperation - to play the field and see what else is out there - women tend to be very devoted and never waiver from that, even forgiving multiple times cheating spouses...goes back to the urge for males to bang everything in sight....and females usually were the extremely loyal ones.
2006-09-01 02:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Trent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason women find it hard to forgive their husbands when they cheat. I realized something when my ex cheated on me: it hurt WORSE than when a close relative died. When we were still trying to work things out, I couldn't come to grips with how bad & long it hurt. I was talking to my very philosophically wise sister one day about that. She said " It hurts worse because when someone you love dies, you know they did not CHOSE to hurt you." Ouch!
Why do people not think about the ripple effect on those they love BEFORE they act on some bad, selfish, immature impulse is beyond me.
2006-09-01 02:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by mustanglynnie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to forgive anyone after they cheat, regardless if they are male or female. a violation of trust has been committed. was it a one-time occurance or a full-blown affair? i would seek counseling and speak to your partner. people can make mistakes. if she is sincere about making the relationship work, then you must find it in your heart to let this stay in the past and move forward with greater knowledge and understanding. good luck to you.
2006-09-01 02:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that ole...double standard...i think woman are just more forgiving in that aspect. A man's ego is sensitive, he will never let down that she gave "his" stuff away. It happened to me....found out my man slept with his ex.....i was very upset of course, but was able to work past it..i couldn't do the same with him..sucks though b/c people make mistakes and it doesn't mean that u love the person any less....my opinion anyway
2006-09-01 02:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better question would be why are you asking such a question? Seriously...why can't someone forgive an unloyal cheating liar?? Uhhh let's see....because they are unloyal.....a liar....have no repect for themselves, their spouse or their children. ....embarress the other person and make a general mess of all peoples lives just because they aren't happy or thought the grass was greener....stupid question!!
2006-09-01 02:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that violates the sanctity of the relationship. I would get a divorce personally. If I tried to stick it out I would go crazy of the thought of her being with another man, and possibly do something that would either get me a life sentence or the death penalty. Not worth it. That's a big deal.
2006-09-01 02:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋