I don't know what happens at these meetings. We are getting married in a Presbyterian church.
2006-09-01 02:31:13 · 7 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We got married at a prebyterian church in july. At the meetings there was 6 other couples who were also getting married. At my church the meeting covered-relationship between two people(make it work).what makes a good marriage. About the christan marriage rite. The vows, pre- martial sex. It was nothing on a personal level because there was other people, we were used as the examples, but it was fine and the wedding went fine. i Hope this helped you inderstand it better. Congradulations.
2006-09-01 02:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married in a presbyterian church & our pastor was very laid back at our pre-wedding meetings. he already knew we were living together & just said he was glad we were completing our commitment & getting married. because we lived out of town from where the church is he asked that we try to have 1 session with an mft (marriage & family therapist) that he knew. we didn't end up doing that but it didn't seem to matter to him.
he asked what we loved about each other, how/when we met, if we had any particular things we wanted him to say during the ceremony, what our particular religious backgrounds were, that type of thing. neither of us was presbyterian (my hubby is a non-practicing catholic & i am non-denominational) but once again, it was not an issue. he knew my mom cuz she was a member of the church so i think that made a difference.
we had to attend 1 pre-wedding meeting, 1 intro to the presbyterian church class & a member's meeting (but didn't have to become members if we didn't want to). all were good classes without being too preachy.
i don't know about all presbyterian churches, but our pastor was very nice & non-judgemental. we both felt really comfortable getting married there even though we weren't presbyterian.
2006-09-01 18:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by ms v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our meetings were very personal and very long. We talked about what our home like was like growing up and how that has influenced what we want our home life to be like. We talked about kids and how we want to raise them, about finances and how we see money differently, about how to fight fairly, etc. A lot of it was very useful, and the whole thing is supposed to help get potential issues out in the open before the wedding happens and also to prepare you for how you need to compromise on your differences for a happy marriage.
2006-09-01 14:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Views on marriage, money, children, sex;, how you fight, about your faith, family background, things like that. Don't psyche yourself up over this. The Pastor is there to help you, make sure you understand the responsibilities of marriage, have you work on the weak spots so that you can have a strong, healthy marriage.
2006-09-01 09:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will ask you if you forsee any problems in your relationship like money, child-rearing, family relations, conflict resolution, etc. Depending on how conservative he/she is, they might ask you if you are living together, using birth control, etc. It's really nothing to worry about, and the questions will probably be really easy to handle. Good luck!
2006-09-01 09:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our priest just asked basic questions, like how did meet, when did we start dating, how long we have been together, those types of questions, and then he explained the sacrament of marriage to us.
2006-09-01 10:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had to go to one. Most likely he will talk to you about the serious thing you are about to do. Make sure you and your soon to be husband are on the right page in regards to kids, sex, etc... Maybe discuss how to solve arguments, compromising, etc...
2006-09-01 09:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋