I have a 3.8yr old son. He is developmentaly delyed by 1yr. He has inadeqate speech. He can not hold the pencil. He can not draw circle. He was born prematurely at the age of 33weeks. Instead of keeping him in nursery the pediatri gave him to the relative for feeding. My wife was serious and was in ICU as her BP shoot up at the time of extubation. I was busy there. My son was given milk with spoon by my relative. . On 3rd day at about 3 pm I found that he became apoenic and I took him to the nursery. I don't know whether pediatri started glucose or not because when I reached in nursery at 10.30 pm I found he was again apnoeic and one senior pediatri was adjusting the drip rate. He told me that my son had an episode of hypoglycemia. And he was checked only once. After the drip he did not have any more apnoea.This doc was not in favour of I/V fluid. I was all that helplessly as I didn't have time. And I was also a pediatrician in same deptt ! Now what should I do for my guilt feeling
2006-09-01 02:29:27 · 13 answers · asked by KUNRA 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Arun, remember: What can not be cured must be endured. Better said then done, but you do not have anything in your hands now. Every individual does the best in given point of time, that too in emtional relations. You now have three things at hand: Take care of your child, take care of yourself and take care of your wife. If you feel depressed or feeling guilty conscious, your whole family would be at loss. You are the head of the family, muster some courage and start life as has been presented to you. Feeling defeated gets you defeat sooner than later. You have to take it as such: God wanted so. Be a man and fight it out.
My best wishes are with you.
2006-09-01 02:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am confused a little bit. Anyway when you are having problems with people you love being ill, Pray. I know that sounds like it is just some old lady from church yelling Pray to you. But I don't go to church, and I am not old.
I believe in God and that if you ask him for help he will help you. It may not be that day. But I believe God only gives you as much as you can handle. He is testing you to see what kind of person you really are. Love your son with all you can and ask God every day for help. Truley he is the answer to all problems.
2006-09-01 09:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by Bears#1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some time off! See your own doctor and ask if you should take some anti-depressant medication. Spend some time with your wife and son. You have too much stress.
For your son, is he being seen by a speech therapist and occupational therapist? The sooner the better. My son is autistic, and we found out late (he was 5), but now, with the right services, he is doing well. Good luck!
2006-09-01 09:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by TigerLilly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
adjusting to life with a prem baby is hard enough to cope with,you will undoutably have anxieties about why the baby was born early, was it anything that you did etc have you asked the peadiatricians at the special care unit about your sons condition and what lead them to only check on him once? if they cannot give you a clearily defined answer then they may be negligent in the care of your child, in the first instance check all the birth,care details of your son whilst he was in hospital b4 you go any further with any possible complaints
2006-09-01 09:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it.. you were there by your wifes side as she needed you/ the hospital personnel were taking care of and making the decisions to help your child out.... are you blaming yourself because you coudln't be in two places at the same time.. things happen for a reason, and i'm sure as your child gets older he will improve... and just don't worry about it.. enjoy him for the little boy he is and thank your maker for allowing you the gift of a son, because things could have been worse for him being born that prematurely.. just count your blessings and snap out of the darkness! You're not guilty of anything.
2006-09-01 09:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by someone s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Calm down. You have many worries and many burdens and many stresses right now. Get rest. See a trusted colleague to talk about all that is going on in your life. Do NOT try to keep everything inside yourself. Let go of all guilt, friend. Let it go and do your best right now. The "best" thing that you can do right now is rest, talk with a friend, and then tend to your son and wife. Please add a comment here in a few days and let us know how you and your family are, please.
2006-09-01 09:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peolpe are depressed because they choose to be. If the word,DEPRESSED did not exist, then what would you be. You could and can be anything or any mood that you decide or choose to be. When one allows circumstances beyond thier control to affect them in a negative or a positive way , that is the choice that we all decide on. When one chooses not to allow circumstances and events to affect them in a negative way, they cannot.
Is pretty bad about your loved ones yet , can you be any good to or for them if you allow yourself to become less or unable to think rationally.
Peace Love and /Respect, Big Ups at you.
2006-09-01 09:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault.
put your own feelings aside and love your son for who he is.
who says he has to draw a circle or hold a pencil? Children shouldn't be compared to others. he is unique, beautiful & carries your blood through his veins.
He is here now, I'm sure he is happy. Your son is just happy to be alive, have you as a father. Accept life for what it is.
Love your son, he needs you right now. Teach him all you know.
Don't be sad.
2006-09-01 09:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by ♣ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can tell you is you're going to have to forgive yourself otherwise, the guilt will eat away at you. Pray about it and ask God to help you and your family.
2006-09-01 09:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by tracy211968 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the english version of Bhagavad Gita and everything would be resolved.
2006-09-01 09:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋