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2006-09-01 02:28:18 · 31 answers · asked by BOOM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow really great answers, keep em' coming
its nice to know people out there have been through the same thing
2006-09-01 02:51:34 · update #1
1) practise a new/old hobby:
sometimes when we start seeing someone we get so carried away and forget about our friends/interests so try to pick up where u left and/or find a new hobby.just keep urself busy, go to the gym if u want, u will look and feel better and get away all the negative energy..doesnt have to be exhausting exercises.
2) change something about u:
whether its ur bed sheets, curtains, dinning plates or ur hair cut..whatever..just add new changes.
3) memories cleaning:
store, return, burn or throw away all the belongings of that person and anything that is associated with them.
4) me, myself and i:
try to make urself ur best friend. how? by treating urself like u would to a precious person/best friend. by:
*taking care of ur in and outside.
*being honest with ur feelings and desires.
5) avoid people/situations/songs..etc that remind u of that person or discuss and talk about love (mr.lonely song for example..etc)
6) set new goals for urself, its ur time to focus on urself and not be worried about another person on ur life.
7) remain positive:
instead of saying: ill never be inlove again, ill always be alone..etc etc
say: it's not the end of the world, i WILL love again, and be heartbroken again, and be happy again..nothing is forever. everything has an end, including loneliness.
instead of saying: it sucks that im alone
say: its a great opportunity to do all the projects and goals ive been putting on hold.
8) try to gather and meet up with ur friends:
im not asking u to go out every night and stay in a crowd, even if its just 1 or 3 friends its okay, meet up and go out or stay in.have a heart to heart talk..something open..if u can't for anyreason write it on a paper and then get rid of it.. and get rid with the negative or bad habits and feelings along with every piece u tear up from that paper.
loneliness can be cold and painful. ive been there many times.. but the important thing is to turn a negative feeling/situation into a beautiful positive gift..
and who knows..perhaps something good could results from this?
2006-09-01 02:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Breakup Loneliness
2016-12-14 20:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've an answer you may agree or not
Get a good challenging hobby and be amazed what you can learn I've taken on electronic's and computers now I'm so buisy even when People want to see me have no time or get impaitent and wait for them to leave.Ill never feel lonley and the other part ,exchanging of body fluid's is overrated anyway'
Take care!
2006-09-01 02:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it been long enough to start getting lonely or do you just have time on your hands now? First you need to grieve the loss and allow yourself healing time. This part varies from person to person, so don't start dating until YOU feel ready.....not what your friends think. You need to also figure out how you contributed to the breakup.
Little by little you will find yourself wanting to go out and meet people, to get back into living life, instead of sitting on the sidelines.
If you have done this & are missing the companionship, it's time to get up & out. The lonliness will be filled by friends & activities...and the special someone who finds you irresistible.
2006-09-01 02:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being single for awhile, especially if you've been in a long term relationship. get some guys together and go on a vacation where you're only worried about having a few (dozen) drinks, doing guy stuff, and meeting hot single girls.
Take some time to read, and self reflect on your life.. sounds corny but it's important to re-evaluate who you are as a person.
Get a pet if all your looking for is another creature to care for.
2006-09-01 02:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keeping your friends and family close is a good idea as well as using this time to analyze why the break up happened. I wouldn't rush out too quickly to start dating right away until you are happy with your self, and knowing what went wrong, what you can do differently next time. Lonliness is very tough and can destroy you if you don't get tough with yourself by pulling up by the bootstraps, try something different, a new hobby, sport. Try smiling more. People like to be around those who give off possitive vibs, and are happy with themselves. Hang out with groups, not so much with one's that are all paired up as couples. don't give in to lonliness.
2006-09-01 02:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I broke up 2 months ago after a five year relationship. I took up an Hapkido class, go the gym regularly, meeting new people at work I'm traveling all this month and turning to god and family. It helps but after all that laying in bed at night I still get lonely and think about her. I think it just takes time, just do things you like to do and find yourself.
2006-09-01 02:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by lionsfourme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't get over loneliness unless you live it to the fullest when you feel it.
If you try to trick yourself by going out and pretending to have fun when you aren't, the only result you'll get is to have this feeling of loneliness and emptiness over and over again through the years because it hasn't benn erased, it has been hidden...
2006-09-01 02:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Vette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups suck and they will continue to suck at some level for a while, so expect that nothing is going to change that. I would suggest that you do things that enhance your life and your options. Think about things that you are interested in and seek out ways to do them, preferably things that take you out of your living space (classes, interest groups, hobbies, **** like that). Sports are good but you specifically want activities that make you think and keep your mind busy. This will lesson the blow of missing your former partner and help you get your mind off of it. These things heal in time, so best pass the time doing something rather than doing nothing but thinking about it.
Take care
2006-09-01 02:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by tcb9020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, get a pet, do something that you've always wanted to do, but haven't had the chance...
Go to a hair salon and get a good scalp massage before getting your hair cut, or go to a spa and get a back massage, and YES these things are for guys too! It's relaxing, treat yourself!
2006-09-01 02:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋