He doesn't hug and kiss when he gets off work because he is so tierd when we make love it's not love it is just sex!
2006-09-01 02:16:15 · 16 answers · asked by Lady J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well some men are the affectionate type and some aren't or sometimes you have the ones that are just to lazy to do it and just don't give a damn. The only thing you can do at this point is tell him how you feel. Hopefully he will be understanding and give you what you long for. But in the event that he doesn't there is only two things you can do. 1. Leave him and find someone else to give you what you need. 2. Accept him for who he is and live with the fact that he is never going to change his ways just to make you happy. He has to want to be affectionate with you that's not something you can make him want if he doesn't want it on his own. Good Luck
2006-09-01 02:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you don't interest him anymore. He might have started to get bored with the same routine everyday. Or he might also have problems in his work that is worrying him so he is not taking care of you. The solution: talk to him frankly. Ask him whats the problem. Tell him what you want exactly and also try to know what he is looking for too! Don't be too routine, I mean doing the same things everyday. try to change some habits, surprise him by doing things that he would like but what he was not expecting. If the problem is related to sex, then I would suggest you to watch some porn films if you don't have much ideas, and try to do things that you didnt do before. In general, men like when thier wives/gfs are horny and do sex just like in films! To maintain a relationship, there should always be changes!
2006-09-01 09:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ma lady, search your self to see if u aren't the achitech of your own problem, do your attitude corespond with his liking? do u do things that he does'nt want u doing? have u take time to understand what his problem is? have u make him know the real meaning of a woman? when he offends u do u call him and correct him or u get mad and start yelling at him? are u the boss of the house that give command and what u say is final? if u can swallow ur pride and follow all this things accordingly, things will be fine. No matter what show him the best love u can when u are together wisper lovely words into his ears let him know that where ever he is and what ever he is doing he should always remember that there is someone at home who love and adore him 4 who he is at home. I promise u this he will never spend a moment without thinking of u.
2006-09-01 10:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Peace G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man sounds like he's pretty stressed out from work. So before you guys do the horitonzal limbo, you should try getting him a little relaxed before then. Try giving him a massage, it's more relaxing when you use oil. Try setting the mood first by making dinner, playing romantic music, light some candles, offer him a bath, light something frangrance and again the massage always helps. If you want him to be romantic, help him out by setting a romantic mood. He's obviously too tired to do it himself, so meet him halfway. Also try to wear some sexy lingerie for him. If you've tried this a few times, you may have better results. But if it doesn't seem to help, maybe you two should talk about what's going on to try to find a better solution.
2006-09-01 09:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad it's you he's using, not someone else.
one technique for promoting harmony in marriage is to arrange some quiet time for the husband when he first gets home from work. he should have ten to twenty minutes alone when he first gets back from work, time to take his shoes off and relax or have a shower.
a similar but slightly different approach is to have a small list of duties for him to perform. for example, to hang out the washing and vacuum clean the house.
or he could go for a walk to get some fresh air and get his blood circulating.
the idea is to find the best way to let him change gears mentally, from his work point of view to his loving partner point of view.
2006-09-01 09:33:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's too exhausted to think about anything and he's walking around like a zombie?? Cut him some slack. Try kissing and hugging him when he gets in.
2006-09-01 09:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, as a guy I can tell you that we aren't exactly observant most of the time. If you don't tell him something is wrong, he probably won't know, and when it gets to the point that you can't take it anymore he will have no idea what you're upset about. Really, we're pretty clueless most of the time.
2006-09-01 09:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to get rested and back away for a while. Maybe there is something that's bothering him right now. Talk to him and ask him what's up? You should be able to find out something then and take it from there.
2006-09-01 09:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Sometimes guys don't realize that the stresses of life affect there relationships. Let him know how you feel and I'm sure he will come around.
2006-09-01 09:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new hair cut, get a makeover, get a new wardrobe. He is bound to notice you and rekindle the lost flame.
2006-09-01 09:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by fever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋