hey looking for advices about my female friend which i think im falling in love with.
i'm 20 she's 21 where church friends any way we where hang out a lot and so on and she told me she didn't want a relationship at the moment.
so i told her how i felt about her. she reply with some thing compermentry back.
i beleave the reson why she dosen't want a relationship rit now is that she is too busy and that she is shy.
what should i do and how can i get to know her better with out making her feel like im trying to go out with her but at the same time show her im still inestead.
2006-09-01 02:02:05 · 7 answers · asked by jazberg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't want to make her feel pressured. I think you still talked to her and hung out with her, this will pretty much indicate that you are still in fact interested. Just to keep your intentions clear and fresh on the table, every month you should remind her that you still care for her and would still like to one day persue a relationship with her....of course when SHE's ready. If you really want to be with her, let her know that you are patient and will wait until she's ready to have a relationship. I think the good thing, is that she didn't say "Wellll, why can't we just be friends." To me, it at least sounds like she's indicating "I would consider it, but I'm just alittle shy and preoccupied right now." The bad thing would be that you've waited all this time, and THEN she says "let's be friends." Now that would be a bad thing :-)
Good luck!
2006-09-01 02:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all you can do is just be her friend.The two of you can go out to the movies out to dinner etc as friends. Once she's ready to make more of the friendship she will let you know and she will respect you more for not pressuring her about being in a relationship. Mean while you still get to be around her and show your interest in her as a person and a potential girlfriend and have a good time with her while you wait. Not to mention the two of you will have a stronger bond when you do get together. It best to be a persons friend before getting involved with them.
2006-09-01 09:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to respect her space. Pushing your attentions on her isn't the way to go, you'll just push her away, Especially if she's busy and shy! Be there, be a friend, help her out if you can (studying, church activities, etc.). If she gave a nice answer while saying "not now," give her time. She might come around in a couple of years if you don't push it.
2006-09-01 09:05:15 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't handwrite her a love letter, as you too obviously need a spellcheck. Just explore the friendship deeper if you want be closer to her, who knows where it may lead.
2006-09-01 09:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by McAtterie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you do nothing. If she says she does not want a relationship, respect her wishes. If she becomes interested in you, she will let you know.
2006-09-01 09:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-01 09:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont force it. if u force it then she might just do it to please u then u wont be happy cuz she's not really happy. she continue to be her friend and if and when she's ready........u'll be happy
2006-09-01 09:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by sexygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋