do you men think that when a girl says she loves you she means she wants to marry you???
or
do you just think she has a lot of feelings for you and love is the only way to describe how she feels??
Do you think love means that its a massive commitment
why are you scared by this word???
2006-09-01 01:47:10 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it is just an expression of her feelings about the situation... i wouldn't say that she'd be wanting marriage...
2006-09-01 01:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many steps in a relationship before it arrives at marriage and love is definitely an essential ingredient on that journey.
If a woman says she loves me I would think that she would be thinking about marriage somewhere along the line and if I were in love with her and I liked her -Not always the same thing, then that's okay.
However, if I didn't love her even though I cared about her I would feel an awful responsibility for her and it could well change how I viewed the relationship. That's not to say I would dump her but I would in all likelihood, start the long slow process of trying to help her untangle her feelings for me and prepare her for disappointment.
And that's exactly how it happened for me once. The lady is no longer in love with me but we are very good friends.
You ladies are very resilient but in my experience many of you fall in love too quickly and too easily. Most stable guys, that are not 'needy,' are more cautious.
Am I scared of love? No, no I'm not.
2006-09-01 09:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by Mars 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is just feeling soulfully connected to someone and havign a strong connection run by very strong emotions, marriage is somehting comepletely different however, and means different thigns for different people, but essentially, marriage is, or at least should be, a strong binding between two people, despite their gender or sexual orientation, presumablly for the rest of their lives, it kind of creates the right of you are no longer just two seperate people who love each other, you now have an officially respected unit, a beginning of a family, a household, whatever. The reason s many straight men, not me but others, are afraid of marriage is probably because they love you, but they are insecure about the rest of their lives. I mean, a lot of them arent' sure about a lot of things about themselves at the moment, save that they love the woman who wants to marry them, so since they don't know everything about themselves, the idea of forever seems like a agaisnt th ewill binding, the ball and chain if you will, but of course, you can never speak for everybody.
2006-09-01 08:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by locomonohijo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and have been married for 10 years BUT, going back to my single days (I dated around a lot) it was a pretty scary word at times. If I wasn't feeling the same way it would scare me because i knew at that moment someone (her) would be hurt, as I knew there was no future between us. That's why we date - to trust, to take risks, to possibly be hurt and to grow.
If you're asking because you told your beau that you loved him and he didn't respond in kind, take solace in the fact that you took a risk which is a good thing.
2006-09-01 09:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, but, I meet my husband when I was 17. We didn't do anything but get to know each other for he is older than me. He told me he loved me and wanted to marry me all at the same time. This was before we ever did ANYTHING. We have been married two years and have a house and a little boy. My husband wasn't afraid of it.
2006-09-01 08:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI.
Women are powered by bigger emotional engines than us poor sods.
When they first say it,they usually mean it since they value emotional attachment and the reciprocation of it.
Sadly, the male reply to it is something like 'good- now go get me a beer'.
We just haven't caught up on the evolution bit yet.
Just enjoy the mushy bit,and try not to get paranoid.
If she takes you on a mystery date wearing a wedding dress however..........
2006-09-04 16:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by misterviv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age of the guy
I think when they are younger they equate love and marriage maybe but as you age you understand the feelings surrounding that
2006-09-01 08:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by gstolard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your timing, if you tell him you love him just before he's off down the Pub with his mates, you'll expediate his exit!
If you tell him just before your about to jump into Bed with him, you'll expediate his entrance! its a fact of life Love & Commitment
are like learning a foreign language to Men, some grasp it quicker than others.
2006-09-01 16:56:55 · answer #8 · answered by Stephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are mature enough , will take it lightly , if not will take it in different sense . There is no harm to say so ,and one should not take it as commitment till explain in a very clear way . Good luck .
2006-09-01 08:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clever men will first consider if this was a dreamy-eyed girl just relating her dream or a true reflection of her desires.
2006-09-01 09:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by kytho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because for some men,when you say "i love you" marry me usually comes next,and that not what they want.
2006-09-01 08:51:22 · answer #11 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋