The man then begins to go to pyscho therapy to sort himself out. He wants the woman to wait for him, but not be with him through this. What would you do? What do you think?
2006-09-01 01:34:51 · 12 answers · asked by baroness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
time to move on buddy....you're wasting so much of your time
2006-09-01 01:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you've already given it two years...you need to tell him when he gets himself straight to call..and if you're still available, you can talk.
He could be in therapy the rest of his life. He could find out, as part of therapy, that you aren't the right person for him. You could find out that after therapy, you aren't attracted to him any more.
What he wants is to not lose what he has...this is not a good deal for the woman.
Let's see....You want a job..I'm going to offer you a job...but I can't do it today. I want you to wait until I get back from a trip that may last 2 weeks, or 2 years. In the meantime, I don't want you to take another job, and I'm not going to support you financially while you wait for me to make a decision about hiring you....are you going to be financially destitute and put your life on hold while I take my trip?
2006-09-01 08:42:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its time to move on, life is too short to wait for what may never come....... and it could take yrs for this person to sort himself out....... there are people who go for yrs..... 9-20 yrs to be exact....... it takes a long time to really work and sort through ones life and if you are waiting, then thats not fair when your counter part may be waiting for you around the corner somewhere. I hope you move on and just keep a friendship and an understanding with this person......... you deserve happiness and a full life. Blessed be..........
2006-09-01 11:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you want to do?
have you seen anything in him that is worth waiting for?
do you feel like a change?
In my opinion, the man is hoping to become more assertive and self-confident. he doesn't want you to "help" him achieve that.
you are taking a gamble on the outcome. with the passing of time he may desire to experiment with other women.
is he even going to therapy? he may want you out of the way so he can have an affair right now.
2006-09-01 08:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you care for him, and that you hope he finds a way to help himself through this, but you'll need to live your life, and you can't waste an indefinite amount of time waiting for him.
He doesn't want to be with you right now is the same as he doesn't want to be with you.
Good luck
2006-09-01 08:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,if the relationship is that troublesome why stay in it ? He sounds like he has more going on than he wants to tell you .There are more men out there why settle for the stupid stuff.If he wants to be alone let him cause after 2yrs of dating you and he can't commit to you,you don't need him.
2006-09-01 08:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Me-Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see the kind of progress in one year, but still keep my options open
2006-09-01 08:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand the situation and pray God to help you...i don't know what the problems are...HE KNOWS, ask HIM, ask for HIS HELP!
2006-09-01 08:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by liveasahb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u force him to go the priest and say u do
2006-09-01 08:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go to hell by himself!
2006-09-01 08:36:41 · answer #10 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋