2006-09-01 00:36:07 · 33 answers · asked by sparky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes,the tears come now.
2006-09-01 00:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think death of any close friend or family member affects you.
1) Grandad - affected the type of relationship I wanted as he treated my granny so well
2) Young friend - died suddenly of crohns disease. Made me look at how I lived my life health wise
3) Friend - died suddenly of heart attack without writing a will for his long term partner of 20 years. His family walked off with everything - she got nothing. Always had a will ever since.
4) Friend/colleague - she was the maddest of hatters in the best possible way. Would dance and sing in office, and set up a wine tasting club on her train (on the way to work). Found out she had cancer and was dead within a fortnight. She reminded me at a low point to enjoy life (and have a fun funeral).
5) Colleague - helped me in a case and was in local politics. Her funeral opened my eyes to all the principals she held dear and fought for all her life and reminded me to never give up in what I believe in.
6) A current family member is dying and all through my life he has been so kind and giving. Not just to me but all family members. As a result he is supported by everyone on a daily basis repaying all his kindness. I hope when I find out it's my time I have done enough to go surrounded by such love.
2006-09-01 02:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!! , i would have to say it has, when i was 20 my dad died aged 51, at 21 my mom died aged 52, when i was 22 my brother died aged 36, the following year my other brother got cancer,,, he strugggled for the next 10 yrs fighting cancer, unfortunalty he lost his battle 2 yrs ago,, IM 44 now and have done evrything i ever wanted to do, i have travelled the world seeing everything imaginable alone, parachuted for charity, and always live by the rule that you never know whats around the corner, so never regret or put anything off just do it!! i am a great beliver in the fact that if 'the man' upstairs wants you he will take he doesnt care where or what you are doing!! Im flyin to USA on 11th SEPT to do another US tour,,, i think life is for the living,, and you should enjoy!!!
2006-09-01 00:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by linda r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should elaborate on your question. Of course losing somebody who is part of your life will force you to change.
If you mean change your attitude toward life, then it depends on the individual circumstances.
I've been unfortunate to lose several family members and a couple of friends 'early'.
All I have learned is that you can't take anything for granted. You should make the most of your life and not throw it away. This also depends on your own personality, but generally, work toward achieving something important to you or just have as much fun as you can. This doesn't look like a fair choice (work or fun?!?!) but remember that the more work you put into achieving an objective, the more satisfaction and 'fun' you get from it.
2006-09-01 00:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course. It can be shock, despair, regret, a deep sadness, or some kind of wake up call. Don't be surprised whatever your reaction. You may be affected in an extreme way - ie a whole re-evaluation of your own life or life style - or you may just react differently to occurrences at work or in your relationships with those close to you. Your relative's death probably signals a new chapter in your life.
2006-09-01 01:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by CMW 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I felt very vulnerable and that life was not as robust as I had always thought after each of my parents died.
One of the hardest things was accepting that there was nothing I nor anyone else could do about it. They had come to the end of their lives. We are so used to hoping that people will get better when they are sick that understanding that a terminal illness means they won't get better is one of the hardest things to deal with.
I remember being in my car (alone) a few weeks after each of my parents died and just driving along and wailing, thinking that now they had gone everyone would begin to go, my daughter, my husband, everyone.
But of course that was not the case and my duaghter is about to present my husband and me with our second grandchild.
Life, you learn, does go on.
2006-09-01 01:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by granny2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah my little sister died when i was 13, changed my whole philosophy, now i dont let things bother me cos the majority of stuff just ain't worth worrying about. It makes me laugh when people get really uptight an upset over stupid little things, i just think how lucky they are that the most concerning issue they have is that they didnt get tomatoe in their cheese sandwhich ( I use to work in a cafe). Live life to the full and be thankful for what you do have cos you never know when it will all change
2006-09-01 00:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Everyday, it can change your life, but you need to try not too, its very hard, life goes on, and you need to go with it...or it will soon bring you down, doesn't mean that you forget the person who has passed on, it means that you have learnt to live with it. Think about the person who has died, and think how they would feel if they knew the problem you were having dealing with their death. Celebrate their life and not their death, that is what i do, i lost my Son and my Mother, a year apart, and what i have written above it what i do, good luck and god bless.
2006-09-04 08:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does. Over a period of 9 years I lost both parents and two sisters. It has taken me a long time to learn how this has affected me. Don't push the pain and sadness away, deal with it, and acknowledge your feelings. Life does go on, but you never stop missing those who leave us.
2006-09-01 00:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by JP 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think it has
i lost me mum when she was only 36 (i was 12) and i lost my dad when he was only 52 (i was 29) i have no living grand parents left. I live each day to the full and love life i take whatever is thrown at me and tend to bounce back lifes to short to worry about things and let things get to you it cetainly makes you think about life differently and with me it turnt me into a bit of a fighter rather than the wuss i used to be i mean that in a good way :-)
2006-09-01 00:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by kj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, My Dad died very suddenly in 2000 and my Mum died after having many repeated of cancer in different places in 2001, I am 27 now and still live with my 23 year old brother and feel somewhat responsible for him.
I have had to deal with solicitors, banks and lots of other paperwork assoiated with their passing(as everyone does) and I have come through the other end. I still think about them every day and miss them very much.
2006-09-01 00:41:17 · answer #11 · answered by Lyndsey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋