hi there im a mother of 2..my older son (4 yrs) enjoy when someone bites him,one day he gave me his finger and asked me to bite him hard...when i refused he start crying and refused to eat..then i tried to bite him lightly but he wants harder bites,then i tried biting him harder ,he laughed and kindda enjoy it..im soo freaked out..what should i do???
2006-09-01 00:33:18 · 8 answers · asked by eddy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
today he asked his sister to bite him..she broke the skin and he was soo proud of the wound!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-01 03:40:27 · update #1
A lot of children "experiment" with pain. It is generally something that they outgrow. I would not be participating in biting him however, you would be more conscious of not wanting to hurt him, but he could take this as acceptance and ask another child to do so and end up being severely hurt. You are going to have to tough it out, through this one. Don't be freaked out, you have to be the strong one and try your best to lead him to break the cycle. Keep refusing to bite him, let him refuse to eat, it's no big deal, children will not let themselves starve, he is just trying to control his world, and he is quickly learning that this is "freaking you out." It is just another one of those power struggles that we parents have to learn to deal with. Does he want anyone else to bite him, his Dad his younger sibling....is he attempting to bite them? If not, you have to be the strong one, on your own and refuse to play into this. Do not continue to bite him, even softly he is leading you around as if you were the child and he is the adult. Begin immediately, no I am not biting you, this is a new rule, we do not bite in this house. No, I am not biting you and I don't care if you don't eat, that is your decision. You are going to have to tough it out, it will be difficult; but you can do it. If you do not get control of this situation now, this child will be playing you like a puppet for the rest of your life. Sorry if this is harsh, but I have been a teacher in the special education field over twenty-five years and have seen simular things go on before. One of my students older sisters a few years ago started the whole business of threatening to hold her breath until she would get her way, or so she thought. She was reacting at five, without enough of a vocabulary; to the fact that she felt left out because of the time and effort that her parents had to spend with the younger physically challenged sibling. Her parents were counciled by the child's doctor to let her hold her breath and ignore her. It was excruciating for the parents to watch this, of course the doctor knew that the child was in excellent health and the only thing that would happen was that she would pass out, which she did on two occasions within days of each other, she of course began breathing again as soon as she passed out, so the threat ended up being groundless. The daughter only carried out the threat twice, and learned that she had no power over her parents with this and it was quickly forgotten. Stand your ground, he will not starve, I promise you. This is an exploration of control and nothing more. Best of luck to you, take a deep breath and go forward. Have a good day.
2006-09-01 01:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he was just exploring what it feels like...he's four, everything he does is a learning experience...don't get freaked out, he'll thing something is wrong with him. If it bothers you that much talk to your doc. about it...most likely he'll tell you it's just a phase...he'll grow out of it.
Make sure you let him know that other people don't like to be bit, andthat it would not be okay for him to bite one of his friends...and if your worried about them biting him explain aobut germs and that when we put things, like our hands or other poeples hands, in our mouths it spreads germs.
Good Luck and calm down...you are an adult and have a different view on what this could be...he is an innocent child who doesn't have those thoughts.
Blessed Be!
2006-09-01 00:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my 9year old daughter went through the same during her first year at school. I took her to a child psychologist, he said that it was normal for children to experiment with pain, and that she was just exploring herself.
Think about it, when a baby falls down, they laugh right? But as they get older something in the brain tells them that actually this sensation is called pain, and is desgned by the body to act as a warning system when something is happening that shouldn't be.
Don't worry, he'll grow out of it. ;)
2006-09-01 00:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your pediatrician.There could be something wrong that in his body, pain is registering incorrectly or your child could just be experimenting with different feelings. Either way, a checkup won't hurt anything. I would not suggest biting your child no matter how much he "likes" it. Human bites can become extremely infected.
2006-09-01 00:41:53 · answer #4 · answered by PurpleAnkh 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him biting is 'dirty'. Tell him that if someone bites him dirty germs will get in there and he will get sick and have to take yucky medicine.
2006-09-01 04:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
luk, i wud say u need to take him to some psychologist or somthing, coz this can turn into either something not good sexually or something abnormal that makes him enjoy torturing his body.
2006-09-01 00:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by csimax007 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he loves the pain. he will be a freak someday. enjoy him.
2006-09-01 01:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
pls take him to a psychologist
2006-09-01 01:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by TO BE CONTINUED.... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋