this is an email she replied to me...is she letting me down easy, or is she scareed, like she says she is...because she is only 13 and never been in a relationship before??
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
Now, I know this is a no, she clearly said she wants to remain friends, and trust me, I am treating that with respect and honor. Now my question is, is she just scared like she said because we have been such good friends for a long time, or because she doesnt see me like that. If she doesnt now, will she
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Now , what would she have said she doesnt want to ruin a frienship?? Without meaning it, I asked her straight up to be honest, and I know she isnt lying. What should I do? I mean I know nothing is gonna happen in the near future, but maybe when she matures a little bit, or decides to take the risk to date me, I mean, I like her so much, and am just not ready to let her go. I know she is afraid of me breakin her heart, because she told one of her friends, that she doesnt like how many girlfriends I've had that Ive broken up with. And she really used to act like she liked me, I mean, we obviously had soemthing more than friends, but when I asked her she got scared and backed off. She also told her mom, who she is really closed to, that she is REAALY scared of ruining the frienship. What should I do?
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But, her friend asked her a few minutes ago about it, and she got all mad and said who wants to know?..and her friend said me.. and she got all mad and signed off. what should i think/do??
2006-09-01 00:11:48 · 16 answers · asked by how many 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And why would she get all mad at her friend, I mean the email I replied to her was nice , caring and understanding, so I dont know why she thinks I put her up to it? Why was she all mad if her friend asked her about it?
2006-09-01 00:13:29 · update #1
Think it lightly that she is scared to get involved with you yet because she is still too young for a relationship...let her grow up first and continue with the friendship with her.....
2006-09-01 00:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off of her.
She's tired of trying to nicely explain that she doesn't want a relationship, and you keep coming at her about it.
If you were in her shoes, and a friend of yours was obsessing over you, and continually trying to get her to talk to you about dating in the future, and asking all of your friends to ask you, and all of your friends are all stuck up your butt about whether you will or you won't, holy shmack! When would enough be enough for you?
My advice, right now, this very second, you need to apologize to her for giving her a hard time. Tell her that you respect her decision. Tell her that you appreciate her honesty, and that you will not bring it up again. Tell her that you would just like her to know that she'll have to be the one to approach you if she ever changes her mind. Then shut up! Do not, under any circumstances, for any reason, bring it up again. Seriously! Then, you need to go date other girls. Because she needs to know that you genuinely will get off her back, and that you mean what you say. Right now, she probably feels suffocated by you. Go date other girls, so that she knows you may not always be around.
If you do not do this exactly as I've described it, you will never in a million years have a shot with her. She'll start to literally despise you if you continue to hound her for an answer.
She's right. She's 13. She's got a life to live. Homework, school, family, friends, sports. She deserves an opportunity to do all of those things without also having to be stuck to your side. If you really care about her, you'll back off, and let her live. Maybe, when she is older, she will want to include a boyfriend in her life. Maybe it could be you. But it won't be you if keep pressuring the heck out of her. She won't want anything to do with you at all.
Good luck
2006-09-01 07:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you really like this girl, but if you continue to push this issue you might be putting your friendship at risk as well. Would you rather have her as a friend or nothing? Just back off a little. If she is just scared like you think, she'll come around. But if you constantly bugging her about it, she's going to resent you and have nothing to do with you. Stop pushing her. Just be her friend and if you can't do that, then maybe you shouldn't even be friends with her. Be her friend and respect her wishes.
2006-09-01 07:19:14 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should respect her decision...
If she wants both of you to remain friends so be it...
don't pressure her by asking her or letting her other friends ask about it...
she's mad because she is pressured by the very same questions ask at her by different people...
give her time...
if you still can't let her go...
be patient if you can...
just wait for the right time...
maybe it's not the right time for her to be in a relationship with you...
who knows what the future holds...
don't lose hope and don't expect too much...
Hope I was able to help...
God bless you!
2006-09-01 07:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She seems like a very sensible young girl. You have a problem. Let her alone. Give her time to grow. Maybe in the future you may find something more with her. If you keep after her you will surely lose her forever.
2006-09-01 07:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let a woman get to you so much that you have to write an essay on yahoo about what you should do with her. Dude i cant even be bothered to read what you have written. Find someone you can spend time with and enjoy yourself. Dont obsess about a 13yr old girl. HAVE FUN!!!!!
2006-09-01 07:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Are a MAN/GUY/DUDE what ever male species for Gods sake yo! Take control of the situation. she is too little n she clearly is saying no in a lot of words. So just let her be. Come on yo make us (other) men proud of you
2006-09-01 07:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Buyakasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, fr a moment stop worrying, take it easy, just give her space and let her alone, she is all hot and botherd now , just be out of a her life fr a while and lie low,and stop worrying it will all fall in place.
2006-09-01 07:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by haboba13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my. i am sorry i just could help but say i am sorry i can tell you are really into her but here is a hint what kind of guys get girls the most: guys who suck up to women or guys who act like they dont care much but then suprise them at times.
2006-09-01 07:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by chad g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want to lose what you both have. She's afraid that if you too become a couple that it'll ruin the relationship.
2006-09-01 07:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋