now i feel guilty regarding that deed how can i face her anymore
2006-09-01 00:10:05 · 40 answers · asked by cryptsymbolxxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, you shouldnt feel guilty. You didnt do the forcing, you were forced. Secondly, just because it was a female, doesnt make it right. Thats rape, no matter how you sugar coat it.
It's natural for a young man to get aroused when a female is puttin the moves on him, but for it to be your cousin, makes it that much worse. Still its not your fault.
You should tell your parents, her parents and anyone that will listen to you about what happened. Chances are, she has been abused by someone else in her life and now she is the abuser.
I dont feel sorry for her, because even abusers know right from wrong and this was definitely a big wrong. She cant go through life thinking that its ok to do what she wants to do to other people.
What will happen to her when she gets older? Will she be raped or will one of her children be raped?
I've been there. Its not fun feeling like you could have done something to stop it and you didnt. If you do see her again, dont allow yourself to be put in a situation where you are alone with her. Dont give her an opportunity to do it again.
Report her to the police and get some counseling for your emotional issues. I know it might sound strange, but it really does help. Good luck and God Bless You.
2006-09-01 04:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by babyblue9199 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to feel guilty about, she is 2 years older than you & SHE is the one who forced YOU. She should know that it is wrong to force you & the fact that you're her cousin is most definitely not right. If this is bothering you, make sure that you talk to someone you trust. Don't worry about facing her, she is the one who has done wrong. But if I was you i'd avoid her, you don't need people like that in your life.
2006-09-01 00:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This question should really be under social science. Doesn't anyone else find it strange that no one, not even the victim has referred to this as rape since it was perpetrated by a female? This question, and the associated responses elude to the huge misconception that males can not be raped. If she forced you to have sex against your will then you were raped. Tell someone and get help. If it was a female that wrote this question, what would your response have been?
2006-09-01 00:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by ?man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sexual abuse. If you are under the age of 16 you should be telling a trusted parent or adult. Don't feel guilty because it felt good, it is not your fault. You are being taken advantage of. She has probably been abused by someone herself and now thinks that what she is doing is okay. But it's not...and she is sick...she needs help.
2006-09-01 01:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure it was force or was it just something you wanted to do but was afaid to make the first move, and now that it is done you can blame her... well if it was really force, she should be held responsible for her actions, and if it was not by force, you should be held resposible... If you are both over the age of consent... just continue to grow...
2006-09-01 00:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Michael S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear...u were forced 2 hve sex wit her or wit som1 else. If it's wit her, u best avoid the *****...God says He will smote incests. You're not the 1 who shud b feeling guilty, she shud...go out der n giv her a piece of ur mind
2006-09-01 00:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are under the age of 14 then you need to report this. Otherwise do your best to avoid her. She also need to find another outlet for her sexual desires.
Good luck
2006-09-01 00:19:52 · answer #7 · answered by angelluvswolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell an adult about this immediately. This is not your fault so there is noting to feel guilty about.
2006-09-01 00:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by barkel76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she forced you so you shouldn't feel guilty, but make sure not to repeat it if you are not interested in her, cuase now you will enjoy it but in future it's going to cause you big trouble, so be careful and i am sure she is going to forceyou again, so tell her no straight away.
2006-09-01 00:13:13 · answer #9 · answered by Hidimba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't something you wanted then you shouldn't be the one feeling guilty.
2006-09-01 00:13:31 · answer #10 · answered by CoCo-Puffs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋