I am a single mom, I raised my daughter alone. With God's help, I was able to provide more than basic needs, sent her to good school and all. I sometimes deprived myself of some luxury like dining out, new shoes just to be able to give her wants. I don't feel appreciation not of my effort, but her appreciation of what she has, despite having a single parent, that she has more than what others need. She's turning 15, and in a hurry to get out of my shell. I feel like hurrying time also, so I can end my self-deprivation.
2006-08-31 23:50:32 · 4 answers · asked by marielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
your daughter is like almost every single other daughter around. its not that you did anything wrong but thats how children are these days they want and want and take everything for granted. if she wants to grow up and do things on her own let her; start spending more money on you and less on her. if she doesn't see how much you give up for her than, shes not going to until she leaves and goes out on her own.
2006-08-31 23:54:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concern, we all want our children to be appreciative and humble and aware of how bad things "could" have been. I've been there, (although I'm now married again). I think you have to look at it from your daughter's point of view as well though. She doesnt' know any differently for one thing. Take her to volunteer at a soup kitchen or shelter, and she'll begin to understand. The other thing to remember is that while there are some very mature 15 yr old girls, most girls that age, myself included......are completely self-centered and have their heads in the clouds. When I was 17, the light went on......almost literally.......and I realized how much my parents had sacrificed for me my whole life. I can't say what hit me to change my perspective, but I know it happened. AFter that, I started acting differently. I think you're right to teach her these qualities, but I think she's too young for you to see the results yet. Instill those things in her until she's grown and out of your hands, and then just pray that you will soon see the fruits of your labor.
Parenting is hard, and you can't control every single thing......you simply do your best and that's what you're doing.
2006-09-01 07:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Children can not see like past there own noses. They don't see or care about your sacrifices. But if you sulk over this your putting yourself in a child's position. Maybe you could try making her earn the wants and stop giving everything freely.
2006-09-01 06:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
did you want appreciation??? was that the reason for doing it all??? seems a little selfish on both sides... but what do you expect from a teenager...
maybe you should have prayed for a little more selflessness, and a little less moodiness!!! oh, that's right, god doesn't exist!!! :D
best thing to do, is take some of the luxuries away and stop depriving yourself...
2006-09-01 06:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋