Why are men so afraid of commitment?

Answer 1

I have more single female friends than I do single male friends. Every one of them is scared of commitment...its really not a men thing.

Sounds to me like you've just chosen the wrong blokes.

Answer 2

Commitment is a scary business.

1) You are making a promise to someone that you care about... you don't want to let them down.
2) You are making a promise now, the situation or the person may change in the future and you can't predict what effect that will have. People are afraid of feeling trapped and unhappy in the future.
3) All the trappings of being a couple and living in are expensive, your freedom is reduced and you have to check with your partner before you spend any money.
4) Us becomes more important than me.
5) Having babies is bloody expensive £145000 to raise a child these days.
6) Weddings (if you are into that) are bloody expensive and divorce is even worse.
7) Your partner may start treating you badly, or lose their job or get fat and then you are stuck with them.
8) You might stop loving the person in the future, and then what do you do?

It often feels safer to avoid commitment than to deal with the havoc and heartbreak of the break up of a long term relationship.

I'm a woman and it scares the willies out of me!

Answer 3

Well maybe it's not so much being afraid of commitment, maybe it is more about being sure before you make such a commitment. There has been someone I wanted to spend my life with, then there has been some that I haven't, but before I decided yes or no then I had to get to know them well enough.

I have had friends that have demanded commitment after a few weeks or even days, that's just insanely too soon!

Answer 4

It depends on the man, and it depends on the woman. Most people want to be in a relationship, but often people will feel that it's not right, so they stay with it, but have no intention of committing in the long run, as it's just a bit of fun. Otherwise a lot of men want to do things before they settle down, however quite often as soon as they meet a certain girl, they will settle down as they have found someone they feel compatable with, but ultimately everyone is different.

Answer 5

I am NOT afraid of commitment. I have been committed 4 times and counting.

Answer 6

Little alexi,

as a MAN, i would better say I am not afraid of commitment but careful with them. Now, I know it looks from a side as if I am afaid. It was always that way, man need the gentle part to be aside to make them take it easy. Be there for him, he will go smooth and it will not look fear any more, turn it to a move from fear, help him not to look afraid anymore as he wouldn't like to look like that. That is what woment are there, arnt they, they should make us all look good....

Answer 7

men are not afraid of commitment - they are just not as fickle as women and only ever make a commitment with the right person.

women are generally more inclined to settle down with just about anyone whereas a man needs to be sure hes with the best cook he can find.

maybe they are afraid of you.

Answer 8

Bcoz chiks make a big deal out of commitment which is jus a simple thing to do jus be faithful.
they jus want to be affirmed all the time and reminded that you love them even if they know so.
And also is that they expect a guy to do magic tricks or something jus becoz he's commited
And let's y we don't need to hear the C word coz we'll be in bondage 4 yrs

Answer 9

I'm not sure they are. Perhaps they're afraid to commit to the wrong person.

If someone, male or female, won't commit to you, it may because they simply don't like you that much.

Answer 10

Because it difficult to get married and later think of getting a divorce.
I think the line goes a long way but am not in the mold to continue