write, iv been going out with this guy for 4 months. Today i told him i loved him, he said that he couldnt say that he loved me back but liked me alot and enjoys the time i spend with him, he said he just wants something casual. would you stay with him or not. i really dont want to get hurt. im allready really upset. what should i do??? stay or go???
2006-08-31 23:21:01 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
chill out!!
4 months is not a long time to be declaring love to someone, just relax and have a good time.. no one wants a cling on so dont act like one even if you do really love him
2006-08-31 23:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by missnikid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy girl, you've only known him for 4 months. Are you really sure you love him after such a short space of time? Its questionable. Spend some time together and see how you both feel - you might realise that you actually don't or the two of you grow much fonder and more attached and you both might develop stronger feelings. Do you feel you want to end it because you are a wee bit embarassed that you said it and it was not reciprocated? Don't be, you have just let your emotions get the better of you. Relax, enjoy your life, with him in it if you want him to be and see where it goes. 4 months is not a long time
2006-08-31 23:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are rushing things! 4 months is short if you are looking for long term relationship. Don't! If u continue like this u will push him away. By the way he answered and the way you talked..I can feel you are already giving him some pressure. And now you are upset because you didn't get what u want to hear. I assume you will ask him more questions to make him say 'yes, i love you too'.
Please don't! I learn a hard way myself in smiliar situation (But I know you will still ask him anway..haha).
At this moment, if you love him. You should relax and just have fun with him. As long as you have fun together and can see him whenever u want...there is no difference of he being ur bf or not,right? At least, people look at u guys will assume you two are together already. Think about it. Now, u are just paying too much attention on your 'title' (title to be called gf ..etc).
If you keep pushing him and not respect his answer. Then, you are not loving him too much. Instead, you are just loving yourself. I say that because you want the feeling of being 'loved back'.
Anyway, not to lecture here as I know u won;t listen..haha (i know not a good time to be reason..i know coz i won;t listen too if i am you ..haha).
Anyway, just stay and hang out like always. If you go, you don't respect him and you guys will not even see each other again. It is kinda emprassing to meet again. Calm down girl! =P
Oh ya. Good Luck ^_^
2006-08-31 23:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be hard to hear but I think you have already answered your own question. A very special friend once told me 'that noone has the right or the power to upset you, only you have the right to upset yourself and you allow others to upset you.'
You have to do what is right for you but personally honey, I would get outta there and find someone sepcial who can make you smile and laugh and make you happy. Take control and don't torture yourself by staying. You sound great and I am sure someone will love your caring nature, you may even here the words you want from them. Remember only you can hurt you, you will be doing that by staying and torturin yourself. Ask yourselve honestly is he worth it? If you find yourself pulled there and you can be happy the stay, but it doesn't sound like it...... good luck
2006-08-31 23:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends what you want from the relationship, it doesn't sound like he wants to commit any time soon so if that's a problem then definately get out! If you just wanna have fun with him (and date others) then just hang around, be cool, and enjoy the time you spend together. If however your feelings are very strong for him then you should probably get out now as it'll hurt less now than it will later, harsh, but thems the breaks
2006-08-31 23:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a good relationship and don't want to get hurt then go, and if you are only after fun then stay because then if it doesn't work out it won't effect you in a bad way. It is hard to leave but it is the best thing. Your perfect guy who is waiting to say I luv u might just be around the corner. never listen to your heart it messes things up listen to your head and do whats best for you in the long run. Take care.
2006-08-31 23:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's told you he wants something casual then he just wants to sleep with you. Best you run... NOW
yes you made a mistake by telling him you loved him but it's cool now just move on and tell him you have way too much integrity to just enter into something that's just purely about the sex. You can do better
2006-08-31 23:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should step back and decide what your looking for. 4 months is'nt a long time, your probably freaking him out. Whats the big deal, you got all the time in the world. Just so you know - you dont fall straight in love with someone, its a gradual thing. good luck
2006-09-04 22:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by cheekylaurac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have told him you loved him without talking to him about the realtionship and where he sees it going.
talk to him again about what he thinks the long term prospects are for the relationship - if he says he doesnt know ehat he wants from you and continues in wanting to keep it casual then you should move on - simple as that - why waste your time with somone that wont make a commitment to you - its a pointless relationship if thats the case - have fun finding the one - you will know becuase he will want the same as you.
2006-08-31 23:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by BigBoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he does not want to make a commitment to you...i think you are going to get hurt but i would be hurt already...but if you love him you might just stay with him and hope he decides later that he wants something more serious...you have to make the choice...i hate to get hurt and i would not wish it on you either....this is really hard thing to decide and i can not make the decision for you...but i wish you the best and really think about this before you do anything...but one thing i would try and protect myself from to much pain and hurt...i can tell you that if you have enough of it in your life it can change a person...i know this for a fact.....best wishes....
2006-08-31 23:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋