i need to now if it would be wrong to contact an ex boyfriend just to make nice! went a bit syco when we broke up 4yrs ago and i just want to say sorry. i have a boyfriend of 3 yrs, its just my guilt of the stuff i said. was really horrible and thats only cos i was furious!
Please help!!!!
2006-08-31 22:32:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. It absolutely would not be wrong to contact an exboyfriend to make nice. I think it's rather extraordinary (and mature) of you to even think about patching up things, even after 4 years.
However, do be cautious. What if the roles were reveresed and he was the one who went "psycho" and was attempting to contact you after all this time? Would you take his call? Would you meet him for coffee and chat?
Just be prepared for his possible reaction(s): he hangs up on you or he calls you a name, says you're more nuts to be calling after four years and THEN hangs up on you. Of course, he could be waiting for you to call and say "sorry."
Either way, I do think it's good of you and a good idea to do it, and I hope you go through with it, and let us know what happened.
Good luck and congratulations.
P.S. I've read through some of the other answers and note that a few responders are cautioning you about making it sound like you want to get back with the ex. I didn't get that you were going there, only that you want to apologize and I'm confident your approach will make that clear. I also didn't get that you wanted to be "friends" and frankly, I'd caution you against using that word. As a guy it's the line I LOATHE to hear from a woman. "Let's be friends." Ugh, I'm shuddering. Please do not go THERE!
I think you just want to apologize and go on with your life. Again, I think it's a good idea and I'm certain your words will make that clear.
2006-08-31 22:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call him up and say u happen in the area..wanna have meal together. Most likely he will say he is busy coz u call him all the sudden. Is ok, u expect him to say no. The point is to get to meet him in person the next time. So, after he said no, just say 'what day u mostly is free..maybe have lunch the other day?' ..As a guy, i am sure he will give u a day of when he will be free.
And during the meal, just talk something else and later take the chance to talk about the past a bit and say sorry. I think this is the best way ... natural and he won't feel weird. =)
2006-08-31 22:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by City hunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a long time to still be feeling guilty about something... Maybe you should try to let it go. If you can't how about writing him a letter or email. Bare in mind he may think you are still interested in him to be contacting him 4 years later. Also consider how your current boyfriend will feel. Sometimes you just have to forgive yourself as its you that your mad at, but at least you know why you acted in said way.
2006-08-31 22:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes by all means contact him. If it will help you make peace with yourself, then go for it. And it will probably make him feel better too. Just tell him you are not interested in getting back together, you are happy where you are but you wanted to smooth the rift between you and be friends again, Hopefully he is forgiving.
2006-08-31 22:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never to late to tell the person that you are sorry... Yeah we tend to say mean stuff when we are angry... To the other party, it can be very hurtful... Dont worry, jus give him a ring and apologise... Dont feel too bad if he hang up the phone, alteast you know that you have done your part and if he has the heart to forgive you, he will you back eventually... Dont worry and give it a try ok? Good luck!
2006-08-31 22:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Faradoves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 05:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell 4 yrs is a long time and u have had yours eyes on a guy thats winning your heart.Bad but safe
2006-08-31 22:46:54 · answer #7 · answered by gxsilver1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nth wrong..Its good to know ur mistakes no matter how long it takes for u to realise. And its great to understand that and actually apologise. Just explain to him whats wrong, he wld understand im sure. Cos a guy wld be happy if he is proven right right. ha. It wld make u feel better also.
2006-08-31 22:35:12 · answer #8 · answered by Libra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
strangely enought i broke up with someone 4 years ago and called him on wednesday, just to say hi. and now he's gone clingy again. Guys dont realy get as hurt as girls so i dnt think u need to apologise
2006-08-31 22:46:34 · answer #9 · answered by unqione 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living in the past robs you of the present.
If you are happy, live your life now as best you can. If you cross paths with your ex by fate, apologize.
2006-08-31 22:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jason T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋