I know its the done thing these days, and when I think about it, it seems normal and ok, but I don't want to go breaking hearts or my own for that matter, how do I proceed with caution?
sensitivity pls!
2006-08-31 22:20:34 · 18 answers · asked by Dan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean serious dating with an eventual view to marry, can I just meet the right person ? should I expect to get my heart broken? Can't God just show me the right person? Why did He make me so shy? Does He care? Do I care? Sometimes I like being single....I feel free...sometimes I want to deny myself the very thing I want..I enjoy feeling sad sometimes....praps I will be better as a bachelor...
2006-09-01 11:14:14 · update #1
Try casual sex. You won't get as much grief.
2006-08-31 22:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by Rudebox77 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm a christian and I see no problem with casual dating. I don't know why anyone would have a problem with it. If not for casual dating then how would you find the one you're looking for. As for the breaking hearts bit, it's definitely going to happen some time or another so don't worrie about it, it's life's way of making us stronger and preparing us for the future.
2006-08-31 22:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I personally am not living the Christian Ideal. But even though I have lived with my girlfriend for 4 years I don't feel Bad. Casual relationships are not a bad thing. Casual sex is. Good relationships sprout from good connections. It takes a while to find a good connection.
And... with God being all knowing I am sure he of all understands our motivations and desires. So as long as we are honest with our intentions, God will understand.
2006-08-31 22:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jon H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't make sense to casual date. Emotions usually can run high in any dating relationship, especially the woman's emotions. Why not just learn to be good friends with women instead? You should date or court a woman when you are looking to keep a woman a.k.a. ask a lady to marry you. Learn to be a good friend instead if you are not ready to settle down. If you do wish to marry someday, then mostly what your marriage will be about is the friendship you have with your best friend who is your wife.
2006-08-31 22:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Bonnie ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm Christian and have 'casually' dated for years in the past. The key is honesty with your partner about yourself and your intentions. To protect your own heart you'll just have to stop seeing someone if feelings develop for the person.
2006-08-31 22:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open from the very first tyme its friendship there u are not put in asituation which comprises u,as in making up the decision,try then learn somebody as u progress u can start hinting on what u want,but try not to act in a manner to suggest ur interested in smthing,be ur self
2006-08-31 22:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you mean, casual dating with christians or with none christians, or people of other religions?
Personally i don't do it purelly because i don't see the point, plus i don't have the time.
just so long as they know what you're there for because they may have other ideas.
Thing is dating is a serious situation, which you involve yourself in, so you will most probably get hurt.
2006-08-31 22:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Bekka ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a Christian i say that as long as both parties know it's casual and all in good fun for the benefit of companionship there's nothing wrong with
just let them know where ur coming from at the start so there are no hard feeling later
2006-08-31 22:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by gyrlundone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a serious affair which is not fun. It is something you involve urself when u are ready for marriage; in that case, u will actually know what u want and what is meant by dating. so, as a christian- i view casual dating as FLIRTING!
2006-08-31 22:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by signorina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure but i think that if your ready then go for it. if you want to date then its fine unless your like 10yrs old. but if you want to be in a stable relationship then just go out and look around. but let me warn you, you will get your heart broken and there will be times you feel your life is over but its only God's little way of teaching you life lessons...what doesnt kill you makes you stronger....but there are alot of girls out there looking for a guy in the church and wants a stable relationship...actually most of my girl friends are like that as well as me so if you want a girl that goes to church and is a good person i would go to Pennsylvania...(if your not there already) well good luck and i hope you find what your looking for.
2006-08-31 22:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l prefer just dating as good friends without any kissing. Spending time getting to know her and making a friend l intend to keep if it should ever grow into something more that would be great.
2006-08-31 22:27:46 · answer #11 · answered by catsclaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋