I have a husband who has acute kidney failure but refuse to go for treatment..what shld i do?

Question

He absconded from hospital when doctos says he need dialysis..he is just afraid of needles. Everyone in the family already counsel him but he is still adamant not to seek treatment. Now he is trying all the traditonal herbs. But according to the dr. he may collaped anytime if he don do dialysis.. What shld I do..

Answer 1

If it is his living will not to seek medical attention, it is his right. I can understand you because my father also refused the same treatment but for a different cause. It is very expensive here and we cannot afford it. He needs support now. Give it to him. Maybe it is not the fear of needle that makes him refuse treatment. find it out. Maybe, just maybe, it is the fear of prolonged suffering. BTW, thanks for picking my answer last time. feel free to send me message. Hold on, he needs you now.

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Answer 4

Find a person that you know that is a kidney patient or a friend of a friend that knows one that can relate to your husband.

I am sure that your must Love him dearly. Forgive me if I seem indelicate. His death or extreme illness would put more stress on you than the worry that you are experiencing now. The fact is this is your Husband's body to treat as he wants, even though it affects you and the.family.

There is a chance that the herbalist might help him. Encourage him to seek out another Renal Specialist for advice, along with a variety of alternative medical professionals. He should seek as much information as possible so that he can make an informed decision. If he is healthy enough leave a hospital under his own power, then he might be better off than you think.

Allow him the dignity of knowing his own body. If he is not afforded this empowerment, he will be no fun to live with.

Answer 5

Well first thing you should understand is that, that your husband is 'afraid' of needles. And by forcing him to do something he is afraid of will further pushing him away from doing it.The more of your family tries hard to convince him the further he will not want to do .I am sure there must be something you must be afraid of doing too.So much to a point that you do not want to make a move on that irrational fear.It is normal to be scared but it becomes abnormal when you don't overcome your fears. In your husband's case the fear of needles. Here is what you can do.

First you need talk to your husband.You need to tell him a asure him that you do understand his situation, his fears and anxieties. You as his wife just want to to help him and also be there for him in everyway. (Be careful that if he is a very stubborn person that you do not resort any kind of emoitional backmails but you treat him with love and patiences). Once you feel he is trusting you in some way slowly without pushing it to hard to fast explain him somethings about fears. Try to explain him using your own examples or experiences. Don't beat your topic around needles or don't make him feel stupid by indirectly or directly telling him how silly his fears are.

Once you feel that he is convinced or atleast is open in believing how some fears are irrational and something they can slow you down and cause you trouble, you can then ask him if he would like to know about a little about needles.You can make him read things on the internet ( You may want to moniter this, cause your atempt is educating him about needles and medicine not how it is used). Or a doctor who would be willing to give him a 'tour' about medicine.Someone who could guide him and at the same time reasure him. You can also ask people to tell him some of ther experiences with needles.Keep things light when you are telling him all this.You could in fun just pinch him really hard and hold it for few seconds and tell him that it is the exact pain of the needles and that it was not so bad was it.Take one baby step at a time and be patient. If you get pushy it will further slow you down so take your time with this.You have to undertand you have to make him get a grip of himself. For now forget about the treatment.That won't happening easily if he won't be willing.

Once you can do all this then take the next steps as needed.Just ask him to come with you to that hospital and he does not have to do anything..Just to meet the doctor generally.(ask the doctor beforehand to just keep it light and explain him only what has happened to him but not getting in to much detail what other things could be done.May be during surgery he could give him Anesthia gas before the uses needles or any other alternative methods if available.)

I know this is a 'lengthy script' but try this it will work out for you.I sure he will overcome his fears which is more important for now then anything else.It ok don't worry about a thing. he will do fine and he will be alright.I shall pray for your husband.Please do write to me and let me know how things work out for your husband and you.my is Abhishek and my mail is [e-mail]

Answer 6

I have a similar situation, where my father has hepatitis and is refusing "western" medical treatment and he's seeking traditional "eastern" herbal treatment but has made no progress yet. I've tried convincing him but it doesn't work because I am the youngest of my family (though I am an adult) I am considered the "baby" to him so he doesn't need to listen to my "expertise" advice, even though I've worked with plenty of specialists and medical professionals.

I personally don't know how, but the last hope seems to be getting his love ones to make a scene and get him in the hospital . Good luck.

Answer 7

He's in denial mode and probably is hiding his fears by resorting to the hope that traditional herbs can be his miracle cure.

Check with the dialysis center - they should have trained counsellors who can show understanding for his mental state, cite similars cases of people who were like him and what happened to those who turned away from hope and to those who went through dialysis.

If the center that he ran off from does not have professional counsellors, check for another that has. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 8

1. Call him a coward for being afraid of needles...or
2. Have a young child in the family put on a real show, have them start crying because they heard grandpa or whatever might die because he refuses to take his needles....have the kid pull at your husbands heartstrings...and/or...
3. Have your husband see other victims of this disease and scare the living hell of him.

He would rather die than get a needle....show him some babe like Pamela Anderson when the doc sneaks up on him. Good luck Madame.

Answer 9

I couldn't just sit around and do nothing like my doctors suggested.

They didn't want me to do anything or to take herbs or herbal remedies, but I had to try something - they just wanted me to do dialysis!

This program allowed me to take control of my health. I went from Stage 4 to Stage 3 kidney disease.

It was easy to do and my BUN, creatinine and anemia are all in better ranges.

Reversing Your Kidney Disease?

Answer 10

You need to get him a kidney flush, and a detox diet very quickly.
The best kidney flush I know is

The Herbal Kidney Cleanse

http://www.toolsforhealing.com/CD/Articles/K/Dr.ClarksKidneyCleanse.html

The Herbal Kidney Cleanse

It takes a lot of liquid to "wash" the inside of your body. Taking it in the form of herbal teas gives you extra benefits. And extra enjoyment if you learn to make them with variations - especially if you need to produce a gallon of urine a day!

Any edema or "water holding", whether in lungs, arms, or abdomen, also requires strengthening of kidneys with this recipe.

When kidneys or bladder are actually involved in the cancer, gradually increase the dose to double the regular amounts. Be sure to start just as slowly though to avoid feeling pressure in the bladder. You will need:

* ½ cup dried hydrangea root (Hydrangea arborescens)
* ½ cup gravel root (Eupatorium purpureum)
* ½ cup marshmallow root (Althea officinallis)
* Black Cherry Concentrate, 8 oz. [twice]
* Pinch vitamin B2 powder
* 4 bunches of fresh parsley (obtained at supermarket) [a bunch at stems is about 2 inches]
* Goldenrod tincture (leave out of the recipe if you are allergic to it)
* Ginger
* Uva Ursi
* Vitamin B6, 250mg caps
* Magnesium oxide, 300mg caps
* HCl drops
* Sweetening (optional)

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Then, when he is cleansed, you need to have a clean diet.
A vegetarian diet which consists mainlky of fruit, with some green-leaved vegatables, nuts and seeds, and plenty of water is all that is necessary.

Definitely avoid all processed foods, all preservatives, colourings and artificial flavourings, all microwaved food and all frozen food.

That should work fine. Good luck