i have a crush on my friend,, im so scared to ruin our friendship if i tell her how i feel,, what do you thnk?

Answer 1

This happened to me once........I fell in love with my best friend. I told her about it, and ended up not having her as a girlfriend AND losing my friend in the bargain. If you really feel that she is the one, CAREFULLY read the signals.....the way she looks at you, whether she talks to you in a deifferent way compared to other male friends, how she reacts if you touch her, etc.......and then if you feel that she feels the same way, tell her. Else, you might regret the decision. Good luck

Answer 2

There is nothing better than a love relationship that starts first as a friendship. Friendship is THE BEST basis for a solid romance.

Having said that, I had two male friends in my life who developed crushes on me (at different times). They both told me how they felt. Sadly, I didn't return their feelings...it's not something that can be forced. That was 20 years ago and we still remain friends to this day. That's the beauty: if you have a true friendship, you'll always have that, no matter what happens or doesn't happen romantically. Just make sure you tell her calmly and gently. Just state it matter of factly and let her respond. If she digs you, she'll be totally stoked! If she doesn't return your feelings, reassure her it's ok and that what is most important to you is that you remain friends. You may need a little breathing space from each other just so you can regroup and not keep stoking the fires of amoré. YOU'LL need it more than her. But make sure she knows you want to be friends. Don't pressure her for anything else.

By the way, there was a 3rd guy friend who developed feelings for me. We dated for 2 years....and 16 years later, we're still very happily married. He's my best friend AND my lover. My soul mate.

I wish you the very best! You sound like a sweetheart. : )

Answer 3

Just go carefully and make sure you are positive how you feel before you jump straight in! Read the signs as well. There is a big difference between flirting and being friendly so maybe take a while to flirt with her and see how she reacts! At the end of the day, boyfriends/girlfriends come and go but friends are for life so don't lose a good one for something that could be a passing phase.

Answer 4

Tell her...just don't expect her to have the same feelings. It's good to tell her so you know you made it known. I suggest saying something like "I have strong feelings for you and I understand we are friends and you might not feel the same way but I need to tell you...I will leave it up to you...I still want to be your friend but if you have the same feelings, I would like to explore more....and if you don't I am ok with that". Basically you tell her but you leave her the option of keeping your friendship the same if she wants to. She won't feel trapped and try to keep away from you. If for some reason she does distance herself, just tell her that you are fine with being friends and you can accept that she doesn't want more and will leave it alone. And leave it alone! If she doesn't want more than friendship, it has nothing to do with you but her personality and usual attractions. And, she might come around later down the road, sometimes it just takes a guy being interested in us to plant the seed in our brain to explore it. Good luck and don't cross the boundaries and be clingy or obsessive.

Answer 5

Hey dude, you should tell her how you feel about her because when you least expected, she has a crush on you too! Haha take my word for it! It happened to me! Luckily it was the guy who made the first move to tell if not, we would have missed alot i tell you. Haha so just try your luck alright? Because if you dont tell her, you wouldnt know what you have missed and you wont know the answer too right till you tried it? Just go ahead and tell her trust me if she is a good friend to you, she will still accept you as the way she did before. And there is nothing wrong in liking anybody right? So dont worry too much and go with what your heart says...

Answer 6

Try to know first how your friend will react if you tell her you have a crush on her. Coz' girls have different kinds of reactions regarding friends who wants to take their friendship to the next level. If she's open to that well good for you but if she's not, then there are other fishes in the sea if you know what I mean.

Answer 7

I told a friend once I had a crush on her and we stayed friends until life took us our separate ways. I recently ran into her and she seemed glad to see me . Tell her and be a polite about it. You might watch a tear jerker together about unrequitted love and bring up the subject. This will either strengthen your friendship or take you to the next level. Anything else and it was a onesided friendship. Go get her.

Answer 8

If the friendship is solid then i do not think it will hurt if you tell your friend how you feel.If your friend does not feel the same way then you 2 should be able to get past it.If they do then is could be a good start to something wonderful....Good luck

Answer 9

tell her.. if she's a friend, she'll just thank you for it. also, she may have aleady notice it anyway. just relieve yourself by telling her what you feel. there's no harm in saying you like her or have a crush on her. it's not like asking you would marry her outright, right? or the end of the world for both of you? tell her... good luck.

Answer 10

Awww.....

that's sweet!

tell it like this...

first ask her out to a fancy restaurant,after eating,bring her to a quiet place and tell her your feeling then kiss her on the cheek!