Two years ago at age of 15, my son ran away from home to move to Europe. Ever since that he has pursued career in high fashion photography. He got here two days ago with his girlfriend who is from Moldova. My son seems to be doing well, he have a house in Croatia, is traveling around Europe doing high fashion photography, and seems to be very happy with his life.
but I notice he changed a lot. He doesn't smiles as much but laughs a lot more, doesn't seems to like very many american foods anymore, dress sharper, act a bit more feminie, and doesn't seems to care much for television anymore.
I'm worry about how he and his girlfriend are toward eachother. They seems to be really clingy toward eachother. They alway stay close together, almost alway holding eachother hand or have hand on eachother, he also alway talk to her in soft and gentle voice, and every nights they have been here, they goes to bed together.
My son have never seems to be so close to anyone in past. They have
2006-08-31 20:50:05 · 29 answers · asked by Pink b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
been together for a bit more than a year.
2006-08-31 20:50:29 · update #1
I find his behave so odd because they have been with eachother for a year. before he left, he's not known to be close to anybody, doesn't like being touched by anyone at all, and doesn't like to show affectionate. His girlfriend is twenty two years old. I'm not sure if she know his age or what age he claim to be.
2006-08-31 20:59:41 · update #2
He'll be leaving in two weeks.
2006-08-31 21:00:41 · update #3
It sounds like your son has is pursuing his dreams.. be happy for that and especially that you are involved in his life. Just be there as a mom, a friend and one that will support him through all his decisions. If he was doing something harmful to himself or others then I would tell you to take steps. But it sounds like to me that you should be very proud of him.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-08-31 20:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very concerned if he treats you or others differently than he treats his girlfriend. Even if he is close to her, that doesn't mean he is automatically like this with everyone. It may be that he is experiencing love for the first time and is very self-confident. His hormones are raging and I wouldn't expect wisdom at this age.
It could be that he is an old soul and has matured much earlier than other boys, but that's very unique. Although, he sounds like he knows what he wants. I don't know many who would leave home and move to Europe without looking back.
Just be there for him. It doesn't sound like he is in any physical danger, and isn't engaged in self-destructive behavior. Remember he is still a "boy" and love him and let him know you will always be there for him.
2006-08-31 21:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been away for a long time now, and also in a more cosmopolitan environment. Men are more fashionable over there and it is acceptable for them to be.
At 17 he may think he is with the one he loves but this is unlikely to remain the case. Don't worry - just support him as best you can and he will come to you for support when this relationship ends (it almost definitely will).
Keep the doors of love and communication open, that is all you can do and it is the best thing you can do.
2006-08-31 20:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think somthing is wrong with you to be worried because he is doing well. Are you a little jelous of him. You should be glad the way he is. At least he's not like most of the american children,brainwashed by society thinking they need to sit on there buts and play video games and have the latest technology to keep their minds busy, because they cannot think for themselves, What is TV anyways,JUST AN IDIOT BOX. thank god hes not stereotyped into a lazy catagory. At least he grew up quick in the right way,not the wrong way. Let him travel and see what he can and enjoy life.
2006-08-31 21:12:23 · answer #4 · answered by Spinning Times LLC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Pink i do not see anything to worry about in this, coz it is usual for people to change after marriage and perhaps your son is enjoying the love life more.. one thing i can suggesst check the amount of responsibility he has got now.. and sine he ran away from house stood on his own and having a house is really good and one should have a good reposnisbility to grow up this much and in due-course of time he must have not got enough time to watch television. over a time, he will turn out to be normal with his wife it can also be long lasting excitement towards his wife.
2006-08-31 20:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by bobby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really sound like there is anything wrong with him. He might just be adjusting to life in Europe. I'm sure that the mannerisms and customs are a bit different there.
As far as his girlfriend goes, I acted quite similar when I fell in love for the first time.
2006-08-31 20:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think hes gay or he wouldnt have a girlfriend he has broadened his horizions and found what makes him happy and because of the culture differences has changed the way he dresses and presents himself around others it sounds like he has grown up alot.But in your home forbid them from sleeping together Its not right for them to disrespect you or your home.Ask them if they are ready to get married in order to sleep together there.You will probley get a real fast no from both of them then tell them the house rules,they either obey them or look for their own home.
2006-08-31 20:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son appeared to be a mature and caring person. Nice to see in someone so young.
He ran away to Europe and is now home. I think the reasons he ran away is probably what is foremost on his mind now that he's back.
Give him time and maybe he'll open up to you.
2006-08-31 20:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lord, First thing I guess I,d pray! I,ve learned over the years the more you try to give them direction the more they stick togethers. I,ve exhausted all avenues only made it worse. God has ways to bring them around I,ve seen it over and over. He sounds very independant I,d just take a step back and enjoy your time with your son. You,ve probably missed him a lot. God Bless!
2006-08-31 21:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by sher7us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son has changed but it sounds like the changes aren't bad ones. You should be happy, he has found a person to love, and a job he likes to do, be happy for him. People are always changing, it's part of life.
2006-08-31 20:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋