My moms been kinda stressed 4 the past yr...and she has said some hurtful things to me and my brother, but then later she'll be normal and goofy again.. today, she got mad at me cuz I didn't do the dishes & I'd been doing them a lot lately, and she said "I know you've been doing the dishes a lot lately, but thats because you don't have anything else to do " and I was like "you were mad at me because I didn't do them voluntarily before, and now your mad cuz I do them without you asking me?" and she said really nasty "if you get smart with me again - i'm going to yoke you" and i was like omg ok sorry...and I wasn't even yelling at her or anything...and she's accused me of being retarded and she's cursed at me...but then later she'll be fine. Is this normal, is there something wrong here, or am I just sensitive? Sumtimes she really brings me down, just cuz she's in a bad mood.
2006-08-31 20:41:08 · 14 answers · asked by newyorkrose9 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One time I came home from school & my younger bro was at the dining room table looking rly mad, and I didnt know what happened but I heard my mom later apologize and she was like "I'm sorry I said some really mean things to you"....wtf?
2006-08-31 20:42:12 · update #1
i LOVE my mom, but she does some things that don't make sense like....go places she knows I want to go and doesn't tell me.....she acts like a teenager sometimes its REALLY annoying...she can be really immature sometimes... it makes no sense
2006-08-31 20:47:20 · update #2
Me and my mom have always been this way....I was always closer w/ my dad as a lil girl..but my parents just separated AGAIN for like the fifth time and I'm not close to my dad anymore [its a long story]....im just sick of her acting rly childish sometimes...but I understand why; its just having a big effect on me too....I'm sorry she's going thru stuff...its sucks =[
2006-08-31 20:52:00 · update #3
Whereas your mother should never call you out of your name, and yes it is wrong and it is hurtful to you and your brother.
Your mom sounds like she is under a lot of stress right now. She and your dad have split up, she is trying to raise two kids on her own, she is having to work a lot harder in order to support you guys, she is having to learn to live as a single mother now and any free time she use to have for herself is now gone. And she is probably having issues with your dad as well which is stressing her out.
People only have so much that they can take without lashing out. and you and your brother are the ones that are there to catch it. I'm sure she does not mean to hurt yall, and I'm sure she feels really, really guilty for it afterwords.
It is very, very, very hard to be a single mother. Especially when you have gone from two incomes in the family to only one.
Talk to your mother and calmly tell her that her behavior is hurting you and your brother and tell her that you are trying to be understanding.
But also realize that you need to do more then just "speak" the words, you will need to act on them also.
Help your mom out as much as you can with housework, cooking, helping your little brother with home work, whatever you can do to lessen the stress around the house.
Your mom will see your efforts and be very appreciative of your efforts.
It is going to take time for your mom to get yall's lives straightened out and running smoothly after splitting with your dad.
As for you being overly sensitive..........no you are not being overly sensitive. This is a hard time for all of you right now. Just make the best of things and hopefully they will start getting better.
God Bless
2006-09-01 05:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like mom is going through something really tough that even if she told you, she thinks you might not understand. It's probably a little out of line for you to suggest to her to seek medical help to see what's going on with her. Does she have a close friend that you could maybe tell these things to and ask them to say something without letting her know you asked them to? You can sit down with her when she's in a good mood and ask her if there is anything you could do to help her life be a little more stress free even though it's not anything you and your brother are doing wrong. Maybe if you could get to the bottom of what mom is going through you might be able to dodge the unhappy times or bad moods and even try to help her out. I know it's hard but hang in there, I am 100% sure she loves you and doesn't mean to take this out on you guys but this is just her being unsure of what to do about whatever her is stressing her out so bad.
2006-09-01 03:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is under lots of pressure and stress, be patient with her, she is handling more than she can. I lost my mom a few years ago and now sometimes I think of some of the times when we argued and some of the things I said to her that I shouldn't have said. Moms will not be around for ever, may your mom have a long and healthy life, but believe me your mom loves you and your brother more than anything or anyone else, she is just exhausted and sometimes her stress spills out and hurts you, but deep inside of her she doesn't mean to hurt you in any way, and believe me even if she sometimes doesn't apologize for the things she said, in her heart she later regrets what she said. I am a parent and I know that. Love and respect your mom dear while she is still with you. God bless you all.
2006-09-01 03:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by rabb b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom has some type of disorder it could be Bi-Polar and there is really no way as a child that you can make her go for help.My heart goes out to you and your brother you dont deserve to be treated like that.My son has Bi-Polar and it is a heart ache every day I hear hurtful words and see hurtful actions.The only way I know you can get your mom help is talk to your school counselor.Dont be scared of being taken away from your mom they can get her help and you wont be taken from her trust me on this thats the only way to live happy again is she gets medication.
2006-09-01 03:51:28 · answer #4 · answered by acr_lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your mom is under a great deal of stress. Perhaps depressed.
Sometime when she is in a good mood. tell her you would like to see the household more peaceful.....and ask what all of you can do to work on it.
She definatly has some issues to work on. Maybe she is working so hard that she is totally burned out. Maybe she is depressed. Ask your doctor to get her some help.
Find an adult that you can trust and ask for help.
2006-09-01 04:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty normal to me. Family life isn't like what you see on the sit coms. Unfortunately adults don't necessarily act like adults all the time.
2006-09-01 03:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is going through Menopause. It lasts a couple years, it can be hell, but it'll end eventually and she'll be normal once again.
2006-09-01 03:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Joey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope your not. Your mother is probably undergoing some serious problems that she was hiding from you. Try to be more understanding & patient, talk with her more often & show her that you love her.
2006-09-01 03:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by jeprx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom just want you to grow in the right order teaching you to be indepentdent, and thats the time for you to treat her well,help and love her.... its shows she loves you its just that she is stressed maybe for many household chores... understanding and caring is the best way to deal with your mom
2006-09-01 03:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by graces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's verbally abusive, & no, ur not sensitive. She's wrong for calling you names & cursing you out.
2006-09-01 03:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋