Why people behave me like this?

Question

In my company, I used to help my co-workers. Some of them (I can say most of them), may be on the next hour, they will behave against to me. Eventhough they know that I cannot do anything on some matters, they are coming to argue with me. This makes me sad.
I will stop all the helps. But after some days again I will feel pity and they will also show their true colour.
What I want to do ? Stop all the helps for ever or .......

for some of them I am their boss.

Answer 1

look Nawaz:

u must keep helping them even if they wanna hurt u in ur feeling or even if they wanna harm u in ur works coz u must help them and be sure in ur heart that u help them for the sake of Allah not for the sake of them,if u help them for the sake of Allah then Allah will love u and when Allah love u he ask Gbreal(his messanger angel) to love u and to say the all the heaven that Allah love u(in the heaven there are angels and the prophets(PBUT) ,then u will be the winner coz u will win and take that love of Allah and no proplem if u will lose the love of anyone else

Answer 2

Hi N O,

i think life becomes a lot easier when we help with no expectation of anything in return. It's hard to answer your question because i'm not sure exactly what kind of help it is, etc. There are times when we help people and we feel like they are taking advantage of that- and you have to wisely differentiate between what is help and what is abuse.

People argue all the time and just because you help someone it does not mean you will always agree with them- but if there is a connection between the two than you have to consider that.

Anyhow i do hope this helps. If you want to let me know more specifically and see if i can offer any more advice to help feel free to email me.

Kindly,

Nickster

Answer 3

Company help co-workers some of them. Don't worry having behave to them. That said, choose argue with them so not to make you sad. Their true colour shows their pity to that which matters. hope helps this!!! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Your 3 steps to overcoming your problems:
1. Learn better grammar.
2. Learn to be more descriminate about who you help and who you don't. While it reflects possitively upon you to do good deeds unto others, there are people in this world who will take advantage of you for it.
3. Don't fall victem to your own pity. Many of these people you refer to are the figurative definition of psychic vampires. They will manipulate you in ways that make you feel obligated to them only so that they can thrive off the effort you give them.

Answer 5

Your co-workers are small petty minded people. You should not stoop to their level. It is not a bad thing to be a good person among bad people, and maybe you will rub off on the, a little. Just smile and laugh and help them as much as you can. Don't let them take advantage of you though, keep your dignity.

Answer 6

Are you the boss? Sometimes being their friend can be more harmful than helpful. Although I am a bit confused by your question..

I have found that when a boss tries to be your friend, and then tries to also be your boss, the workers get confused. Offer your help, but do not do their job for them.

Answer 7

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 8

Never help your seniors in your company because no matter who generous they and also not the one who are at the same level as you because these people try to exploit you and try to find out your weaknesses.

Answer 9

Do your own work and let others do theirs. Don't offer to help, just do your job. Be polite but distant. They don't respect you and it's probably because you try to be too friendly. Good luck.

Answer 10

Grow some balls and kick them out of your office or work area. They aren't your friends, so why are you helping them. Worry about yourself. Do your work and go home!!