So like I visited my Grandmother this weekend and she's 81 years old and nice. But she always, ALWAYS, is clearing her blessid throat. Like every 10 seconds she'll go "eh emmm...eh emmm..." over and over, every where she goes she's "eh emmm...eh emmm." When Im watching TV, I can hear her clearing her throat upstairs and it really started to piss me off! So finally I confronted her about it. We were eating dinner she had made, and I said "This is great turkey Grandma", and she said "Thanks dear...eh emmm...." And that did it. I said, in quote, "Could you please stop doing that?! It's ******* annoying!" She took offense to how I spoke to her and told me I was rude. I couldn't help it. She isnt sick or anything- shes been clearing her throat like that for years. It just irks me when she does it- and she should get it treated. I just couldnt stand it anymore and had to let her know. Can someone tell me how I can get her to stop clearing her throat all the damnn time?
2006-08-31 19:29:58 · 12 answers · asked by Melissa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Geez, she's 81, give her a break...she probably can't help it, and she probably would prefer not to do it. Not everything that gets treated can go away, especially when your body is breaking down as it is in her age. You may find it annoying, but she won't be around much longer and you will have the rest of your life to not hear it. I'm sure you did hurt her feelings, when you get that age and you don't have much going for you, things like that can really hurt. Try to think of it as endearing as opposed to annoying, b/c believe it or not, you will miss it and her when she is gone.
2006-08-31 19:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by ♥austingirl♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Grandmother's 81 years old and nice.
2. Grandmother deserves respect.
3. Grandmother's been clearing her throat for years.
4. Her throat clearing bothers you when you're watching TV or eating dinner (that she made for you).
5. After grandmother cleared her throat at the table, you asked her to stop and even said "please." Then, you cursed at her--your 81 year old, nice grandmother, who cooks great turkey for you, and who also has a habit of clearing her throat.
Why did you do that to her? Why? Poor grandmother.
So, she may have allergies or she may have the habit of frequently clearing her throat. So what! I think most people have a few bad habits. Maybe you can live through it more readily knowing that it's part of who your grandmother is. She's not doing it to try to bother or aggravate you. Or maybe you should try getting her a humidifier? Perhaps her air is too dry?
Just lighten up in future please.
2006-08-31 20:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be a nervous habit or she may have a problem with phelgm in her throat and she is clearing it - she could also have allergies.. don't yell at poor grandma... :o(
Try to get her some throat lozenges - like Ludens Cherry ones or something that tastes good and if she is busy sucking those, she shouldn't really clear her throat cause they will help coat them. My dad does the sammmme thing and he really did it the most after he quit smoking but not so bad anymore. He chews gum now all of the time and doesn't do it.
2006-08-31 19:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how old you are but at 47 I can tell you in your travels you'll find chicks like her once in a while ( usually Red Heads) They get off on the ability to push your buttons and in some sick way believe your reaction somehow reflects their importance. Most who know " The Psycho Chick" already have devalued her credibility and that's about the best you can hope for. My suggestion is that you never under any circumstances speak with her again ( if for some reason you do, lie about everything you say to her) and one person at a time explain that she was a button pusher who got the better of you. She has , in fact , taught you a valuable lesson, that is that if( or when ) you ever meet up with another chick like her ( a button pusher) run ! don't walk, run away fast. There are others like her out there. Edit : As a public service you should attempt to warn anyone who is considering dating her. In my experience it won't stop anyone , but it may help them see what's happening sooner than they would have otherwise.
2016-03-17 05:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother used to berp all the time. She is no longer living. But the reason was because she had acid reflux. Your grandmother may have it also. It feels like something is always in your throat. Tell her to get some Zantac 75. I have acid reflux myself. I was really sick a couple of times because of it. The doctor prescribed Prilosec. Then the second time Prevacid. Take your grandmother to a Gastroenterologist and find out what's going on.
2006-08-31 19:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an extreme biotch first, and your grandmother is like 81 so chill out....when she isn't around anymore you are going to miss her clearing your throat. What is annoying now, will be a fond memory in the future mark my words on that
2006-08-31 19:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off the poster. You all think you're high and mighty, but you're guilty of not seeing all sides as well. The poster could have misophonia, a recognized (but still obscure) neurological condition. She could try hypnotherapy, CBT, or DBT therapy. Meds may also help. New studies have also found a link between bi polar disorder and sensitive hearing. Calling her a ***** does not help her; she's suffering as well. I've dealt with this condition for 20+ yrs, sought many solutions. It's been hell. My family mocking me doesn't help either.
2017-01-13 21:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Swearing at her isn't going to do it. She may actually have something in her throat to clear. It could be caused by mild allergies or post nasal drip. Maybe politely asking her why she does it and offering assistance to help her stop doing it would be a better idea. Maybe you just need to deal with it. In either case, I suggest you begin with an apology.
2006-08-31 19:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to get an older person to stop a habit is like trying to bend (change) a gigantic oak tree... it would be easier to change your irritation about it, than to change her habit.
If you tried to bend that oak tree (make it go in a different direction), it wouldn't work... you'd have to cut it down... then it would be dead.
Mother wouldn't wear poli-grip on her dentures... they clacked every time she chewed... used to drive us crazy.
She went into a coma & died a few years ago... no more clacking... but no more mother either.
2006-08-31 19:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope when your 81 years of age - you don't have the same condition, with any luck, it could be hereditary.
2006-08-31 19:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋