well, ive been with my girlfriend for about 4 months now, and everything is fine but my ex-girlfriend has been trying to talk to me again, and i know she wants to just break me and my girlfrined up, well, recently she asked me if i wanted to be friends with her, i of course said no, and now, just 2day, she went up to my girlfriend and started calling her all these names and crap, my girlfrind duznt want any problems so she didnt say anything, she just ignored it, but it really got to her, now, im not the kind of guy that hits a girl but GOD!!! i wanna KIK my ex's *** SO BAD! why did she have to be such a ***** and do this crap, so since i know she did this kuz i rejected her friendship offer, im thinking meeting her up sumwhere, and talking to her like a reguler person would, then as nicely as i will let myself, i would ask her 2 please keep her fukken mouth shut, and let us live our life's and her to live her own, but im not sure what to do kuz i know my gf wouldnt like that.
2006-08-31 19:29:26 · 20 answers · asked by Beto G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girlfriend did the right thing. She let it go even though it got to her and I give her a major thumbs up! I know you want to do some really horrible things to your ex and/or confront her but you best action is just to let it go and not talk to your ex at all. By answering your phone, door, or emails when she tries to get to you, you are sending a message that it is ok for her to keep trying and it will just increase her attacks on your girlfriend and she doesn't deserve it. If your ex does get a chance to talk to you in some way just tell her I do not want to talk you, be friends, or anything else. I want you to leave me alone and walk away refusing to say another word to her ever again. She is showing stalking behavior and as long as she can get a rise out of you she will keep getting her jollies off by doing so.
It is very important to cut off every contact with her that you possibly can. Block her from emails and IM abilities. Don't answer the phone when she calls and always check to see who is at the door before answering. If you do answer the phone or door without checking and find it is her close the door or hang up immediately. It is important to make sure you give her the impression she is no longer wanted by you for her to stop this behavior.
Apologize to your gilfriend (I'm sure you already have) and tell her that you appreciate that she is still willing to stay with you under the circumstances. Your ex's behavior is not your fault but a lot of women would not want to deal with such behavior and would have left you for it even though we know its not your fault. Also let her know that you are cutting off all contact with her and will no longer speak a word to your ex even in a friendship capacity because of how disrespectful your ex had treated her. Be very understanding with her because she really doesn't deserve this but she is still willing to take it for you. That means alot. NO CONTACT! Just remember that and eventually she'll get tired of bothering you and if that doesn't work call and make a police report. Don't be shy becuase your a guy. If you were to hit her you would go to jail and that would give her further satisfaction. Don't give it to her.
2006-08-31 19:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Janet J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put yourself in a situation that you would regret later. What if someone saw you talking to your x and told your gf. Best thing to do is to get a protection order from the judge. This will keep your ex away from u and your gf, also your work and things. If you don't want to go the way of the law, then you and your gf go do the talking. Don't do anything behind her back, there is always the possibility she will find out. Also a relationship doesn't flourish with deception in the mix.
2006-08-31 19:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to meet her up somewhere. If the problem is she's showing up giving you and your girlfriend problems than just talk to her then or call her on the phone. Why get involved in her drama? Let her go. If you have to see her around just make it clear that you don't care about the crap she's giving you and do it in an unemotional way. It will take all the fun out of it for her.
2006-08-31 19:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will either get a chance to read her the riot act and tell her what is on your mind, or you will get rid of her. Every time you respond to her behavior, you encourage more of it. Your girl was right to ignore her. You must just ignore her. If she sees that you will come talk to her if she makes your girl uncomfortable, she will do it again and again.
Act like you don't see her, don't take her calls, ignore her. If you can manage a little laugh and a headshake if she approaches you (while you are walking away from her) in a public place, all the better. She wants the power over you to yank your chain. Don't give it to her - ignore her.
Peace!
2006-08-31 19:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as wise as your girlfriend is and ignore her entirely. Nothing drives the point home better than that. What she wants is reaction. Without it she is dead in the water. Also ignoring her eliminates the chance of either of you getting into a stupid, ugly argument with her thereby making you look bad by stooping to her level.
You and your gf should continue to enjoy each other and focus on having fun. Refuse to waste any of your time in your mind on your ex and be thankful that you have moved on. Eventually she will realize how stupid she looks and you will not have lost your dignity in the process.
2006-08-31 19:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 If you want to kill her don't meet her. It can't work out. she is going to try to piss you off and either you will do something you regret, maybe for the rest of your life, or you are just going to be more pissed off. There is no way that would ever come out good.
2 Talk to your girlfriend. Let her know she is trying to get you. Get her on your side. Make this a contest, the two of you against her. It will bring you closer together. This might be a good thing in the long run.
3 When someone is trying to piss me off, I start figuring out the best baseball lineup ever in my head...C Campenella, 1B Gehrig...etc. It looks like I am paying attention, but in reality I am doing something completely different. My mind stays calm and no one can get to me.
2006-08-31 19:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by swamphawk2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd be unhappy, yet you at the on the spot are not a baseball fan when you're forsaking your crew like that. besides, it is what I do. i'm a fan of the Brewers, 40 3 years, 3 submit season appearances. I %. out yet another club at present, that I figure will make the submit season. enable's say Yankees, Giants or Rangers. Now I keep a watch on that club through the season, and in the journey that they make the submit season, i am going to keep on with them. even with the undeniable fact that (and it is major). i do not take credit for being a fan of that club because this is blatant bandwagoning,
2016-12-06 02:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would't your current girlfriend like ypu to tell your ex off? If you really want to get back at her tell her she sucked in bed and she smelled weird in that special no-no place ha! Oh and by the way thanx for the two points but you could be cool and give me ten by clicking best response
2006-08-31 19:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by josh44629 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess the best thing to do is to inform your current girlfriend that you're going to meet your ex to talk to her about this matter. assure her that you love her and that you are just there to put an end to this crap. i once experienced this before. the ex of my boyfriend(who is now my husband) was bothering us since she got back from hongkong and been wanting to break us up. i know for a fact that she was still very much in love with my boyfriend (they were together for about 10 years coz she was his childhood sweetheart) and she wants him back. the more she tried the more our relationship got better and stronger. i won't answer her calls. i don't talk to her. though there where times that i really want to get back at her for making my life miserable (calling me names). my boyfriend talked to me as honestly as he can that he loves me and would want to spend his life with me and whatever was between them was over. he has moved on. I even suggested to my him to talk to his ex but there's no need for him to meet this girl. we just ignored her & then it stopped maybe because the harder she tried she just can't break us up. a few months after that i married my boyfriend and we never heard from her since then. i guess she has accepted defeat and let us be.
2006-08-31 20:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by willow marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First step maybe....tell this problem to your girlfriend. Then when you have explained it all.... ask her if she will allow you to talk to your ex.....or the two of you talk to your ex. Let the ex realize that the two of you have your own life now...and she should too...tell that girl to move on...and to grasp the concept that the two of you will never be together again...and your relationship between you and your gf will never stop...even she interfere...
2006-08-31 19:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by Angeline_Love16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋