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He is gay and has kissed other guys i have seen him
My husband has tried to stab him and tried to stop him breathing.

I still love my husband and my child.
Who do i pick?

2006-08-31 19:23:34 · 21 answers · asked by Selly-Silly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Parenting

21 answers

You should pick your son at the moment because its his life that is in danger. If your husband is stubborn and does not want to understand him then it is best to keep them seperated. You can still love and be with your husband but it seems that he is a violent man and soon he will try to hurt you too. It seems that at the moment your son needs you more than your husband.

2006-08-31 19:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 1

I realize that you still love your husband, but you are a mother. Your son's welfare is at stake here. Regardless of his sexuality, he is your son and his needs come first. NEVER, I repeat, NEVER put anyone before your child!!! If your husband has tried to kill your son, get your husband the help that he obviously needs, and get away from him! As a mother, you do not love your child based on what he chooses to do with his life. There is this thing called UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, this is what your son deserves. If you find yourself wondering whether you should be on your husbands side at all...maybe your son should be with a family that will give him the love that he deserves and puts his needs before any others. He comes first in your life, this should not be a choice. Do what is best for your son, put him in a healthy and stable environment where he can be who he is without threat to his life. It doesn't matter if the life he chose is right or not, and it doesn't matter how you view his choices. He is the one that deserves all that life can give him. He deserves way more than to be in an environment like the one that he is in now. Report your husband immediately and love your child the way that you should without anything coming between you two. I will pray for the safety and happiness of your son.

2006-08-31 19:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by momoftwo 3 · 1 0

Mu son is gay My husband hates him and has tried 2 kill him I still love my husband what do i do?

2014-12-14 22:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

When I see a question that looks like an obvious lie, I always go and check the persons previous questions before investing any time or emotion.

Here's YOUR last question
I have abused a child, Should i have 1 of my own?
Asked by Selly-Silly - 13 answers - Other - Pregnancy & Parenting - 5 days ago -

You should ask yourself why you feel a need to lie anonymously on a help board. It might be time for you to turn to a psychiatrist or counsellor for help. Let your mom and dad know that you're looking for attention and they'll take you to get some help.

I wish Yahoo would open a category for attention seekers so the Parenting category wouldn't have to be cluttered with this type of nonsense. It's a shame to see good, helpful people spend their time and energy helping childish trolls.

2006-09-01 06:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 6 0

You need to protect your child and get your husband a counselor and maybe some medication. Was the police called when he attacked your son? That isn't right and your husband needs to find a way to deal with it. Keep your son safe as you gave him life and you just chose your husband. A mother and son bond shouldn't be broken.

2006-08-31 20:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by aleynam 3 · 1 0

Here is the hard and honest truth. Your son is your blood, he has a part of you in him. Your husband is really just someone who you have no direct relation to. If I were you, I would choose my son....there is always the chance that he could change his sexual orientation, if it is an issue with you. Trying to kill your own child, is NO EXCUSE whatsoever. That just proves to me that he never loved his son, because if he did, he wouldn't be trying to kill him. "Love knows no wrongs" Read 2 Corinthains 13...if you are religious. Good luck, I know this isn't an easy decision, and it is easier said than done....you can have one son....you can always have more husbands:)

2006-08-31 19:31:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

I am sorry that your situation has come down to this. But if you ask me it is a no brain-er. You should definitely stand by your son. Let's face it our children will do things that we may not approve of but it doesn't mean that we love them any less. We have all done things that our parents have not approved of and our parents have done things that their parents have not approved of and so on. You should support your son, seek counseling for your husband and if he refuses to find a way to deal with this, than I would cut all ties to your husband as sad as that would sound.

2006-08-31 19:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Ricky W 2 · 0 0

Your job as a mother is to protect your son from harm above all else! Whether you agree with his choices in life that is still your job! Your hubby takes second place when it comes to your children reguardless if he is the biological father or not. The fact that you would allow your son to suffer at the hands of your husband without intervention turns my stomach and speaks volumes about you!

2006-09-01 00:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by confused by court order 4 · 1 0

First of all your child is your child NO MATTER WHAT....your husband should be ashamed of himself to even think this way about his child .. And you as a mother there should be NO question here .. That is your child ...the fact that you are even questioning who to side with is horrible .... you and your husband are horrible parents and you do not deserve to have your son in your lives .....

2006-08-31 19:38:34 · answer #9 · answered by princess2luv_u 3 · 2 0

You do have a factor, you like somebody to help advance your different babies. And your husband is incorrect to think of this is a ailment. you love your son, i comprehend that, you're a being concerned woman, a guy or woman of great coronary heart. yet your husband is chilly and unforgiving. He could desire to think of this is a "ailment" using fact evidently human beings desire somebody to place down. Like evidently human beings placed down jews, blacks, etc. He needs that skill, and he chosen the LGBT. it is not suited, yet he chosen those human beings, consistent with danger there's a deeper reason he believes this is a ailment. yet you're able to hurry, using fact babies with such concern of their hearts like what your husband instilled in him, could force him to commit suicide. A sacrifice your son could be prepared to make to alter his dad's tactics. yet it is worse accessible difficulty. he's your son, your husband has no suitable to try this, it is against human rights, regardless of the reality that, he does that skill to throw somebody out using fact the abode belongs to the two you. If a courtroom case comes up, it's going to be double-edged. consistent with danger you're able to desire to step into the hoop and teach your husband what love fairly is. while you're prepared to combat on your son, then attempt. Your husband seems intimidating, yet you be responsive to him greater clever than every physique, p.c.. at his weaker spots.

2016-10-01 04:07:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

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