What things keep you from commiting suicide, if you have ever contemplated it?

Question

For me it is not what life I have ahead of me, but just the question of whether or not I would go to hell for it. That and the thought of my mother and father's pain that I would have caused. If you have ever contemplated it, what are 2 things that give you the reason to live?

Answer 1

i had considered it once in my life when everything was going badly (job, marriage) and the fact that my parent wouldve been devistated kept me from doing it. no matter how selfish i might get at times, i will never purposefully cause my parents pain to ease my own

Answer 2

Well, perhaps you should call 1-800-suicide

Anyway...

I have been suicidal. I also have a scar on my left wrist. That's from when I was 14. Now I'm 24. I'll be damned, my problems today hurt a hell of a lot more and life sucks a hell of a lot more than they did then. I'm glad I lived to know. Seriously though, in that time I've learned how to better cope.

Life is hard, but you get through it.

If you are religious, which you seem to be, offer you pain and suffering up to Jesus in honor of what he suffered here on Earth. Take a look at a crucifix. Know that Jesus suffered for you. Think of it as a blessing to share in the same thing the Lord shared. Sounds crazy, but it helps.

Pain is part of life. Don't be afraid of it. Face it. Embrace your pain. Eventually it will go away.

Figure out what you can do right now to make things better. Also know that, things can never get better if you're not alive to let them be better. They DEFINITELY wont get better if you're dead. You have a long life ahead of you.

in any case, don't do it. It's not worth it. It can always be worse.

Answer 3

I used to be seriously depressed for over 27 years of my life. Yes, I thought about suicide often. At one point in my life I started to get into metaphysics, meditation, and spirituality. For the first time in my life I started to look at things in positive light. I used to think everything was the same shi t different day. Now I see the nuance in every moment. No two moments are the same though they are all connected to each other.

When I was younger and thought about suicide it was mostly fear that keep me from going through with it. Fear of the pain the process it would cause, fear of not finishing the job and mutilating myself, and fear of the unknown we the big three reasons. To go from what I thought was something to what I thought was nothings was scarier than just about any other concept I had learned at the time.

As I grew older and I became more spiritual I became more increasingly aware that even if I did happen to kill myself I would have to relearn my lesson all over again and probably in a karmically more painful way. Remembering the pain and not wanting to have to re-experience it is a powerful motivator.

Now, though my life is not perfect I have learned to be thankful for the things I do have, not the things I don't. I have family, friends, some money, shelter, food, have traveled all over the world, and a really cool husky, etc. Appreciation is one of the greatest keys to happiness.

But over all I am more aware that there is a higher purpose in life and I can see synchronicity on everything. I am curious about the new chapters that will be up and coming.

I know that not every moment will be a joy but the joyous ones will come, and when they do they will seem all that more brighter in contrast of the pain I did have.

It will take time to change your thought patterns. You may have created some pretty deep habits of thought. It is like drawing in the sand. Every time you draw a line it goes deeper. Just imagine years of this.

I recommend positive affirmations like, it is going to be alright, things can and will change, or anything pertinent to your situation. I also highly recommend practicing the art of being in the present moment. I would read the book called the Power of Now by Echart Tolle. This is a Great book that just about saved my life.

I could go on for quite a bit but it is getting quite late. You are more than welcome to write me as much as you need. I know exactly how it feels and trust me it does get better. Sometimes sleeping it off helps as it gives you time to reset making things seem different in the morning. If you seek healing as you have already indicated by taking the first step by reaching out, I believe you will find it. There are many good people out there. If you have faith it will get better there is an extremely high likelihood it will do so. But if you do not think it will then there is no chance at all. Have faith and I promise you will find not only relief but joy.

I’ll send some healing energy your way. See if you can catch the wave. : )

Answer 4

I almost succeeded many years ago. When I no longer could find reasons, I had friends who stepped in and they had reasons for me to live. They kept me alive. They took turns staying with me, and when I overdosed, they got me to the hospital and called my family. Looking back on it now, I'm so thankful that I did not die. I have had pain in my life, but the pain compared to the wonderful things that have occurred is minuscule. I have four beautiful children that have given me so much joy. I have the love of many friends. I have music. I have my extended family.

I have seen the devastation that suicide leaves loved ones. The family and friends of a person who has committed suicide are stuck with so much guilt. If I were to think about it now, that would keep me from doing it.

Answer 5

I didn't want to survive and attempt. I've seen the condition some people live in after an attempted suicide. Comma for years, liver damage, disfigured, scars...

I hope that you are in therapy and have seen a psychiatrist. I didn't think that medication would make a difference in how I felt, but surprizingly it does.

One thing you can do that might help to change your thought process is to replace "bad" thoughts with "good" ones. What I mean by "bad" thoughts are "I hate myself", "life sucks", or "bad things always happen to me". Some "good" thoughts you could replace those with are "I am a good person", "I love my parents", or a happy memory. Everytime you notice a "bad" thought, just let it go and think of a "good" thought. After a while, you will notice less of the "bad thoughts and more of the "good" thoughts occuring without effort.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I come from a pretty crap background... I actually put a gun to my temple once and very nearly pulled the trigger... (my step dad did not really hide the key to the safe...) I was too scared of what would happen after I pulled that trigger at that stage... Now, years later, I have been here, there and everywhere and the fact is that millions of people actually have it SO much worse than you... even at your most desperate of times. There was one guy in Ghana that walked on his hands and knees because Polio had completely destroyed the lower part of his legs... and you know what I drove by him every day and EVERY day that man had the biggest smile on his face. It made me ashamed of the problems I sometimes blow up to be huge, when I have got absolutely nothing to complain or be "down in the dumps" about. Moral of the story: If life is sh!tty for you, it is always worse for somebody else...

Answer 7

Never contemplated it!!But I would guess my family and friends would my primary reason for not doing such a thing[and the pain I would cause them]and another would be that I dont think anything would be worth losing my life over...you only get the chance of life once....sure it has its downs,but it has those ups too that are sooooo great...I wouldnt want to miss those!!

Answer 8

I have attempted suicide, and it was an even harder thing to deal with than the actual attempt. I saw how much it hurt my friends and family and that in itself will stop me from ever doing it again. Sitting there in the hospital talking to a dr about what was going on in my life and all this bull was stupid and made me see how much time I wasted being selfish, when you only get one August 31, 2006 and Sept. 1, 2006 and so on and made me realize how I should be grateful for every single day.

Answer 9

The pain I would cause, and the opportunities I would thereby lose. Also, my pets... I don't know how they would get on without me. Usually, that's what pulled me back.

I am glad that I didn't- I had a long period where i seriously contemplated it every day. iwasn't afraid of going to hell, or that there was nothing afterwards, but that I would lose so much of what I have- I'm not ready to abandon the material world completely yet.

Answer 10

I have never thought of it But just sitting here thinking of the question I would have to say. The first thing would be my children why would I inflicked my pain on them to have them wondered. What did I do. and forever have that haunt them. But I would also want to see them grow up and maybe see them get married, or go to college, of to become whatever is going to make them happy after all I was there in the begining so why would I not want to be there when they grew up .I would also hope that I would realize I needed help, and there are many support groups out there to help me. I would pray for guidance and maybe go see the parish priest..

Answer 11

I've never attempted suicide, but one day I had an idea that if you die, what do you care? people who are still living will feel pain and stuff, but you wont. You'll be dead. There is nothing to feel. If you believe in a heaven and hell then that sort of ruins it because you'd think your going to hell, but I think thats why people commit suicide. They realize that but aren't strong enough to keep going.