I suck at attention for my girl .. Always find I cutting her short on conversation just to avoid listening HELP ME HELP NOT TO DO THIS!!!
2006-08-31 19:04:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's going to start talking to someone else if she can't come to you. Think about how scary that could be. You wouldn't cut off your boss or your own parent or friend, why do you do this with your daughter? Take it conversation by convesation and really listen to her, even if it's difficult. Think calmly and respond.
2006-08-31 19:09:36 · answer #1 · answered by 30somethingfemale 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your parenting style comes from what you received as a child, so it really isn't your fault, though it is your responsibility to change it by healing all that you went through as a child.
Notice and wonder what did YOU want as a child of 8 from your parents, and give your daughter just that. Love, affection and mostly just your presence.
Your parents loved you the best they could, and so are you. But now that you want to do better, there are a million way, your intent and realisation is the most important thing in changing your parenting style, congratulations!
Try www.geniekids.com, a wonderful site about parenting tips and guidance in remedial parenting.
2006-09-01 02:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. If you feel like she is not getting enough attention it must be because your focus is elsewhere. Work on becoming a good role model for her. This would include making time for her but also learning how to budget your time and attention. If you are depressed and find yourself getting lost in mindless distractions like surfing the internet, you might need to make some changes.
2006-09-01 02:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sketch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go do things with her - something that interests you both and talk about it. That will help open up lines of communication between the two of you.
Above all, you have to change the way you think when you are with her and LISTEN. Clear up time to be with her and not have to think about your other children/work/spouse/errands. . .you get the picture. You need to concentrate on her. Develop an activity that you both can do - arts and crafts, going to the movies, parks, mall, putt-putt golf, horseback riding. . .something you both can enjoy. Get active with her. Go ride bikes together, walk, hike, play soccer, basketball, football, ice skate, roller blade. . .something! She needs you. You are the most important person in the world to her, and if you don't have that relationship now, her teenage years can be pure he!! .
Good Luck
2006-09-01 02:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by wotana02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretend someone is watching you, listening to you, treat her the way you would like to be seen treating her .
(Why can we respect strangers over our own children? We take them for granted.)
This is not shallow this is a suggestion and a good excercise .
Pretend she is someone elses child. How would your patience be?
These excercises shed a different light and offer some insight. Practice ....you may eventually see her in a different way... Etc.
2006-09-01 02:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to listen to her.......you are pushing her away and she is going to need you...You need to be her freind and her mom...Listening to what she has to say will make it easier for her to come to you when she has problems..If you shut her up before she is finished then she will come to resent that and you will lose all contact with your daughter...I know she is only 8 but it won't be long and she will no longer be your little girl,,,So cherish the time with her and LISTEN TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING...
2006-09-01 03:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey if u r bz wif ur work take some time off take her out on an outing....pay more attention to her ....if u keep cutting her off soon enuff she mite be doing it to you!!
so lighten up a little its not tat hard to comunicate wif an 8 yr old gal...afterall she has a lot to learn....good luck ;)
2006-09-01 02:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try biting your tongue. That may help you to remember to wait until she is finished talking before you respond.
On a more serious note...have you thought about family therapy? It worked real well for my cousin and her mother.
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2006-09-01 02:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
very good thought.
2006-09-01 02:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋