Me and my bf have been going out for a while, but now the church that i go to is saying i shouldnt have a bf while im in highschool. I love him to death and we've had our ups and downs especially considering we go to different school's and he's not a Christian. Im tired of everyone giving me lectures on how i'm "falling away from the lord". Its annoying sometimes but then i do understand where they may be coming from, but still, they have no place in getting to our relationship and making things more complicated then it should be. What do i do? to i continue to date him...or do what the other people say?
2006-08-31 18:59:51 · 14 answers · asked by Lisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think God will never call it a sin if you love someone of different religion. No matter what they say....as long as you two love each other...overcome it and don't listen to them. What's wrong with falling in love? And why would the church stop you from being in love with him? Even though you are only a high school...still...you will decide on your own...you know already what's wrong and what's right....and it depends on the person on how they handle they studies,family and relationship. Keep on loving Him, as long as you're not hurting anyone...as long as it does not affect your studies and relationship with GOD... but to be honest...you are young....
2006-08-31 19:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Angeline_Love16 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him and have children and he's not a Christian, will your children be raised Christian? If you want them to be, will HE be able to teach, guide and support their religious growth? What will you do at Christmas when you're married? Go to church or stay home? In fact, if you do get married, will you get married in the church, or not because HE isn't Christian?
No one is making things more complicated: they are what they are. He's not Christian, he doesn't go to your school, and if you're not planning on getting married any time soon, why HAVE a boyfriend right now? What's the point?
Well, just imagine your life with him at Christmas, with your future children-- will be want to celebrate the same way? Or will it become a fight? And think about how you want to raise your children: with or without the church. Or, you and the kids going to church while he stays home? Or complains?
2006-08-31 19:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 04:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is no one can make your decisions for you, you have to make your own choices in life, just as long as its not life threatening to anyone or hurting anyone then why worry? You feel like you love this guy and if you leave him alone you will only look back on the situation and feel like you may have missed something and those people that you listened to in the past, you will begin to blame them when in all actuality you'll only have yourself to blame. You have to live and learn, so take whatever happens in this relationship right or wrong as a learning experience and keep going.
2006-08-31 19:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by msshelene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, all relationships have there ups and downs, what ppl at ur church are saying is only there opinion. It's annoying yes. Just consider it a test of ur relationship, and now that u know its a test , im sure ull pass. If things go south, at least you tried, and you wont be wondering "what if?"
2006-08-31 19:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is good luck just pray he is not a gang banger though because if he is you better take karate lessons and learn how to shoot a gun. But it's your choice of who you like so just do what your heart feels my ex lady did and she is really having a tough time but her new man hasn't done too much bad to her I mean he only hit her about 6 times and cheated on her a grip of times and called her the b word a grip of times but hey a lot of women like that today lol.
2006-08-31 19:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by southernbound 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Schedule an appointment with your pastor or youth leader and tell them how you feel. Talk to your parents too. Invite your boyfriend to visit your church to learn more about how you worship. Finally, talk to the Lord about it. Listen to the conviction he will give you in your heart and follow that. Advice is good. Learning what is best for you is better. If people try to force their advice on you, just tell them, "Thank you for your concern. I'm praying about it. Keep praying for me," and change the subject.
2006-08-31 19:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. What's most important is that you guys love each other. He is YOUR boyfriend, not the other people's! Unless they have serious advice against you dating him, like if he has any bad habits, mysterious background etc, you should just let your instincts tell you what to do.
If it's meant to be, time will tell. You don't need to care about what others say.
2006-08-31 19:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by vintageprincess72 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! Just because your a christian doesn't mean you can't date. It's up to you but, really you should tell them what you told us! I would not ever break up with my boyfriend for someone else. Only do things like that for yourself not someone else. Good Luck!
2006-08-31 19:17:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u have to care what ppl say. relationship is only two of u. juz let ur churchmates know that you are in the relationship does not mean you falling away from lord. tell them they are equally important in your heart.
dont know if what i say help..
2006-08-31 19:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by yeron ng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋