Well, today I found out my girlfriend wants to be "just friends" with me today, which is good, considering that she still likes me after all the weird things I have done.
Anyways, I think what I did wrong is I showed my weakness that I am not very self-confident anymore. I get worried and anxious when it comes to social situations and i freeze. Not always, though, but lately I have been nervous around her because I don't want to hurt her feelings by making her feel awkward because I'm around and asking awkward questions again.
So, today I asked her to the dance. Nobody asked her and I know nobody would because she is quiet and most people don't know her very well.SO, she said "maybe" and then she said "i might not even go to the dance"
That seems like a "no" to me, which is fine, because I think it would be weird with her being a "friend", i wouldn't hold her in my arms.OK, well, looks like I screwed up because I lost belief/confidence in myself. How do i get it back?
2006-08-31 18:59:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ahhh, the Kiss of Death.... She just wants to be "friends." Oh, well. Consider it a lesson learned, experience gained. You already seem to know what the problem is-a lack of self-confidence. You're thoughtful and considerate of her. That's really cool. Try doing something challenging that requires a healthy amount of aggression (appropriately displaced) such as competitive sports, or maybe weight lifting.
The best way to improve the way you handle yourself in social situations is to just attend more social situations. Get a good buddy to clue you in when you do or say something dorky or stupid and don't realize it when you are doing it.
It sounds to me though, that you are already somewhat self-aware. That says a lot about your intelligence and intuitiveness, both of which are very useful when dealing with girls and women. You'll be okay.
2006-08-31 19:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you still really like this girl. Dont worry so much ok! No matter what, things are going to be ok. Believe me, im still in high school, and i love to go to dances, even when my ex bf is there. Be sweet to her, dont over do it tho. You dont want to creep the girl out. Since she's quite and not many people know her, let her know this is her chance for more people to see how wonderful she really is. This way she can make more girl friends to hang out with and you can both have a good time dancing. Take a boost in confidence, get her excited and wanting to go to the dance. Its worth a shot! Hope you have fun!
2006-09-01 03:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did say "friend" right?
so try to remind yourself that who else have the privilege to heal another person heart, or to help them regain their confidence than the very one person they trust that they call "freind". And it seems like its not only the time but both of you are die-trying to be hard on each other; even Mother Nature do take some time-out Herself, so why don't you try to take some time with her alone together to have a conversation and who know that you might not only found a long lost "friend", you might as well find a way to "heal" yours and her confidence.
2006-09-01 02:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by marxice21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the reason you lost it in the first place... It sound like it was because of her.. if she would even feel akward around her friends or whatever when you were there because she was embarrassed then to hell with her! You don't need people like that in your life anyway. F*ck what people think. You're not living your life for them.
2006-09-01 02:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Misheee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath,relax,calm yourself...and inhale and exhale slowly for a few mins...allow ur mind to relax.Sometimes we have no control over other people in our lives,if your girlfriend just wants to be friends,at least be grateful for her honesty.If your a teenager this is a time of finding yourself,relationships are not meant to be steady at your age.just go with the flow and realize you will meet many many women in your future,and one will be with you for life.
2006-09-01 02:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seriously are screwed up bcoz u hav confused the question so much that it took me much more time to understand it
neways from what i understood i can just say that make her feel that u r not like all others, u care for her and she matters for u
just make her feel spl.take her for a date ,make her trust you and then i thnk she wud just b more comfortable wid u
i am sorry if i hav not answered correctly bcoz i hav understood ur ques
2006-09-01 02:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋