Am I strange for being picky about a guy's looks? I thought only men did that to women, but I am a woman who finds myself doing that to men. Don't get me wrong, personality, a great sense of humor, and brains matter just as well, but I find it hard to "settle" for anyone under my standards of physical attractiveness. Gosh, I know I sound shallow to everyone reading this, but I promise, I'm not; I'm very accepting of most everyone I meet.
So...I've been told for most of my life that I'm an attractive young woman. I'm not a narcissist that gazes in the mirror all day, but I do think I deserve a good looking man that matches closely, my same level of attractiveness. What I think is most bitchy about myself is that I actually sometimes feel a little insulted when someone tries to hook me up with someone that I don't find attractive. Is this wrong or normal? I know I'm picky, but I sometimes wonder why I can't find a mate without having to lower my standards.
2006-08-31 18:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by Crazywoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
looks change personalities dont
2006-08-31 18:38:32 · answer #1 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally, someone like me. April, I'm a guy, and I'm the same way you are. I'm also in your same position with dating. My last girlfriend was gorgeous physically, but our personalities weren't compatible in the end. So it really isn't all about looks. However,I couldn't just settle for a woman I wasn't physically attracted to. I guarantee if I got with a girl below my physical standards, I wouldn't be faithful and would run right over her. It's imperative that I be physically attracted to my woman.
I've had friends try hooking me up with chicks that were complete dogs. All I can do is be honest and say I want to be friends. While most will tell you it's what's on the inside that counts, the reality is that the outside is what you see first and foremost. You can't know what's on the inside, if the outside doesn't appeal to you enough to approach the person. Simple and true.
I'll admit I'm vain, my screen name isn't Texasvanity for nothing. However, I find myself attracted to women who are a little vain too. Nothing is more of a turn-off to me, than a woman with low self esteem.
As for you being shallow or a narcissist, there's nothing wrong with liking what looks back at you in the mirror.
I've been single for a minute now, because I don't want to just "settle" either. I know some people out there who turn a certain age, get desperate, and settle for what they're really not into. That's crazy to me.
2006-08-31 19:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by texasvanity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is somehow a bit wrong ur way of thinking dear. U cannot tell of some1 as not attractive infront of ur attractiveness. Maybe that person also finds u not as attractive as u find urself... Maybe u also ur not up to his standards in looks.... So try to be more positive about other guys looks bcoz beauty is not only the outer core but also the inner heart. U can b a super model with a dirty n black heart while a guy who u find not physically attractive has a more than beautiful heart n can make of u th happiest lady ever.
2006-08-31 18:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're very much normal. Since you're an attractive lady, you deserve the same specimen of physically gifted man. It would look awkward for you to be seen walking around with a guy who is your opposite in physical attributes. A warning though, my sister-in-law is very attractive but in her search for a good looking guy, she is still a single at 46 years old, never had any boyfriend in her entire life because she claims she couldn't find what she wants. Good luck.
2006-08-31 18:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by Big Daddyztik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even the most average looking person would go for someone more physically attractive than him/herself.
Its wrong but its normal.
At least you are honest enough to admit it.
2006-08-31 19:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Saffren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, it's normal. The first attraction is always physical. Alot of people just won't admit to it.
2006-08-31 18:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Denial...it ain't just a river in Egypt. Picky is not a strong enough word for what you are.
2006-08-31 18:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quality always requires more efforts and time... You need not worry keep your search on.. if you are in a hurry then some compromise will have to be done..
2006-08-31 18:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel likewise and i wonder about my motives for these thoughts too..... i think that if i groom and take care of myself.....i deserve someone who complies to these standards as well.....thus, an attractive person is usually required to meet them.......does that make sense?????
2006-08-31 18:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your rating on http://www.hotornot.com I'm a 9.2 ? Am i at your level? Wanna hang out?
2006-08-31 18:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by josh44629 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋