My boyfriend was with this girl from a few years, he had one little girl with her and then she became pregnant again right after he left contact with her....this beautiful boy was born today...but we arent even 100% sure than it is my boyfriends...he is just going to take the roll of dad from what i understand.his daughters mothers family are crazy...the dont want him to be happy at all every chance they get they start trouble and they wont let us see her 1/2 the time. they try to physically fight with us. It will be so hard on thses babies all i want to do is protect them. My feeling are very mixed but i really care about him and his daughter already and want to spend a long time with him..but question arise...what if i want children in the next 4 years? How could we afford to help with 2 and have one fulltime...and would he stay around of we did....he seems like it. But i dont know how to deal with these people and this situation...friendle help would be appreciated greatly! :)
2006-08-31 18:35:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It will be ALOT easier than you think! Trust me. Things will be okay, and if you are that good with children then you need to have your own too because there arent enough good moms out there now days....make the world alittle better :)
good luck & everything with the family will be okay. Time heals EVERYTHING
2006-08-31 18:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest he have a paternity test taken in case the boy isn't his, if the boy isn't his he isn't liable for support of the child and the mother will have to go after the bio father. As for the other two, if they are his then he is obligated as their father to support them. If he didn't marry their mother I very strongly doubt he will marry you either and will someday leave you with kids to raise and not partner to help. Is that what you want? He is already financially obligated to support his children from a previous relationship and they will always come first in the eyes of the court system...if you have children you will get whatever (if anything) is left over financially, in otherwords your children will get very little. Is this how you want to bring children into the world? I suggest you cut ties with this guy before you become another of his 'baby mammas' and find a guy who comes with no strings...
2006-09-05 10:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has doubt then he should seek a paternity test. But whenever you are involved with a man who has kids, its a package deal. On the other hand you have every right to have to your own children. Its a very difficult situation.... my advice is if you really love this man then stick with him and when the time is right go ahead and have children... you may not be rich, but love is more important than money.
2006-08-31 18:43:54 · answer #3 · answered by kitty.hicks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to assume the boy is his, you should do the same. Treat them as you would your own kid, give the x and her family no reason to dislike you (they may no matter what you do) When it comes time to have your own child do what YOU need to do to take care of him 1st, but your BF/Husband will always have a responsibility to them as well, and if you love him enough then you will find a way to afford all of them. He really should get a visitation order established.
2006-08-31 18:42:37 · answer #4 · answered by madpassion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with it! If you feel it's truly love thn theres nothing you both can't handle together. Im sort of in the same situation. Met girl online X) fell in love after 4 months. actually movin in with her tomorrow, and shes 6 hrs away. She has to pay child support for one and other is almost grown livin with her parents( God bless them). But our incomes will allow us to pay bills, child support, and raise a child (which we're workin on XP ) And we both have simple jobs. Her ex is tryin to find any way to stop us and keeps pullin dumb thit tht just makes him look like a fool...ok T.M.I., just sayin love will come thru and conquer all if it's true. But talk with em, gotta communicate, holding nothing back! Good Luck to you =)
2006-08-31 18:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by da1U<32haT3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find somebody else to be with. Chances are he'll turn you into a whore like he did with the last woman.
2006-08-31 20:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋