I am moving into a very small apartment with my boyfriend next week. Any tips on how to keep the relationship good and not get on each other's nerves in such small living quarters? My friends think I'm crazy and that it will ruin our relationship, and I don't want them to be right.
2006-08-31 18:05:33 · 12 answers · asked by brookie5303 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to move in with him, I am going to UCSB and I would be homeless if I didnt move in... Dorms are out of the question and I cant afford to live on my own
2006-08-31 18:10:47 · update #1
Okay, first I want to say: it's completely fine to move in together before marriage, but just remember both of you are young and not used to thing sort of thing.
Be understanding of each other and your spaces and responsbilities. Know for certain there will be conflict, just normal stuff that might get on each other's nerves. We all do things differently and those little things can rub others the wrong way.
I moved in with my ex a while ago and IMMEDIATELY there were problems, expect it. Make sure the communication is kept up, or you will regret it. Be understanding, make sure both of you are ready.
Just go that extra mile for each other, that's all I can say. If you work at it it doesn't need to ruin your relationship.
2006-08-31 18:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Karce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you get to bring in some of your favorite stuff? Like a chair, table, or whatever. I think if you have to stick all your stuff in storage and just live with his stuff, you will grow to resent him. But maybe you don't even have that issue. Give yourselves space. Like you go shopping or something with your friends so he can have the place to himself, and he does the same for you. It might be harder for him seeing it was his space first.
Is there a reason ya'll can't get a bigger place? That would be the ideal solution, but with rent as high as it is, who wants to have to pay more. Just try to stay in a good mood. You can usually sense when a man is feeling crowded. Besides it doesn't matter how big the place is if ya'll don't treat each other right. Be respectful of each other and enjoy each others company. I think that maybe you have a few nagging doubts in the back of your head though. Just be sure you are ready for this and everything else will take care of itself. Good luck.
2006-09-01 01:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Vicm0322 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been living with my boyfriend for a year now, all my friends that said it would ruin our relationship were wrong. We did argue more often, but we're still going strong. One of the most important things is to make sure you both get some amount of alone time.
2006-09-01 01:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people tell you things like that because its been seen to happen often all around...and since you are in the same situation maybe you will fall....but there are those who do survive through all this and live forever happy...just no one knows about them....keep your friends close to spend time with them....dont spend time with your bf all day because he will be there every morning...just have some "you" time and let him have "his" time just love each other to the very end^_^ Best wishes for the both of you!
2006-09-01 01:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Erik! i didnt think id use this! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you each have seperate things that you apart from eachother, so you allow eachother a little space. Just the basic things, clean up after yourself, help pay bills, stuff like that.
2006-09-01 01:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by BabyT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be sure to give each other space, time out. Still do your own thing without your boyfriend, live your own life, go hang out with your friends without him etc...
2006-09-01 01:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by idk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get married and to keep things good hang out with your girlfriends dont smother him or vice versa let yourself still be a challenge to him
2006-09-03 04:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by creativebeloved 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a good idea.
Find out if there is a girl needing a roomate.
2006-09-01 01:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by CHS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give eachother space. and respect eachothers space. dont go snooping around looking for his things. you may want to cook for him occasionally. and he should offer to take you out to dinner. thats how it works.
2006-09-01 01:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Hockey51319 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married first!
2006-09-01 01:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋